Hi,Rhike (Rachel) ou can introduce yourself here.

Rachel,

I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved son. It takes a special person to continue to think of others when going through such personal pain. Stay strong and may the happy memories of your son bring you solace during this difficult time.

-Randi-

I am so sorry you lost your son. He was a brave soul and loved you very much. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

I am so sorry for the loss of your son.

Cindy

Rachael
My heart aches for you. I pray that you find comfort in Gods love and promise. I will pray for you daily. I am so sorry for your loss.
Lisa

Lainy, I love that poem, and it is so true. Is it ok for me to read it at my dad’s memorial service, as I know it will give great comfort and hope to so many? Thanks, Paula

Dearest Rachel, I am so very sorry as to loose a child has to be the most devasating thing that can happen in one’s life. But, as you say your son is now at Peace and you carry on as that is what he would want you to do.

Letter from Heaven by Ruth Ann Mahaffey

To my dearest family some things I’d like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived okay,
I’m writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there’s no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I’m out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said “I welcome you,
It’s good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they’ll be here later on.
God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
One thing is for certain though my life on earth is o’er
I’m closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
Together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you’re walking down the street and you’ve got me on your mind
I’m walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind
And when it’s time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you’re not going . . you’re just coming here to me.

Dearest Rachel, words cannot begin to express the pain I know you are going through. I went through the same thing with my husband December of 2010. PLEASE do not look back, there is nothing you could have done better than to be by his side.
I beg you to just be by his side now, hold his hand, talk to him and tell him how much you love him. If you can, give him the permission to leave, to go to his peace, he needs to hear that from you and you need to say it to release him and honestly it WILL give you a little peace. We are here for you in words, thoughts and prayers. I know you are in absolute agony but please don’t make that the last thing he takes with him to his Peace because that will be what you will always remember. What ever time there is make it a loving and peaceful time, it will help you both. Bless you all!

To All:

My son who is 45 years old has only a few days to live. He has CC since Novemer and I wished that I had taken hin to a Cancer center in NYC.I believed in the local doctor and the oncologize who gave Patrick 6 treatments of gemzar. He was so sick that he lost 50lbs on this chemo treatment. My son was so weak that I didn’t get a second openion for a resection of the tumor as I didn’t know where it is. I hate the gasto doctors and the oncologist doctors who did not informed me to go to a cancer center where my son could have had chemical trials, I have a lot of momey that has got to keep this disease broght to attention in this country.So my son stop taken the chemo because it was making him too sick and weak to go to another second opinion and I got no help from the oncolotist from the beginning that this was a diseae that was more than she coul handle. Four months of suffering for my son and for John and I as his parents. People who come out with this disease must be warned that GENZAR AND CISPLITIN DO not work for this disease. I should have let my son enjoyed his 2 months on quality life he would have had and would be dead by now. I want to write in the local papers what terrible care he got at Samairtian Hospital in Troy, NY. I left my son on Monday night in such terible pain as the 5 liters of water that was in his chest was drained and was having the hicups for 7 hours without relief or meds.He stomach looked liked he had a baketball in him. Tuesday morning he was on hospice. Lovely lopspice told me before I walked in the room to see my son that he would propably never be able to talk to me again. Something happen and they put him on continous drip of dillotin, starting at 1.5 yesterday which is up to3 mg. per hour.He has has no food or water in three days. He is just being drug to death by the drugs are going in his body like herione and this is the comfort of care. My son has sleep for 48 hours and was given 4mg of dilation tonight every hour. I know they just want to drug him to death!! My son is out of his mind with these drugs, no food, or water. He won’t open his and doesn’t know me. They are treateing him like he is 80 years old. I wanted to share this message for people who think that hospice is great for this disease but its not and do not use any chemo. My son’s stomach has distended so much that he has a basketball and fluid is coming in aagain.
any ADVICE FOR ME TO DO. i GUESS THAT i MUST ACCEPT HIS DEATH, BUT WISH THAT i GOT THE RESULTS FROM A cANCER hOSPITALdO YOU THINK HE
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