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Dear Larissa,
I am so sorry for your loss. You remind me of my niece and the bond we share and I can picture her in your shoes. I will pray for peace and strength for you and your family during this time.
Blessings,
MelindaDear Larissa,
I am so very sorry indeed to hear of the passing of your dear Aunt, please accept my sincere condolences. You are right in that she was such a strong person and was taken far too young. I too am glad that you were able to spend these last few days with her and make these memories and you will indeed cherish them forever. Please know that we are all here for you and my thoughts right now are with you and your family.
Hugs,
Gavin
At 51 years young….my aunt lost her life tonight. She fought hard for 2 1/2 years, but this disease took it’s toll on her body, but never her strength. She was one of the strongest women I knew. She was a beautiful woman inside and out. I am proud that I was able to call her my aunt for all of my life. I am also grateful that I was able to spend a couple of her last days with her and cherish those memories.
Bless you all. The strong ones going through this and the strong ones by their side. I hope that some day there be a cure for this cancer and no one will have to suffer.
I have done relay for life the past two years in my aunt’s honor. Every year from here on out…will be in her honor and in her memory.
You’ll always be my angel Aunt Pam
Dear Larissa,
I am sorry to hear about your Aunt. Having been there with my dad I so know what you are going through and feel your pain. Your aunt is such a strong person and you are right, no one deserves this at all. Please know that we are here for you and my thoughts are with you right now.
Hugs,
Gavin
Dear Larissa,
I am so sorry to hear about about your Aunt, it is heart breaking to be in your situation.I wish there was anything anyone can do to take your pain away.
My Mom was at lee memorial too, it hurts so much everytime i pass by this hospital. I try to avoid it as much as i can.Hugs,
Emad
Your Aunt sounds like such a wonderful woman. I am so glad you had such a beautiful visit and created these memories.
Hugs
LisaIpace……thank you for sharing your Aunt with us. What a wonderful lady she is! Something I read by a young man Stephen Schwartz rings so true to what you speak of:
I’ve heard it said that people come into our lives for a reason
Bringing something we must learn
And we are led to those who help us most to grow
If we let them and we help them in return.”Hugs and love,
MarionDearest Ipace, what a magnificent woman and human being your Aunt is, wish I had met her. She reminded me of Teddy in as much as he also accepted with dignity and wanted to say goodbye to his ONCs and thank them for his extended 5 years also a goodbye to his Barber! I mean what Sicilian doe not have a good Barber! You are such a special niece and wear your beautiful necklace from her with joy and good memories. I love loving someone to the moon and back as that is what my Granddaughter says to me. I am glad you had a visit you will always remember.
It has been awhile since I posted.
did not end up going down the Sunday after I posted. My mom asked me to stay home until my Aunt was able to go home and get settled in.
My aunt was doing better in hospice, but the doctors told her last Wednesday that she has 1-2 weeks. I immediately booked my flight to leave Thursday. I arrived in Florida on Thursday to see my aunt in good spirits. A tad skinny since she has not been able to consume food for over a month. She worked at Ft. Myers airport before she was diagnosed and wanted to say good-bye to some of her former co-workers. We spend 3 hour there Thursday, as she was feeling good and had enough energy. We went back to her house and just spent some time there with her. She gave me a Past, Present, and Future necklace in remembrance of her. Friday she wanted to go back to say her farewells to the other shift that she worked with at the airport. Friday morning she woke up, weak from all the energy that she had used Thursday.
Still feeling nauseous she went to the airport to say good-bye. She had wanted to get a pedicure one last time with all of us. However, when we left the airport on Friday she was still feeling sick. We then went to hospice to get another bag of her “anti-nausea” medicine that she is now hooked up to 24/7. She was just going to go home and not get her pedicure, but my mom convinced her to do this for herself one last time. My aunt always went to the same place to get pedicures…and they ladies knew of her cancer. I don’t know how they knew that my Aunt is getting down to her final days, but they bought her a dozen roses. (My aunt is an amazing woman).
