January 24, 2014 at 3:44 pm #78632lainySpectator
Dear Lou. I am sending a ton of wishes for Mum to have a good healing period and will wait to hear the rest of the news. I hope it is better than it has been as I agree your Mum has been through a lot. I am glad you are going to get some rest and look forward to your next post.January 24, 2014 at 12:27 pm #78631iliasMember
Thank you all for such kindness.
Mum had gastric bypass surgery this morning.
We are all tired and are hoping she finds some relief. I am not relying on false hope, but just want her to have a break for a little while. I am hoping they can remove the nasogastric tube and that she return to some normality for just a little time longer.
The Cancer has spread extensively into the peritoneum, but I will provide details at a later stage.
I will get back to you all shortly.
Tale Care & God Bless
LouJanuary 20, 2014 at 9:14 pm #78630rainMember
I am so sorry to hear about your mother. All my thoughts are with you
TeresaJanuary 13, 2014 at 5:37 pm #78629pamelaSpectator
I am so sorry for all your dear Mum and your family have been through. I hope your Mum can find some peace and comfort soon. Bless you all.
Love and hugs,
-PamJanuary 13, 2014 at 5:18 pm #78628claremSpectator
You are not being selfish – just the opposite. You are willing to take on the loss of your mum to free her of any more suffering. My sister declined very quickly and in 5 short months there was no hope. I too was willing her to go in her last 48 hours just so she could be free of any suffering.
Someone on this forum responded to me at one of my lowest points and commented that anticipatory grief is incredibly hard to deal with. I so relate to where you are right now so vent away. You are being incredibly brave supporting your mum and family through this and considering the decision that treatment might no longer the best thing.
Use all of us here to support you. XJanuary 13, 2014 at 5:05 pm #78627darlaSpectator
Feel free to rant all you want. Everything you are feeling is normal under these trying circumstances. Take care and know we are all hear to listen and help in any way we can. We know and understand the pain and conflict you are experiences.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaJanuary 13, 2014 at 2:58 pm #78626willowSpectator
Your feelings that she will be released if this earthly suffering when she passes are no selfish. I prayed that agod not let my Dad continue on when he was suffering both physically and mentally so much. I did feel conflicted but that’s normal. Bless you and your mom.January 13, 2014 at 2:52 pm #78625lainySpectator
Oh, Lou, I so understand. When we started Teddy’s Journey I asked God to heal him and towards the end I asked God to take him. Your feelings unfortunately are normal. Your Mum must be one strong lady and maybe the family can take that cue from her. With all these things going on are they making her as comfortable as they can? There are enough different Meds today to help for comfort. Lou I don’t know if you are ready for this but I do have a list of the 10 Signs that the end is near and if you want me to I can email it to you. You never know how strong you are until “strong” is the only choice you have! We are always here so vent away anytime you need to.January 13, 2014 at 7:27 am #9397iliasMember
I have not posted for some months now. My mum is declining quickly. She was admitted into hospital with a bowel obstruction just after Xmas. Her pain is always severe, she is bloated, swollen and just out of it. Her heart beat is irregular, oxygen levels low and runs a fever continuously. She has septicaemia and is being treated with three different types of antibiotics.
I know this might be a little selfish, but I cannot endure it no more. So how does she endure it?
Since July 2012, she has spent no more than 1 month at home. Most of the time she has been admitted with some sort of infection. Why does she get these damn infections continuously.
There was a slither of hope just before Xmas when Dr Zimmet said he was going to pursue other options in 2014. She felt good. I guess there aint any options now.
My sister spends all of her time with mum. She is strong, but breaks down each time i talk to her. My dad cries each day. My brother hides his feelings as best as he can.
Just need to vent. I feel so sorry for her as we cannot do anything for her. I don’t want her to die, but I know she will find peace when she does.
So sorry for the rant.
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