My Father Richard.
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hebrown696
I am so sorry for your loss.My father passed away when I was 4 years old and it was very hard for my mother.
She had 4 young children so even though its hard now you have all those memories.
My thoughts are with you and your family
SallyHebrown: Your post brought tears to my eyes. You are so young to have lost a parent. As others have stated, he would be so proud of you for finding this site and posting on it. Please come back often and let us know how you and your family are doing. You will find a lot of caring and compassionate people and we are all here for you, your mom, your brother. It may help them if you let them know about this site as well. They are all free to post as well.
I lost my father when I was about 22 years old and that was very hard for me. Although he and I often ‘butted heads’ when I was younger (age 15 – 17) he became one of my best friends just shortly before he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I am now almost age 60 (gosh- how did that happen?) and to this day I miss him and think of him often. My mother passed away about 16 years ago and I still miss her and think of her as well. It’s never easy to lose a parent, but we all have to go through it one day.
Stay strong, talk about your loss to others, even if it’s only on this site. One day your heart will heal and you will remember the good times you had with your father. You may want to think about creating a ‘memory book’ about your father for yourself and your family. If you know anything about scrapbooking, that is a great way to do a memory book. You can put pictures of him and your family into it and write down what the picture was about. This will also be a healing procedure for you to help deal with your loss.
Hugs and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
MargaretHebrown,
My condolences to you and your entire family. I can’t tell you how sorry I am. All I can say is, your father would be so very proud of you right now. A friend told me, “The hole in your heart will never go away, but one day it will get smaller.” Take care.Hebrown,
Just wanted to add my very sincere condolences to you, your mom and brother. Your dad fought a great fight. We never know but what his experiences will provide the needed experience for doctors, nurses and other caregivers enabling them to be better with their next group of CC patients. This experience will give you an amazing amount of strength that you will carry the rest of your life. Prayers are with you.
hebrown….my heart goes out to you and your family. My youngest was 18 years old when his Dad passed away from this disease and he, like you, missed out on so much. You had a wonderful Dad and he will continue to live through you and your brother. You make him proud. The only wonderful thing about this disease is that it has connected all of us in a very special way. . Please, know that we are here for you and for your entire family. We are in this together.
Most likely you already know that Hospice offers grievance counseling for adolescent also. Have you thought of reaching out to the organization?
All my love,
Marionhebrown696, you are such a sweet daughter. I am so sorry for your loss. I couldn’t imagine losing a parent at your young age. I was 23 losing my dad and it was tough then. You writing your thoughts down is a good start to helping you feel better. I’m glad you did, this way we can all honor your dad and also pray for you and your family.
Just remember all the things your dad would want for you…keep doing your best in school and make good choices. You know he only wants the best for you and for you and your brother to be happy.
We will all be thinking good thoughts for you and your family. Keep us posted if you ever need to talk. I have a 15 year old daughter and I know how important it is for you guys to be able to talk…please don’t hold your feelings in. Hugs to you and your family.
Dearest hebrown’s daughter and family, I am so very sorry about your Father and am sending Prayers to your family. What a beautiful post. The best I can tell you is that you will all gather strength from each other as that is what your Father would have wanted you to do.
Letter from Heaven by Ruth Ann Mahaffey
To my dearest family some things I’d like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived okay,
I’m writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there’s no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I’m out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said “I welcome you,
It’s good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they’ll be here later on.
God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
One thing is for certain though my life on earth is o’er
I’m closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
Together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you’re walking down the street and you’ve got me on your mind
I’m walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind
And when it’s time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you’re not going . . you’re just coming here to me.I’m not sure what to write, but I knew writing something would make me feel better. My father passed away just a few weeks ago due to this cancer and some other things. Even though I am so sad he’s not here, my family and I made so many wonderful memories over the three years since my dad was diagnosed. I am so happy I got to have so many great times with him, and I will always remember these memories. He was a great person who never gave up, I’m so proud of him and always will be that he stayed my family a little longer to have times for us to be together. My brother and I are trying our best to comfort our mom, and other family members. Me only being 14 and my brother 20 is alot of stress, Stress that we shouldn’t be worrying about at our age. But having to grow up so quickly, and have a unbelievably stong father and mother will help my brother, my family, and me get through this tough time. If you want to know more my mom has a account Dabrown696. I just wanted to right something to let people be aware and honor my dad.
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