March 4, 2011 at 7:34 am #48570micsylParticipant
I understand fully, i found that counselling really helped me to off load, and to start the hard process of dealing with my grief, i only went for one or two sessions. It was just in the period before Christmas – a really difficult time.
There is not a day that goes by that i don’t think of my dad, but i can tell you that as time passes it does not go away but it does get easier to bear.
Thinking of you
MichelleMarch 4, 2011 at 5:19 am #48569slittle1127Member
Dear Kim –
As a therapist, who is also grieving, I think counseling will be wonderful for you. It is one place that you can let down your feelings with someone who will help carry the load. I am actually journaling, talking to my friends and colleagues, and practicing feeling my pain (for short periods of time). I also have trouble sleeping and concentrating – and it’s ALL so NORMAL. Hard, but normal.
Here’s a virtual hug for you. Grief is a road you are on and I haven’t ever found a short cut. Allow yourself to feel your pain, but don’t let yourself stay in it.
I think Dr. Giles is also a great suggestion.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
SusanMarch 4, 2011 at 12:00 am #48568marionsModerator
Kim… Please do also reach out to our Dr. Giles. We are so fortunate to have our very own licensed psychologist on site. His wisdom and kindness has been a steady support for us.
All my best wishes,
MarionMarch 3, 2011 at 8:29 pm #48567missingwayneParticipant
Try counseling, it makes me feel better, you can vent your feelings, and no one ever judges you. I think I’ve had it bad I lost my Dad 33 years ago, my husband 12 months ago, and my Mom 3 months ago. The only reason I’m at all sane is due to couseling.
TerryMarch 3, 2011 at 7:47 pm #48566andieParticipant
It will be 2 weeks Saturday since my Dad passed away, I too feel numb and I don’t remember what sleep is. I’m downstairs most nights till 2am then when I finally get to bed I can’t seem to switch off. Like you I don’t want to discuss how I feel with my Mom and Husband, I also feel I have to keep strong for my Mom, and to tell the truth I don’t even know how I feel. I suppose empty is the word I could use, and lost.
Good luck with the counselling xxMarch 3, 2011 at 4:31 pm #48565missingwayneParticipant
Kim, I lost my husband to cc Feb. 17, 2010. It was the darkest day of my life, I have been going to grief counseling since June, I have found it very comforting. I discovered that I hold everything in, I always did this when my children were small, I couldn’t talk about his illnesses in front him, I didn’t want him depressed and the children were to young to understand. So I kept a wall around me and no one was let in. I did this since 1985 the first time he was ill, up to 2-17-10. With my counselor I feel like I can talk to her about everything, it seems like I share more of me with her every week. I told her this week that my son is sick, she asked how long I had known, she thought it was something I just found out about, but I have known for nearly a year and a half. It was inside that wall I have built up around me. I also keep a journal, I only started this a few months ago, I share some of the entries with her. I believe in couseling 100%, this is the first time I’ve ever been, sometimes I wish I could go more often, I usually feel so much better afterward. By the time I go for another visit I’m usually feeling low again. Let us know how it goes.
TerryMarch 3, 2011 at 3:53 pm #48564gracefulmeadow86Member
Thanks, Lainy. I’ll definitely be talking about you all to her! You’re such a good support system and i’m so thankful to have you guysMarch 3, 2011 at 2:07 pm #48563lainyParticipant
Kim, I am not sure how counseling goes but I would imagine you don’t have to do much as the Therapist will guide and ask you. Probably after the first question you will start pouring out your feelings. Good luck and let us know how you progress.March 3, 2011 at 2:01 pm #4854gracefulmeadow86Member
I’ve been having such a hard time lately dealing with the passing of my dad. It feels like the first two weeks were my “numb time” and now its really kicking in. I can’t sleep for my life, my mind is just keeping me awake, even if i take sleeping medicine, i can’t get to sleep. I was actually able to sleep last night, but my dreams were so wacky, similar to how you dream when you have a high fever, so it was not restless.
I’m hoping therapy will help me try to understand my own feelings and get through this time a little easier…it will at least give me someone to talk to that i won’t stress out more (I know my pain/difficulty dealing with this is making things harder for my mom and husband).
I’ve been to counseling before when i was younger, but for different reasons. Are there certain things I should be talking about in the first appt? Should I make a list of my biggest concerns/things that are causing me the most anxiety to try and make the most of the appt?
Thanks to all of you for letting me get my thoughts out on virtual paper
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