Julia Parrett

Dear Amy, now that the funeral is over…sending you one of my favorites.

To my dearest family, some things I’d like to say.
But first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I’m writing this from Heaven.
Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there’s no more tears of sadness;
here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I’m out of sight.
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you
when my life on earth was through.
God picked me up and hugged me
and said, “I welcome you.
It’s good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family,
they’ll be here later on.
God gave me a list of things,
that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list,
was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night,
the day’s chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you…
in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth,
and all those loving years.
Because you are only human,
they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry:
it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers,
unless there was some rain.
One thing is for certain, through my life on earth is over.
I’m closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you
and many hills to climb;
Together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
And now I am contented….
that my life was worthwhile.
Knowing as I passed along the way
I made somebody smile.
When you’re walking down the street
and you’ve got me on your mind;
I’m walking in your footsteps
only half a step behind.
And when it’s time for you to go….
from that body to be free.
Remember you’re not going…
your coming home to me.
*******************************

Amy,
I would be there with you if I could. It is tough, but you will probably have lots of support today. Many people will want to tell you why your mom was special to them. Many people told me how much I looked like, sounded like, or acted like my mom. I think adrenaline got me through the first few days after Mom passed, but on the way home after the funeral lunch, the adrenaline left and I was just sooooooo tired.
Please take care of yourself in the days to come. Remember, extra rest (which may be hard to get) laughter, and tears can help the body heal from grief, too.
You have my sympathy and prayers.
Louise

Dear Amy,

Try not to second guess yourself. You are a wonderful daughter and you did your best. We all do the best we know how with the circumstance we are given. No one knows why these things happen, but we have to believe there is a greater reason that we will some day understand. I too am hoping that you have family and friends to help you through these next days and don’t forget you have all of us to give you strength and support during this sad & stressful time in you life.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Dearest Amy,

I followed your story and one thing I know–you made sure you soaked up every minute of time you had with your mom! Life was just too fragile for you to not. Hold on to those good memories of her. She was wonderful wasn’t she. When you feel sad, allow yourself to really feel that emotion. I pray family and friends would be a source of strength during this most difficult time.

Blessings
Ashlea

Amy,

I am so sad to read this news. I have been following along, crossing my fingers that she would get to see her newest grandchild. But, you know she has probably already met him (I think it’s a boy???) as she is an angel now and angels always take care of the babies before they are born.

Your mom sounded like a wonderful lady and I think she raised a wonderful daughter. I know you made her very proud and she will always be watching you and smiling.

Hugs,
Sue

Amy, I don’t have answers for you since I’m in about the same boat. My Mom passed just over 2 weeks ago in Franklin, Indiana, and I must have been running on adrenalin for a few days. When the decisions had been made and the mourners headed back to “normal” lives, I experienced a let-down, great sadness, and exhaustion. Then the real work set in. We are now trying to redefine “normal” and adjust to the fact that we have a hole in our lives. I know that it will take time, but life doesn’t want to wait. I think my brothers, sisters, and I have been with each other physically or on the phone more in the last 2 weeks than in any other 2-week period in recent history. But even together, there is still a hole where Mom was such a big part of all our lives. My children, without saying a word, remind me to keep looking to the future while remembering the best of the past. Despite my sadness in letting go, I believe I will see Mom again in a better place where neither of us will suffer from this disease or any other.
May you find peace moment by moment and may your child(ren) bring you comfort as they remind you that life goes on, simply by being themselves.
God bless you!
Louise

Amy,
I’m so very to hear of your mom’s passing. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
Ashley

Dearest Amy, it is all true now, that your mother is in a more peaceful place with no pain, doing all the things she loves to do while still watching over her family. She knew how lucky she was to have a wonderful daughter like you to see her through this terrible journey. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.