Great post and such wise words…In my last emails to Lainy, which she will read when she finds it I wrote to her:
‘My boss told us to try to stand in front of a mirror and say ‘I’m happy’ first. and to continue doing so during the day, then later we should add why we are happy saying ‘I’m happy because…’ the first reason for me to say I’m happy is because I had the greatest dad on earth. He relocated, we’ll meet again one day, I’m happy because I have a wonderful son, sister, mum, friends, penfriends, becaause I can travel, read, enjoy the morning rain, because kids are on holiday and so are we, because I have a funny cat, because the world is so colourful and that I’ve had srong experiences that made me know what’s death, loss, real heartbreak are. Because I can listen to those violins playing without crying already even if they played for my dearest dead dad.
I AM happy”
Yes, we must say we are happy even if we lost our dearest people to this horrible illness. This thought keeps me moving. A month ago I lost my dad. Life will never be the same but I must stay happy, he would wish for that most.
Mary, that is so true and beautiful as well. It also describes you! I am just so happy and proud of you as I can say now I never thought I would see you come so far and I say this for those who think life can not go on. No one can put a time limit on grief, but when we are ready to resume life somehow we just know it or perhaps its our angels pushing us in the right direction!
A friend posted this on FB and I wanted to share it with everyone. This is my favorite verse I have ever read since losing my Tom. It expresses so eloquently exactly how things were for me and I’m sure many of you…..
We never really get over devastating loss. In the thick of it, we almost stop breathing ; sometimes even wishing we could. And deep down within we know we will never be the same. Yet, one day we feel the sun on our face again. We find ourselves smiling at a child or a joke or a memory. And at that moment we realize we are finding our way back.Changed forever? Yes. But softer, deeper, more vulnerable and more loving. And we are breathing again.
I forgot the third line so I just added it. It’s a very important one…deep down within we know we will never be the same…