Discussion Board Forums General Discussion Abuela (grandma) just diagnosed!

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  • #52551
    marions
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    senaida…your dear abuela still has thngs to covey forever to carry deep in your heart,
    What a beautiful and wonderous time you have been given.
    All my best wishes,
    Marion

    #52550
    senaida
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    So today is 1 day after the 1 week after the told us she would be here. We for sure had our high point and we have experienced having to see her so frustrated. Shes mad she cant walk, she can’t talk, remember, shes gets mad and I feel so bad for her. That was a couple days ago. The day before yesterday she told me she was ready to go. She began to say her goodbyes. she has told everyone bye a couple nights now. She said God gave her a glimpse of heaven and now she cannot wait to go. She no longer is frustrated. More than anything she is teaching me how to take care of the elderly “mija, pay attention so when your mom gets older you can take good care of her” she is still trying to teach me things. She still will make random jokes and has let us know “she is ready”……
    her body has become cold in certain areas and can sometime seem confused.
    I think mentally and emotionally she is ready her body is just taking its time shutting down……

    deep breathes

    senaida

    #52549
    mustangmort
    Participant

    If Abuela is ready and you are preparing to be ready, then the final moment becomes a very special, peaceful thing. I remember sitting at my mom’s side during her last day last February. She wanted to pass so much. How could I, as a son, refuse to see it her way? It became a very humbling and spiritual experience to see our mom finally get what she had wanted for quite a while. We were sad, to be sure, but joyful at the same time.

    God bless your family at this time, Senaida.

    #52548
    marions
    Moderator

    Senaida…….the final moments will be that of peace and serenty and love. Hold on to that.
    Hugs and love,
    Marion

    #52547
    lainy
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    Senaida, thank you for the update. Just like all she gave you in life she is going to go to her Peace that way as well. She must be quite a lady! My Mom was 94 and had dementia but was always the epitome of a lady and how she lived was how she left, the epitomy of a lady. Thinking of you!

    #52546
    senaida
    Member

    the days are getting closer and closer! I’m exhausted and drained and she coming to the point where she is ready to go. Her body is going through the process like a text book. hard to see but i believe shes ready and I’m preparing to see her in peace!
    thanks again !

    #52545
    marions
    Moderator

    Senaida….your abuela will always be that…your rock and inspiration. She has no pain and appears to be peaceful. So much to be thankful for.
    My heart is with you,
    Marion

    #52544
    lainy
    Participant

    Senaida, It seems that your Abuela is very comfortable and for that you are blessed. Just let her know you are there and that you love her. Not sure if you can do this but sometimes our most loved ones need permission to go home and we tell them “it’s ok to go home to your Peace, we will be okay”. It helps them to leave and in a weird way it gives us closure as well. Sending prayers for your family.

    #52543
    senaida
    Member

    As the days and nights so I can see the changes. Her eyes appear very glossy and it takes a lot to make her smile. She ‘s been my rock and my inspiration. SO hard to see her like this :(

    #52542
    senaida
    Member

    thank you all for your support and words!

    #52541
    marions
    Moderator

    senaida….I echo everything said by Lainy and Byron. You have shown enormous strengths and determination and you have made your grandma very proud.
    You are a shining example of a wonderful granddaughter and you have set an example for all others to follow.
    May your strengths continue for the days, weeks, and years to come.
    All my best wishes
    Marion

    #52540
    mustangmort
    Participant

    senaida,

    I, as well, wish to send my best to you and your abuela. Lainy is very very right. You seem to have and will have all the strength you need to take you through this journey. Encourage other cousins to spend some quality time as well. I am praying for you and your abuela…….cousins too.

    #52539
    lainy
    Participant

    Dear Senaida, I am very sorry to read your post and yes, you are strong and your mind will be kept busy taking care of the others. Somehow we get this extra strength and energy that sees us through. It is good that she is sleeping a lot as that shows she is comfortable. Talk to her anyway as she can hear you.
    She is very proud of you, I am sure, to take this terrible journey with her and at her side. You sound like a wonderful and loving family and I am sending you my heartfelt prayers.

    #52538
    senaida
    Member

    I haven’t been on here in a while. This has been a bumpy week.For those that have been following this past week has been really hard with my grandma (she was diagnosed with Bile Duct cancer August 2011), last night she had a noticeable turn for the worse. I have seen so many changes. She had 2 really good days then the days following were not so good. She has had swollen feet, loss of weight, not speaking at all, she had a fall, she has had fever and has been very secluded and sleepy. After speaking with the hospice nurse, they have given her about 1 week to live. I have had the opportunity to see her everyday for the last 3 months she has been in Austin. Im planning the best I can as the oldest granddaughter to be prepared to be there for the younger 13 grandchildren and 10 great grandchildren. I don’t expect this to be easy, but I’m a strong person. With the support of family, friends and co workers I know this time in my life will come and go. Only God knows her time, life is not date stamped and I can only base my plans on what may be expected.

    #52537
    lainy
    Participant

    Senaida, this is such a precious time and you are such an exceptional Granddaughter. I am so glad the pain is lifted and just spend the time loving each other as you are doing and when you look back one day you will remember the beauty that came through in adverse times and it will become a cherished memory.

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