Husband at Hospice Facility
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So sorry Nancy.
Sending prayers for strength and comfort for the two of you. Hope you can feel that the Lord is there for each of you, holding you up.
Margaret
Nancy, Prayers keep going your way. Good that they are keeping Frank comfortable. You sound like I did as it all seems like yesterday but try to be very strong, talk to him even though he may not respond. He will know. Love and hugs coming your way as well.
Just checking in again. Frank is once again not eating, drinking or speaking. The hospice team says he is in transition and may not be conscience at all anymore. It is so hard to see him like this. I love him so much but I pray that God takes him home soon. He was having very bad abdominal pain, but his hospice nurses are keeping that under control. Thanks for the support. Pray for us.
Dear Cute Duke…..I totally agree with you. When Teddy decided no Palliative Chemo (as it would only extend his life a month) we gave each other our all. He had such a strong mind and no one would know not even me if he was scared. He steeled his mind and that was that. His only request was that I don’t cry in front of him so I didn’t as it seemed so little for him to ask of me. Having only been married 16 years, even at our ages, we were never apart except to go the bathroom. It was so beautiful, especially when he would tell Hospice Nurses that we were on our Honeymoon. From taking this Journey with him I realize that there is no fear but fear itself and when it is time for me I will be as ready as he was as I know he will be waiting for me and I am sure the first thing he will do is take me to his restaurant in the sky. I mean a Sicilian loves restaurants!
I think the majority of participants here are caregivers rather than patients. A few are/have been both.
I read about “quality of life vs. quantity of life”. Selfishly, as a patient, I want both. But it’s not all about me. A few months is probably not significant, unless there is a major milestone coming up. My father hung on a few months so that he could hold my son, the first grandson with the family name. I have accidental video of him doubled over in pain on our last visit. The pain was the price he willingly paid. I hope it is as black and white for me later as it is now.
Now, to the point. Lainy said it all. There will come a time when he is ready to go. He needs to know that you will be ok. Assure him of that. And as she’s said elsewhere, work out signals from him to let you know he is ok.
Treasure and rejoice in the quality of time you have left together, that is what’s important, not the quantity.
Nancy…. What a wonderful day it was for all involved. In this so precious time, you made something beautiful happen for Frank.
Hugs
MarionNancy,
I’m so glad you and Frank had a nice day today and that the weather made it possible for Frank to be outside and also to visit with his beloved “friends” Rocky & Foster along with others. Weather is nasty up here in Plymouth.
Thinking of you as you continue on this journey. One day at a time.Love & Hugs,
DarlaFrank was much better today although he still is not eating. He had lots of visitors, got to spend an hour outside in his wheelchair (it was 80 degrees in Chicago today!) and best of all, he got to visit with his beloved dogs, Rocky and Foster. I would say he had a very good day. Thanks for the thoughts and prayers. Nancy
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