Brother diagnosed 2 months ago
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Oceangirl, please do not apologize for a thing, what you did was write the truth about a sudden and terrible loss. We are an open form and that is what has made us what we are. To me it is just as devastating to read about a loved one who has passed as it is for someone to read the posted words, “you have CC”. As new members get used to us and read some past posts they will see we are a place of HOPE and MIRACLES and yes, even a lot of laughs. We all come here to feel we are not alone and this is sure the place to feel that.
I read LisaS post about her brother and if you girls are getting visits I invite you to contribute to the book we are writing about the beyond. I just posted about it again yesterday. I started a log of Teddy winks when he passed and in almost 3 years I have had 92 visits. When I feel lonely I read the log and then can feel him all around me. This may sound silly but I keep a bottle of Teddy’s favorite cologne and once in a while give a spritz around the house! He always smelled so good.
Back to you Oceangirl, grief is such a personal thing and if it helps you to write to us, we are here to listen. If it would make you feel more comfortable about it you can always label the post with “Sensitive” then the reader has a choice. We have posted that idea a few times but have not posted it in a while. SO you see, this is all ending up a good thing.Thank you Lisa for your very comforting words. They really touched my heart. I am always amazed at how warm and loving virtual strangers can be in the face of tragedy. I read on this forum that some people were depressed and upset to read my posts of my brothers quick passing. I am so sorry for this, I never intended to hurt anyone by sharing my experience, and my brother would never have wanted that either. I even hesitated to post anything but the support here is so strong and so needed for all living with this disease. My brothers case was very different from most I believe. There are many wonderful stories of hope and survival on this forum and much useful information on how best to fight it. Do not give up. A positive attitude and seeking out all the information and doctors who are familiar with this diagnosis is very important. I for one will do all I can, in my brothers memory and honor, to raise awareness and funds for research and a cure for this type of cancer. God bless all of you in your fight and remember you are never alone in it.
oceangirl wrote:My brother passed away last night at the hospital. He didn’t make it to hospice. We are still in shock. It all happened so fast. I feel his presence and I know he is ok now and no longer suffering, but we are so sad and miss him so much. I have no words to describe it.I’m really sorry. I lost my beloved brother, 48, 2 years ago. It was very unexpected – we didn’t know he was ill (not CC). I am glad you feel his presence. There were things that came to me after he died that I knew were messages from him that he was okay. Long story, but I’m always happy to talk about it. Wear something of his. I did. I wore a favorite shirt, a favorite fleece and now his watch. I’m typing on his old MacBookPro, which may outlast me. The best advice anyone gave me is that grief is a process, not an event. that is true. There’s no closure. Life is just … different. But, he will be with you, every day, from here on.
Peace to you,
Lisa
I am so very sorry your brother has passed. I know what a shock it is to lose someone you love. My prayers are with you and the family.
Love,
-PamThank you all for your condolences and kind words. My family is having a very difficult time. I appreciate any and all prayers and lots of strength for the hard days that lie ahead. You are all in my prayers too whether you are battling this disease or supporting and loving someone who is or who has lost their fight.
So sorry to read this thread and see how fast things went. My most sincere condolences on your loss.
Oh Oceangirl,
I am very, very sorry. Nothing I can write will make this easier or take away the sadness right now. I believe that feel him with you. I know you will be busy looking after each other and his son but please look after yourself too. x
Dear Suzanne,
I am so very sorry indeed to hear of your brothers passing. Please accept my sincere condolences. I know that right now there are no words that will help ease the pain that you feel but please know that my thoughts are with you and your family right now.
Hugs,
Gavin
Dear Suzanne,
So sorry to hear of your brother’s passing. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Oceangirl,
I’m so sorry to hear of your brother’s passing. There have been a few posts recently with the sad news of yet another of our loved ones dying of this horrific disease. I feel for each and every one of you.
Please know, in your time of mourning, that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. It breaks my heart that your little nephew will have to grow up without his Dad.
Be kind to yourself and take the time to mourn your loss. I hope, in time, happy memories can ease your pain.
Love & Peace,
MaryMy brother passed away last night at the hospital. He didn’t make it to hospice. We are still in shock. It all happened so fast. I feel his presence and I know he is ok now and no longer suffering, but we are so sad and miss him so much. I have no words to describe it.
Thank you all. Gavin and Clare thank you for your thoughtful and meaningful words. It all helps so much.
Dear Oceangirl,
I really am so very sorry that your brother is now so ill. Put all your energies in to the time you have with him, helping him be as comfortable physically and emotionally as is possible.
I so understand where you are right now as my sister was only 41 when she died in March and her daughter was only 3 at the time. I just want to give you a big hug and help you get through. It all happened so fast – she died 5 months after being diagnosed. I want to echo what Gavin has said that somehow, you will find the strength to get through each day. Treasure every opportunity you get to spend time with your brother and help him make memories for his son.
Please use the forum for support as you feel you need to. There is always someone that will support and help you through when you most need it.
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