Are we doing the right thing?????
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December 21, 2016 at 8:37 pm #93712jessroseSpectator
Thank you so much Lainy! Happy holidays!
December 21, 2016 at 8:35 pm #93711jessroseSpectatorI’m so glad I could give you some hope. I’m cautiously optimistic. I mean no offense to anyone who frequents message boards, but I tend to avoid them. Unfortunately I think people who aren’t having great results tend to post more and for me, that’s demoralizing. I know they help a lot of people though and there’s no right way to cope. Find what works best for you.
I posted this in another thread which gives kind of an overview of what my course has been, but it isn’t entirely applicable to this discussion. I won’t sugar coat it for you. It has been hell and I feel more sick now than I ever did from the cancer. I was asymptomatic when I was diagnosed and it was just found incidentally. My intrahepatic tumors were confined to my liver. I’m still here though and I try to be grateful for every day I’m on this side of the grass (my sense of humor is dark. It’s a coping mechanism). I don’t mention it below, but my first course of chemo was gemcitabine, irrinotecan, and panitumumab (which only helps people who have a KRAS wild type tumor).
“I haven’t had HIPEC, but I have had two resections and an HAI pump insertion. My first resection was at age 32 and they took my whole left lobe and the second was at age 33 after a recurrence and took wedges out of my right lobe and did RFA. After both surgeries, I was back at work after three weeks. I pushed WAY too hard though and I don’t recommend that course of action. Since you’re young like me and if you’re otherwise generally healthy, then hopefully the recovery won’t be terrible. My pain was well managed. My worst surgery was the third when I had an HAI pump inserted. The recovery does seem to be getting harder for me, but I know I am chock full of adhesions and scar tissue at this point, so they have to get through that mess before even doing the surgeries. None of my surgeries were laproscopic. I have a big chevron scar, which some younger doctors surgeons I have seen is from an older technique. I trust my surgeon though.
I had six months of neoadjuvant chemo and three months of adjuvant with the first surgery. Then I had my first recurrence and we went right to surgery. I was taking Xeloda when I had my second and we went right to the pump insertion. I had three months of HAI chemo as a part of a clinical trial at MSKCC, which was stopped because it did massive damage to my bile ducts. Luckily the tumor was gone by that point and (knock on wood) I haven’t had to have treatment for the cancer since February 2015. I’ll be dealing with the collateral damage from the HAI chemo (which is significant and a very long story) for the rest of my life.”
Let me know if I can answer anymore questions.
December 21, 2016 at 8:28 pm #93710lainySpectatorDear Jess, so happy to hear from you and even happier that you are doing so well. You bring so much hope to everyone here. You are so right that we have to trust our gut feeling and we learn in time that knowledge is the best tool we have for fighting this CC. The very best to you and yours!
December 21, 2016 at 6:42 pm #93709shelliecMemberThanks Jess for your thoughts I appreciate it. We will find our way somehow, were you able to have surgery or how are you now cancer free? What roads did you go down? That by the way is great news I love hearing stuff like that it give me hope! God bless you!
Shellie
December 21, 2016 at 6:12 pm #93708jessroseSpectatorHi Shellie,
I’m not a regular poster, but I have been traveling this road as a patient for the last four years (tumor free for a year and a half as of my last scan in September….Fingers crossed it stays that way). You’re not going to like my response and it was really hard for me and my family to accept, but there really is no way to KNOW if you’re doing the right thing. Some of the decisions we have made were good ones and some didn’t turn out as planned. All you can do is gather all the information you can through additional opinions, clinical research papers, and by questioning everything. Then you have to trust your instincts. Try to take some comfort in knowing that you are doing the very best you can with the information you have. Unfortunately there is no magic bullet (anyone who tells you different is lying or selling something), but good things can happen.
Happy holidays and my best to you both,
JessDecember 21, 2016 at 3:54 pm #12857shelliecMemberHI Everyone,
I don’t know if this happens to everyone in which I am sure you do also! BUT how how do I know we are making the right decisions with chemo?? Are there things out there we are missing?? Could I do more to save his life? I don’t want any regrets about this disease! Did I as his fiance give him a fighting chance? Did I go down every avenue to save his life? Can I save it? HOW do I know? Why can’t someone just say you know what Shellie you need to do this____________ or how about this___________WHY OH WHY can’t this be done? Chemo has not shrank the tumor but it also hasn’t grown, but the side effects along with his blood count is up and down I am at a loss. This is when I wonder what is the chemo doing? Prolonging? HATE IT!!! Ok rant over thanks friends I hope you all have a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS! Next year will be our year to win this battle! I AM NOT DONE!HUGS
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