May 23, 2015 at 4:23 pm #87958lainyMember
Sandy, what a beautiful family and thank you for the picture! Don’t know if you are one of my believers but if you are I would happily send you the list of how you will know when hubby is around you.May 23, 2015 at 12:49 pm #87957gavinModerator
Thank you so much for sharing the picture with us all, I love it. Loving the smiles and you know as well that we are always here for you too.
GavinMay 22, 2015 at 11:42 pm #87956darlaParticipant
Thanks for sharing that beautiful picture with us. Those smiling faces show so much love. Some one said that grief is the price of love and that is so true. Take care.
DarlaMay 22, 2015 at 9:12 pm #87955sandynycMember
Thank you all for all the kind wishes and thoughts.
You were ALL my family – so many of the questions he and I were unable to talk about for fear that the other one would think we were giving up – I could ask here, and find answers on this site.
Thought I would share a picture we posted at his Celebration last week – taken at our last family holiday together.
Daddy Bear we love you and miss you and wish you were here..May 16, 2015 at 12:49 am #87954mbachiniModerator
I am very sorry for the loss of your husband. Sending prayers for peace, strength and comfort for you and your family.
MelindaMay 12, 2015 at 4:56 am #87953iowagirlMember
Sandy….my most sincere condolences and prayers to you and your family.
Julie T.May 12, 2015 at 12:51 am #87952marionsModerator
Sandy….so sorry for coming on late to this sad news. Please accept my most sincere condolences on your dear Dave’s passing. You will be in my thoughts on Friday and I so much hope for your heart to begin to heal ….one day at a time.
Hugs and love,
MarionMay 10, 2015 at 10:14 am #87951middlesister1Moderator
I am very sorry to hear, but am thankful that Dave’s passing was peaceful. You and your daughter have my deepest condolences.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers,
CatherineMay 9, 2015 at 7:34 pm #87950darlaParticipant
I am so sorry to hear that Dave has passed away. I know right now there is not much to say to comfort you or take away the pain. We all wanted and thought we would have more, but cherish those years that you did have. Those memories will get you through this. You, Lauren and all the rest of your family and friends have my deepest sympathy on you loss.
Take some comfort in knowing that Dave is no longer suffering or in pain. Keep him with you forever in your heart and fond memories.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaMay 9, 2015 at 6:57 pm #87949lainyMember
My Dear Friend Sandy, I am so very sorry to read about Dave and yes, he fought a good battle and now his reward is everlasting Peace and to watch his 2 favorite girls and to keep them safe. You are a strong and kind woman and one day your “new normal” will come in to view and you will remember all the good as the bad fades from sight. The people who think there is a time limit for grief have never lost a piece of their heart. Take all the time you need. No rule book. No time frame. No judgment. Grief is as individual as a fingerprint. Do what is right for your soul.
If you don’t mind I had conveyed my thoughts after Teddy’s relocation, in a poem that I would like to give you:
How Are You Doing?
Everyone asks me how I’m doing since you went away,
With a smile on my face I answer, “I really am okay”.
Matter of fact its very hard but I promised to be strong,
Until the time we meet again, in your arms where I belong.
In the morning when I wake, once where there was warmth all night,
There’s nothing but an empty space and a pillow to hold tight.
Our closet now holds all my clothes it still looks kind of strange,
I try to make it look like more and constantly rearrange.
When I’m in the kitchen and working at the sink,
Many times I stop and this is what I think…..
If Teddy was here he’d grab me to give a little cue,
That he was about to hug me and say his, “I love you”.
No more are the corny jokes that grew longer by the year,
What I wouldn’t give now for just one more, to hear.
When someone calls, your message is still kept on the phone,
That way no one knows I am really home alone.
When day is over and dinner is eaten by one,
No more thank you-s for the meal well done.
Can’t find anyone to scratch my back,
There’s just a big hole here, a hole of midnight black.
But, how am I doing? I’m doing okay,
I know that you would want it that way.
And I know you are with me morning to night,
Still watching over me, that every things all right!May 9, 2015 at 5:23 pm #87948gavinModerator
I am so very sorry indeed to hear of the passing of your beloved Dave, please accept my sincerest condolences. I wish I could help right now and I am glad to hear that Dave’s passing was peaceful. And you are right in that he did fight so hard and you both tried to do everything that you could to fight this.
Please know that we are all here for you and my thoughts are with you and your family right now.
GavinMay 9, 2015 at 5:10 pm #11210sandynycMember
Wednesday morning, Dave passed. It was peaceful compared to the 2 years he fought this painful battle with this horrible disease. At least finally he can stop suffering. He fought so hard, we left no option unexplored.
I lost the love of my life, my best friend, my partner of 29 years. Lauren lost the Daddy who adored her and worshipped her so and who she so loved.
The years we had were not enough but he filled every day with love and joy.
Thank you to all of you who have been our family and support system. Your wisdom, support, love and strength helped me through so many of the darkest hours.
My wishes to all of you to FIGHT and triumph in your battles against this monster.
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