Can’t imagine the end w/my Sister
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Thanks again for all the posts. after being given months to mid-summer. My sister died 5 days later. On thanksgiving morning. Her heart gave out 3 days after the metal stent was put in. She left behind an 8yr old son a 11 yr old daughter and an 18 yr old daughter.
Kristi,
I just read your post and it makes me so sad to read what your Sister – and your whole family – is going through. I wish you strength to get you through this tough struggle. Being there for your Sister, as you know, is so important, and you are doing so well. We will all be here for you in these tough times.Joyce C.
Kristi
Keep the best side out – we are all with you here. In this terrible struggle, (that impacts on families/carers as much as patients) your sister is lucky to have you.Take care……………..Gerry
Kristi,you are doing well and how wonderful for your sister and her family that you can offer that support.I had virtually none,and managed to get it from this board,good luck to you ,I think your sisters situation is quite serious,I think you should be prepared and say everything you need to Janet
Kristi-
Welcome and I am sorry to hear your sad tale, this cancer really unravels not just the patient but the whole family. Where is your sister being treated? Has she sought a second opinion?
Patty
Strengths to you, also Kristin. As Kris has said so well: “No one has an expiration date stamped on their foot.” Predictions have been outlived by many on this board and we have seen miracles too. I am hoping and wishing for a peaceful time coming your way.
Best wishes,
MarionThank you for your ideas and comments. The metal stent went in good. But is hospitalised again for infection, 18 hrs after the specialists sent her home as an out patient. The time line has been shortened months- 2 yrs. God be with those who have this devisating cancer. I know my faith is wavoring. I wish strength to everyone dealing with these situations.
Wow Jane…I felt like I was reading something I would have written when I read yours. My sister was 42 with 2 children. And I felt exactly what you just described.
Hi Kristi,
I lost my sister this year she was only 43, she left two children 6 and 12. The pain is unbearable I think you feel much worse when they are no longer there. At least when they are with you although very ill you can still talk and love them. When they go the pain of them not there is just so like I never knew. Sometimes I cry to a song in the car or anything which reminds me of this unfair situation. I was cross at first when she died. I wanted something from her a letter or anything I could hang on to.
make the most of every moment I have so much guilt I wish I’d done more. Try and share a joke and laugh no matter how hard i hope this helps good luck to you all
Jane
Kristi,
I am so sorry you need to be here, but glad that you have found this site. The help & support here is phenominal. As you have probably already learned, this horrible cancer seems to treat everyone differently. No rhyme or reason to it. Know that we are all here for you when you feel the need to talk, rant, ask questions or what ever. I’m hoping for the best for your sister, you & your family. I will keep you all in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & hugs to all.
DarlaI went through the same thing with my sister 10 months ago. You will find strength and wisdom you never knew you had. I will pray for your family.
I just read your post, and I am so, so sorry, for your sister and all her loved ones. She is too young to be facing the prospect of leaving this earth. My father battled this horrible cancer for 20 months and I did hours and hours of research on this site and any other I could find, and in the end, I concluded that no case is the same and there is sometimes no rhyme or reason to this cancer and its progression. It does appear in your sisters case it is extremely aggressive. My heart breaks for your sister, you, her children and all others in her life. What an incredible spirit and courageous women your sister is. I am certain you give your sister much needed peace, by knowing her children will be loved by you. I am glad you found this site, it gave me so much comfort when I was going through what you are going through now. I will keep your sister and all of you in my prayers and thoughts.
BarbaraKristi,
Welcome to our family. Some of the questions you have about talking to loved ones and dealing with children have been answered by our Dr.Giles. You can look them up under the patient support tab at the top of the page. Other questions about the end period have been discussed in the pallative care and grief management sections of the forum. I cant offer much help besides pointing you in the right direction since I am the patient and try to avoid knowing too much about “the end” as I think it would be too stressful for me.Have you looked at getting a second opinion? Different doctors have different takes on treatment so finding the best fit is important.
KRis
Hi KristiM,
Welcome to the site, although I am sorry that you have to be here. My dad was diagnosed last year and his CC was inoperable so he had PDT and has had no chemo. He has had a metal stent since last year but has never had a plastic one. As I understand it, plastic stents are more prone to clogging and infections so the need for changing them is more frequent.
Has your sister actually been started on diuretics yet? My dad was started on them yesterday and he has swelling in his legs and stomach. His doctor was not keen on them but started them in very small doses. If you use the search function here you will find posts regarding this issue and also the lungs.
My best wishes to you, your sister and your family.
Gavin
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