Lost my mom

dear pranjal- srry to hear of ur loss i too lost my mum 26th april 07, she was diagnosed end of feb 07 deteriotated in such a short time, she ad to av a stent for the jaundice, lost lots of weight, gained fluid. n spent end of her days in hospital at 52, its no age hun. she at mets biliary carcinoma) and i dnt think there are any answer o ut there. its a silent killer well thats my opinion. its undetected and in most cases too late b4 it can be treated cruel it is. my heart goes out to u i truly no how u are feelin,.. take care xx

Hi Pranjal-My heart goes out to you at this very difficult time. My husband was also diagnosed at the end of March 07. He has lost a lot of weight but thankfully so far has no pain or nausea or jaundice. He does have many liver tumors but the treatment he is getting they think is shinking them which will hopefully give him more time. Like Jeff, we are hoping something new will be around the corner to improve chances. Again, my sympathies to you and your family. Your Mom was lucky to have you. I don’t know how anyone goes through this alone. Patrice

Pranjal, I am so sorry for your loss and I know the pain you must be feeling. My mother died 2 months after diagnosis also. And I also had a lot of questions. Please don’t feel guilty or like you could have done something more – you did all you could do for her, and this disease is horrible and fast-moving sometimes. By the time tumors grow large enough to cause symptoms, most people are too advanced for treatment. IT’s a deadly and silent disease at first, and I do believe my mother didn’t have any tumors until maybe a year before her diagnosis, but it didn’t show up on blood tests until she had hundreds of tumors on her liver and was near the end. There is just no way to detect this cancer most times.

As for your question about stenting, I believe you did the right thing to allow the stent – it helped the jaundice, but it was too late to do more. For some people, stents allow them to live for a year or maybe many more years, but it all depends on where the tumors are and how aggressive the disease is. The stent didn’t kill your mother – the horrible cancer did. You did nothing wrong – everyone on this board has experience with stents and there are usually no problems. My mother was vomiting and uncomfortable at the end, and that was just the way this disease progresses when it’s very advanced.

It must feel terrible to lose your mother at such a young age and so suddenly – my deepest sympathies are with you. I know you were there for your mother and she knew that you loved her and that’s the best thing you could have done for her.
– Joyce