Just Lost My Mom

I lost my mom to this horrible disease a week and a half ago. She started out turning yellow early December and was placed in hospital December 19th which was thought t be a blocked bile duct due to a gall stone. We were told after many tests and scans later n December 22nd that it was cholangiocarcinoma. January was a fairly decent month considering she only had a bladder infection and a cold. We watched movies, played cards and I took her for her first pedicure. She had been staying with us but my husband and I formally asked her to move in with us so she did. She was to weak and tired to do the stairs so I had a pretty good set up in my living room for her with doors separating her area from the rest of the house. She had all the comforts of a bedroom with a tv and sitting area. By the beginning of February she started showing signs that the stent that had been placed in her bile duct in December was blocked and collapsed. (The liver/pancreas specialist told me what to look for) She developed a fever of 103.5, had chills and was achy. We took her into hospital and it turned out to be cholangitis which can be fatal if not treated. I had also by this point had all of her medications she was on normally checked by the pharmacist because she could not take any medications excreted by the kidneys due to the cancer compromising the liver in the manner it had.
She stayed in hospital for about 4 days and came home for a day and a half. She had become even more weak, was on full time oxygen(it had been discovered she also had some emphysema in her lungs from her previous smoking years) and had a walker to get around. She couldn’t get out of bed herself and because of her age being 62 and not a technical “senior citizen” she wasn’t entitled to the nurse all day to help her. She was allowed four hours a week with a nurse coming in once a day to give her a bag of inter venous anti-biotics. she started vomiting everything up she ate so she went back into hospital a day and a half later. Every time she vomited she became even more weak. I had called telehealth(Nurse provincially by phone) and he recommended to bring her back in. My mom was there for a week, we ended up meeting her oncologist for the first time while she was there, and it was decided by him if her strength didn’t improve she would be forced to go into palliative care and not have any treatment.
She became weaker and stopped being able to get out of bed. Her breathing became a worse issue and it was discovered she had water in one of her lungs and the other was collapsed. The doctor came to talk to her about accepting her fate she had at this point) not taking extraordinary measures should her heart stop at any point and she agreed.
She was placed in Elizabeth Bruyere(palliative care hospital) and stayed there a week and a day until she passed. She had one amazing day and it went downhill after that. My sister and I were with her when she left and it was very peaceful. I am devastated and sad she is gone but happy she is not vomiting any more and having trouble breathing. I loved her very much.