Help! Need info on CC progression

I’d like to affirm this advice…My husband had a liver tumor and was diagnosed as “unknown primary” and told by two medical oncologists that the only treatment was systemic chemo which would probably not do much. The dr. (Dr. C) he chose as his main ono, my husband hit it off well with him…and this was his “second opinion” guy as the first one neither of us felt comfortable with. But still, Dr. C also said that the tumor was inoperable. Six months after this diagnosis, and a try out with a chemo that had no effect, Dr. C had my husband scanned and said the liver tumor was starting to grow (up til then it hadn’t increased in size) So THEN after all that time, Dr. C said, “Well, I’ll set you up with an appointment with Dr. H who is a surgical oncologist and one of the most accomplished at liver surgery” What?! The thing I still don’t understand is that Dr. H the surgeon is employed in the same oncologist group that Dr. C is the head of. Why didn’t he refer my husband to Dr.H months earlier. So as it turned out, Dr. H told my husband, “I might not be able to get this tumor out, but looking at the location from all the scans, I think I can reach it and I’m willing to try.” It was a 4 1/2 hour surgery…and five months til my husband felt halfway normal again. But he WAS a candidate for surgery even though the first two oncologists said no. Dr. H did not give false promises and said he would do the best he could but wouldn’t know til he looked inside exactly what he could accomplish. But he reviewed my husband’s case carefully with a surgeon’s eyes and ended up giving a different answer. On top of that, my husband recently had the lung spot that also showed up on the original scans in 2006 treated through radiofrequency ablation. The first onco we saw just laughed at the idea of RFA and said Tom was stage 4 and none of those “new procedures” would help. Now my hub and I know that cancer could return in the liver area; we are not naive, but he is alive and moderately well because he got one more opinion. I am still frustrated and a bit angry witing this, and it all happened nine months ago, but when the head physician oncologist doesn’t refer a patient to his top surgeon with a surgical question, I just don’t get it. So please, all who read, investigate the options…talk to surgical, radiological, and medical oncologists. Each has a different perspective because they work with different treatments. Actually it was surgeon Dr. H who finally gave my husband a more precise diagnosis of cholangiocarcinoma….how strange that in that case knowing it was cc actually made us feel better because we knew what area the cancer started in and what symptoms to expect. That “unknown primary” scared my husband so bad because not only did he have a terminal diagnosis but it seemed to be just floating in his body. My hub was given 6 to 9 months and he’s still here after 15 and is up and around the house…does the hosuework while I work. He had taken early retirement and this isn’t exactly what he’d planned, but is grateful for the last two doctors that they took a chance on him.