May 1, 2012 at 12:31 am #59632pcl1029Member
I am sorry for you loss.
May God bless you and you family in this difficult times.
God bless.April 30, 2012 at 11:51 pm #59631pamelaParticipant
I am very sorry to hear of your father in law’s passing. You and your family are in my prayers.
-PamApril 30, 2012 at 10:08 pm #59630RandiParticipant
So sorry to hear about your father in law. I hope your good memories quickly replace the void left by his passing.
-Randi-April 30, 2012 at 6:18 pm #59629
I am very sorry indeed to hear of the passing of your father in law. Please accept my sincerest condolences and know that my thoughts are with you and your family.
GavinApril 30, 2012 at 2:24 pm #59628lainyParticipant
Please accept my heartfelt sympathies on your Father-in-Law.
Those we love must someday pass beyond our present sight…
They leave us and the world we know without their radiant light.
But we know that like a candle their lovely light will shine
To brighten up another place more perfect…more divine.
And in the realm of Heaven where they shine so warm and bright,
Our loved ones live forevermore in God’s eternal light.April 30, 2012 at 1:10 pm #59627mlepp0416Participant
I am so sorry to hear of your loss of your father in law. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
MargaretApril 30, 2012 at 12:55 pm #59626
My father in law lost his fight April 9th 2012. He was brave until the end with little pain or suffering. He will be forever remembered and loved.April 5, 2012 at 2:21 pm #59625ronidinkesMember
Good Morning Madeline,
My mother stopped taking phone calls almost 6 weeks prior to her passing March 17th, 2012. In a way it prepped us for what was to come.
Somedays were good, and others were not.
Just try to enjoy the moments.
As Gavin said, it is a roller-coaster ride. I found at the end, I went to New York, and just held mom’s hand. I slept next to her. I talked to her, and played her favorite music.
It was the quiet moments with no pain, while watching her sleep or gently smile, that I fondly remember.
I am here if you need to talk or you can find me on facebook.
Sending many hugs and much love.
email@example.comApril 4, 2012 at 6:43 pm #59624
One day at a time, good idea. We also used to take things one day at a time with my dad and that worked for us. It really is a rollercoaster this journey with CC. Good days, bad days. Then some more good days followed by a few down days and our emotions rise and fall along the way also. My dad went through more than his fair share of these up’s and down’s and I am hoping that your father in law will soon bounce back from these recent tiring days so that you can again enjoy these chats with him. One day at a time indeed!
My best wishes to you and your father in law,
GavinApril 4, 2012 at 2:58 am #59623
Thanks again… My FIL has had a very tiring few days… He is not up for too many chats now. We see him on video and say hello…
One day at a time !!!April 2, 2012 at 9:53 pm #59622
Glad that the link was of use to you Madeline. I forgot to mention as well about Marie Curie nurses and they could be of help as well to your In Law’s. Again, their care is free of charge and your FIL would have to be refered to them through his doctor or district nurse. There is a wealth of help here in the UK for patients, their families and their carers and so much can now be done in helping the patient in their home.
Here’s the link about Marie Curie nurses –
Please keep in touch with us all, we are here for you.
GavinApril 2, 2012 at 8:53 pm #59621
Thank you Gavin I have sent the link to my mother in law.April 2, 2012 at 6:04 pm #59620
Welcome to the site. So sorry that you had to find us all and I am sorry also to hear about your father in law. But I’m glad that you have joined us all as you’ve come to the right place for support and help, and you will get a load of that from us all.
I assume that your FIL is now back in his home? Thats good that he has the hospice nurses and what I assume will be the district nurses coming in to see him as well. I’m not sure if you will know this, but your FIL will also be entitled to the services of a Macmillan Nurse as well. These are specialist cancer nurses andf I have nothing but great things to say about the work they do and the help that they can be to patients. My dad had a Macmillan nurse after his diagnosis of CC and she heklped us all so much.
Here is a link that may be of interest to you –
As I said, your FIL will be entitled to the services of these nurses and should you want one then he will have to be refered to Macmillan by his local GP, hospital doctor or a district nurse.
Please keep coming back here. And if you have any questiuons then please ask away and we will do what we can to help you. We know what you are going through and we care.
GavinApril 2, 2012 at 3:44 pm #59619
My in laws live on a small island in the uk and he was transferred to England when the cancer was discovered. He does have hospice at home that comes around now every week as well as home health nurses. They have in home doctor visits there as well so I believe it is all being done. My mother in law is a very strong woman and seems to be in control of his care. I agree abut pain management. My mother died in 2008 with Acute Myeloid Leukemia and pain management was critical so I have shared this with them as well. We video with face-time so we are able to stay connected.
Thank you for the information. Having dealt with my mom I know there is a rough road to come I just hope that it is as peaceful as possible. My husband is going to visit later this month as well.
Thanks againApril 2, 2012 at 3:34 pm #59618pcl1029Member
Your mentioned and quote” He was transferred to another hospital where there were tests and more tests to only discover that he had CC with mets to bone, stomach and lymph nodes. No treatment has been given as the Dr. said it would not do any good. ” and you also quoted “He has been in a out of the hospital every 2 weeks or so where his hemoglobin levels have gotten really low and they have had to give him blood. –that is a sign of anemia and I think depends on how low the Hgb was and how long that anemia situation was;chemotherapy may not be a good idea at this piont;it may just increase the suffering for the patient to endure all those side effects of chemotherapy; I think “quality of life” pf the patient should be a priority of concern.
And if that was what the “SPECIALISTS”,not just your GP said about the CC mets to bone,lymph nodes and the stomach, I think their assessments are not far away from reality.
I am not a doctor, I am just a patient ,having the same disease as your father-in-law;but I know palliative care is the best opinion at this point for him.
the diagnosis is not related to the” total knee surgery” done in Dec.2011.
the liver enzyme was the lab which discovered you in-laws ‘s CC.
the Ct scan or PET scan is to confirm the finding .
Base on what I could understand about this disease,your father-in-law might have this CCA for a couple years at least.
If you really want to, try to get a 2nd opinion by an “interventional radiologist” to see what procedure could be of benefit to him now.
In and out of confusion is common due the the changing of the level of ammonia affectedthe brain by this disease.
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