March 5, 2013 at 4:20 pm #69424lisacraineSpectator
So sorry for your pain. Dads are a wonderful part of our lives and so hard to see them suffer. Praying for your safe travel and some very special time together.
LisaMarch 5, 2013 at 3:47 pm #69423darlaSpectator
Thinking of you and your family and hoping things work out.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaMarch 5, 2013 at 2:57 pm #69422claremSpectator
I am so very sorry for your dad, you and the rest of your family. I really feel for you not being with him. I am a 6 hour drive from my sister and it is very hard being away from her and the family – much harder than I prepared myself for or thought it would be. Please try not to be to hard on yourself – these are circumstances of which you have no control and your love for your dad is no less because of the miles between you.
ClareMarch 5, 2013 at 2:50 pm #69421karenSpectator
Holding you and your family in light and love. Please know that should you not get to see your Dad before he transitions it is because, as Lainy stated, that would be his wishes and do not “beat” yourself over that. Sometimes people wait until there is nobody in the room before making the move. Know you are NOT alone in this heart-wrenching journey.
Peace to you and your family,
KarenMarch 5, 2013 at 10:12 am #69420lainySpectator
Dear Rena, I am so very sorry to read about your Dad. There is nothing, no words to describe what it is like to watch a loved one go through such an uneasy journey, I know, I watched, too. The kindest thing in life we can do at times is to wish for the Peace to come quickly. I too hope you can make it to see Dad, but I also believe he will pick his own time and you will have to abide with his wishes. Hang in, be strong, we are all with you! Your heart will be heavy, for awhile, and then like a Miracle your good Memories will ovecome the rest.March 5, 2013 at 6:58 am #8029renaMember
It’s been 2 months since my last post, but I have checking in often to seek answers. I have to say that as my family has navigated through this horrible journey with my dad, this website has been the best place to get real answers and support!
After dads next to death experience back in December, he bounced back for a few weeks and was able to do some normal things that he loves…travel, spend time with family & friends and eat again. He began this journey weighing 198 and now weighs 138.
Moving forward…two weeks ago he began to decline again, no energy, fevers, rigor shakes, vomiting and then a few days things became even worse. He began to have blood in his vomit and stools and developed pain in his right leg. He is now in ICU and suffering from internal bleeding and a very low blood pressure. He has had 7 bags of blood since yesterday and his counts remain very low. This evening my mother was told that there is nothing else they can do.
Even though you know this day will eventually come with stage 4 bile duct cancer….it still feels like a bad dream.
Because of the snow storm that is attacking the Midwest….I will have to wait for this storm to pass before I can travel to him. it is about a 6-7 hour drive. I am hoping to him on Wednesday! I am going to be devastated if I don’t get to see and spend time with him before he leaves us.
Going to bed tonight with a very heavy heart…..
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