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March 22, 2012 at 12:04 am #59083sharonleeMember
Dear Brenda;
I am sorry for your loss. This is not an easy illness especially when our loved ones were in good health before. Your Dad was too young and my heart breaks for you. My Mom passed on Feb 21. In the beginning a surgeon told us she may have a chance for an operation if the tumor would shrink from chemo. Well, she had one chemo treatment and passed a few weeks later. I new the illness was bad, but always had hope. Only a few months before I was out dancing with Mom. She was 76. I pray for everyone on this site. So many are dealing with illness and others have lost loved ones – many too young. I was grateful to have people on this site help me to cope and hope I can help others.
March 21, 2012 at 11:26 pm #59082bella769SpectatorThank you to everyone for replying. It means a lot to me that you took the time to respond.
BrendaMarch 21, 2012 at 9:10 pm #59081darlaSpectatorDear Bella769,
Your story breaks my heart. I am so sorry for your loss. My husband’s story was much the same as your dad’s. He too passed away quickly from this disease that no one had ever heard of before. He was 62. I am hoping you can take some comfort in the fact that he did not have to suffer for a long time and he is now no longer in pain. He will always be with you in your heart and memories.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaMarch 21, 2012 at 8:20 pm #59080gavinModeratorDear Bella,
I am so very sorry indeed to hear of the passing of your father. Please accept my sincere condolences and know that I am thinking of you and your family right now. I too know the pain that you are feeling right now as I too lost my dad to this disease back in 2009. Also, please know that we are all here for you and know what you are going through right now. If we can help in any way then we will.
Gavin
March 21, 2012 at 3:04 pm #59079lgpjenningsSpectatorDear Bella,
I am so sorry for the loss of your father. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Lisa
March 21, 2012 at 11:30 am #59078mlepp0416SpectatorMy thoughts and prayers are with you.
MargaretMarch 21, 2012 at 2:10 am #59077lainySpectatorDearest Bella, please accept my sincere condolences on the Passing of your DAD. CC is a tough one and a lot of times when the diagnosis is finally made it is almost too late for treatment. Your father was a Brave man and will always be around you, he is just in a different room.
You were very lucky to have that special love shared between daughter and father. I believe that in Heaven there is no time. There is only the moment. The beauty is that one day, you will meet again and to your Dad, no time will have passed. There is a reason why pain is meant to be part of our journey. It allows us greater depth of feeling which also allows greater heights of joy.
March 21, 2012 at 2:01 am #59076mymommylifeSpectatorBella769,
So sorry your father passed on. Losing a parent is hard, and I’m sure your dad was a good man. You’ll be in my thoughts.
March 21, 2012 at 1:44 am #59075peggypMemberDear Bella769,
Please accept my condolences on the passing of your dad. I know how hard this must be for you. You were right when you said what a terrible disease this is. It is usually in its late stages before any symptoms appear and most people haven’t heard of it. My husband has been fighting for three and a half years now. He has Stage IV ICC. We take one day at a time and try not to dwell on the negatives. Just like your dad, my husband was in great health until he had a nagging pain in his side. Thus, began our journey. I will keep you and your family in my prayers during this difficult time. God bless, PeggyP
March 21, 2012 at 1:37 am #59074pamelaSpectatorDear Brenda,
I found your name on your profile. I hope it’s ok to call you by your name. I just wanted to let you know that I am so sorry for your loss. It seems like some people get sick and go down hill so fast. I am really sorry this happened to your dear Dad. You did everything you could to make him comfortable by putting him in hospice. God bless you and may your Dad rest in peace.
-Pam
March 21, 2012 at 1:09 am #6539bella769SpectatorMy dad noticed his stomach getting larger in October, 2011. He thought it was a hernia at first. He finally went to the VA center in January for medical treatment and they thought it was his liver enlarged. They didn’t schedule him for a CT scan until February 14th. He ended up in so much pain on Feb 13th that he went in via ambulance. At that time, they found he had cancer in his liver, but they didn’t know the primary cancer. They explained he had 3-6 months to live.
They did more tests and sent him home that Friday. His oncologist appt was March 1st. I had only seen my dad two weeks before and he had gone down hill incredibly.
The oncologist at the VA explained my dad had Bile Duct Cancer primary which had spread to the liver and with my dad in such a weakened state there was no way he could handle chemo or radiation, which the oncologist said wouldn’t help anyway. He explained hospice should get involved, sooner rather than later.
I went down to the pharmacy and realized the dr forgot to reorder a prescription I went back to the oncologist alone and asked for the refund and then asked the dr how much time my dad had left. He said weeks.
Hospice started that weekend. The very next weekend my dad’s pain increased and he got much weaker. He wanted to go to in hospital hospice. He got in on Tuesday, March 13th. Once he got in the bed, he never got out again. He didn’t even hardly open his eyes. He passed away early morning on Friday. He died four weeks after finding out he was sick and two weeks after finding out he had bile duct cancer.
I registered for this site on March 4th and got the confirmation email today.
I have never even heard of this cancer and it breaks my heart that this horrible disease affects so many people. My dad was 67 and was in good health until this hit. -
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