November 15, 2011 at 5:04 am #54257peggypMember
I am so sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. I am glad that you were able to be there with your mom and that it was peaceful. Your dad will always live in your heart so try to hold on to all the good memories. I will keep you and your family in my prayers, PeggyPNovember 10, 2011 at 1:42 am #54256
We had a beautiful sunny day with fall leaves waving in the breeze and birds chirping softly at 11 a.m. for my dad’s service. Thank you to all of you who have written such comforting words. It has helped me over the last few days and I have shared your thoughts with my sister. I will continue to pray for those of you still sitting by bedsides of your dear ones fighting this disease.November 8, 2011 at 4:21 pm #54255goodheartedmommyMember
I am so very sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.November 8, 2011 at 5:03 am #54254pamelaParticipant
I am so sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. I am glad he went peacefully and is no longer in pain. I hope your sadness from losing him diminishes each day and is replaced by wonderful, loving memories.
-PamNovember 8, 2011 at 1:04 am #54253kmemoroParticipant
So sorry about the loss of your Dad. As my Dad gets sicker I hope that his passing will be as peaceful.
Today my sister-in-law lost her loving Aunt to leukemia. She was only 55 years old and leaves behind an son with Down Syndrome who cant understand the concept of death.
God Bless all of you on this siteNovember 7, 2011 at 7:45 pm #54252dianecParticipant
Please accept my deepest sympathy on the passing of your precious father. I will be thinking of you during this difficult time. He was blessed to have such a caring daughter.
DianeNovember 7, 2011 at 7:25 pm #54251gavinModerator
I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your dad. Please accept my sincere condolences. I too know the pain you feel right now as I also lost my dad to this cancer. I am glad to hear that his passing was peaceful and that you and your mum were by his side. My thoughts are with you and your mum right now.
GavinNovember 7, 2011 at 1:52 pm #54250
Dearest Genindle, I am so very sorry about your Dad but I am so happy that your family’s experience was so loving and peaceful. One wonders how they know when to say their last words and I am glad you got to say yours and that Mom got to hear him say his.
Letter from Heaven by Ruth Ann Mahaffey
To my dearest family some things I’d like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived okay,
I’m writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there’s no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I’m out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said “I welcome you,
It’s good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they’ll be here later on.
God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
One thing is for certain though my life on earth is o’er
I’m closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
Together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you’re walking down the street and you’ve got me on your mind
I’m walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind
And when it’s time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you’re not going . . you’re just coming here to me.November 7, 2011 at 1:17 pm #54249
Lainey, thank you so much for your words. My father reached up and told my mother he loved her. He then went into a deep sleep. That was Sat. night. Sunday night he died at 10:43. He just stopped breathing. So peaceful. My mom was there and I drove there as quick as I could. I did get to talk to my dad and say so much by myself yesterday morning. I have such a sense of peace knowing my dad is not sick anymore. I am home to get my dog and take her to a sitter for the next few days. Gotta run, thank you for this site as it has helped me over the last four days. In His Love, GenindleNovember 5, 2011 at 11:11 pm #54248
Genindle, I just want to say a word about being with someone when they Pass. My goal was to hold Teddy and I did as he passed. Do NOT be afraid. I had never been with anyone either and was not sure how I would handle it but I cannot tell you how priviledged I felt. My daughter was with me the whole time and once the passage began Teddy spent about 2 hours “greeting” others that had passed before him. He never talked except once to say, “Oh, Mama”. He would hold his arms out and give big bear hugs and even pursed his lips like he was kissing people. It was so beautiful and awesone there are no words. Right after he passed his face showed no signs of being as ill as he was. His skin was beautiful. He always had bags under his eyes and they were gone. He was 78 and every wrinkle was gone. It was undescribable. I wish nothing less for you as you sit vigil and do keep talking to him, he does hear you even if it just to tell him that its OK for him to go and that you will all be OK.November 5, 2011 at 10:39 pm #54247ronidinkesMember
Praying for you and your father. Know that we are all thinking of you!
Sending tons of hugs,
firstname.lastname@example.orgNovember 5, 2011 at 9:46 pm #54240
I can’t thank you all enough for your encouragement and support through this site. Daddy slept a good bit today. His feet are swelling with fluid and we see fluid in other parts of his body. He breathes so deeply sleeping. He woke up for a little while this afternoon. He tried to talk but we could not understand him. My mother doesn’t know if she should spend the night. We encourage her to go home and rest at night. I think she will stay the night as we see his time come closer.
Kmemero, you have done everything to help your dad. This disease is uncontrollable from what I see and have read. All the MRIs and scans my dad had did not pick up anything. We had other distractors too (C-diff) and kept thinking we were dealing with the recovery of that. My dad’s color changed too and my mom thought it was his kidneys. That was what got him in for more tests last week. When my dad got to the hospital, he was pumpkin orange. He is still yellow. You are a wonderful daughter and your dad has had you by his side through it all. I will pray for you both.
Lainy, thank you for your sweet words. You are so right. Dad held his hands up to his face today when we were talking about his hands. He wanted to see them. It shocked us and we decided we better watch what we say. ha I am sorry to hear you lost your mom and husband. I know you were great comfort to them.
Peggy, thank you for sharing your story. What great comfort to know you helped your father in his last hours. I hope I can do that for my dad. I have never been with anyone when they died. Thank you for your prayers. I will pray for your husband. He sounds like a strong man with lots of fight.
Pamela, thank you for your kind words. I am so sorry your daughter is ill with this disease. I will pray for your daughter too.November 5, 2011 at 4:04 am #54246peggypMember
Dear Genindle and Kmemoro,
I lost my dad last November to cancer and my husband, John, has been fighting for a little over 3 years with CC. He was already Stage IV when diagnosed. I know what a hard time this must be for both of you but try to remain strong for those around you. I had stayed at the hospital with my dad the night before he died. I sat there and just held his hand and prayed as he was in a semi-coma. I like to believe that he knew I was there until he passed away the next morning. You both sound like wonderful daughters and I’m sure your dads are very proud of you. I will keep you both in my prayers along with your dads and hope you will find some comfort in knowing that there are others who know what you are going through. PeggyPNovember 5, 2011 at 3:33 am #54245
Dear genindle, welcome to our wonderful family of the most courageous and caring people from all over the world. I am very sorry about your Father and it sounds like he is comfortable and that is the bottom line. Even if he is sleeping, he can hear you and wants to hear you so talk away. The hearing is the last thing to leave and I think it gives the patient comfort to hear familiar voices around him. My Mom had dementia and right up to the end (she was 94) a smile would cross her face when she heard me or my daughter talking to her.
My husband passed last December 6th and he was 78. He was in a Hospice Facility at the very end and we had the Monday night Football games going on TV as that was his favorite. Then we talked to him often even though we knew he was leaving. Stay strong and I am sending best wishes for all of your family.November 5, 2011 at 3:22 am #54244
kmemoro, please do not look back at what you think you should have done. CC is extremely hard to diagnose and in most cases it does not rear it’s ugly head until it’s done a lot of damage, many times to late for treatment. You are one fabulous daughter and he is lucky to have you travel this terrible road with him. Like I have said, comfort is the key word and I home he has a weekend filled with comfort and some good family visits.
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