We then went back to her house because she was not feeling well. Hospice nurse came in and increased her pain medication since she was in a great amount of pain (she cannot take morphine as she is allergic to it). About 2 hours after the hospice nurse left, my aunt got sick. It was very hard to see my aunt like that. My aunt was able to calm herself down and slept all night. Saturday was the hardest day as we had to leave this day. She cried off and on all day, which didn’t make it any easier. She didn’t have much energy on Saturday so she pretty much stayed in the hospital bed that Hospice had set up for her in her living room Her stomach inflates with air and hardens like a rock, then deflates itself. My theory is that the gas her body is producing is trying to pass through her intestines. And with the blockage, it has nowhere to go.
I love my aunt to the moon and back. She is such an amazing woman, who doesn’t deserve to go through this. NO ONE does. Since we left on Saturday she has gotten sick everyday and hospice has increased her pain meds. It’s hard to be so far away from her when she is going through this.
When my aunt’s time comes she is donating her body to science, so that they can find out more information about this cancer and understand it more. With tears in my eyes it hurts to say that it was the last time that I will see my Aunt alive. She is a strong woman and has fought this horrible thing hard. When she was diagnosed they gave her 6-9 months..and here she is 2 ½ years later. My heart and thought are with anyone that is going through this or the loved ones going through it with them. My aunt is getting weaker by the day. She has come to peace with this being her fate (even though it is not fair). She understands that she can no longer fight this but live every minute of her life as she can.
Thank you all for your love and support
I’m so so sorry. I lost my mom in 23 days to this disease and so we had to make decisions quickly. We had to call in hospice and also 24 hour caregivers within the last 10 days of her life. Hospice will keep her comfortable and allow the family to be her family and not her caregivers. It doesn’t necessarily mean the end is imminent; but her comfort will be their priority. If some treatment option or trial becomes available, you can always stop hospice. I’m sorry she’s having so much trouble eating….being sick while you are sick has to be awful.
You are wonderful for going to see her. It’s hard to watch, I know, but having her family around her will mean so much to her. Many hugs and prayers to you and your family.
Larissa,
I am so sorry for your pain. Hospice is a wonderful opportunity to keep your Aunt comfortable and able to share time with her family. I think it is so beautiful that you are going to visit her and support her decision. Praying for your family.
Hugs
LisaLarissa,
I am sorry to hear that things have gotten to this point with your aunt. I was there with my dad when he was where your aunt was as well and I know how tough things are for you. I’m glad to hear that you will be going to see your aunt and I know how much that will mean to her and to you as well. Calling in hospice right now I feel is the right thing to do as they will help keep your aunt as comfortable as possible and right now that is the most important thing for her. Hopefully they will be able to help with the sickness and perhaps you could ask them about a syringe driver for this. Tis worked very well for my dad when he was in hospice and I have nothing but good things to say about the care that he got when he was in hospice.
Please know that we are here for you as well and my thoughts are with you and your aunt at this tough time.
Hugs,
Gavin
Larissa, I’m sorry things have progressed so far. I’m glad you can make the trip to see your aunt.
The decision to keep fighting, do chemo, surgery, or call hospice and get some relief is a very personal one. One that is usually not decided on lightly. Only your aunt knows how she feels, really. My thoughts? Be there for her as much as you can. Make memories. Listen to her.and support her with any decisions she makes. It will be tough. But worth itLarissa –
I echo Lainy. I am so glad you are going to be able to go down and see her. Hospice is a good option especially if she is tired of being sick. They will give her and her entire family (including you) the support you need. I never see hospice as giving up but taking control of the disease. She had made the choice to be comfortable and that is the best we can all ask for.
Have a nice safe flight down there. I will keep you and your aunt and family in my thoughts and prayers.KrisV
Larissa I am so glad you are able to make the trip to see your Aunt. I am also glad she is calling in Hospice. Having Hospice there will give your family the quality time to be with her. Larissa I know this is hard on everyone but she is getting the chance to do it her way. I admire your Aunt for the hard work she has done in her life, she must be quite a woman. A woman of valor we can say. If you get a chance please let us know how she is doing while you are there and safe travels, Be Strong!
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