March 19, 2007 at 8:07 pm #15365bernieMember
Joyce, Carolann, & Jeff:
Thank you all for your heartfelt posts. Though Mom is missed more each day by all of us, she had a beautiful funeral with a wonderful message of hope from the Pastor. March 3rd brought spring-like temperatures with a sunny day. In fact, the day she died and the day of her funeral were the 2 nicest days of the year, which I consider a major blessing considering all the ice and snow we’ve had. Her struggle is over and mine has just begun. I know with God’s grace and people like you who surround me with hope and understanding, that I will be able to move forward without my mother with a few less tears one day at a time.
I’m am forever grateful for this site and people like you!!
Thank you, again!March 4, 2007 at 3:09 am #15364jeffgMember
Bernie, I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. Your words clearly painted a picture for me; that your Mom was a loving and kind person who will be missed by all. As you hold her in your heart forever, many others will do the same I’m sure. God Bless you and your family and thank God for the miracle he gave you all.
Jeff G.March 2, 2007 at 1:50 pm #15363carolannMember
that was so touching, a mothers love is the possibly the best love u can get, my heart goes out to u n ur family god bless u all, she will be looked after by all the angels.March 2, 2007 at 5:10 am #15362jmoneypennyMember
You brought tears to my eyes with your beautiful and poetic words. I am sure your mother would say that YOU were a miracle, too. I am so sorry for your loss, and so happy that you were lucky enough to know such an outstanding woman. Peace to you and your family.March 2, 2007 at 4:28 am #385bernieMember
No, we didn’t get a miracle that took away my mother’s cancer.
No, we didn’t even get the 6 months the oncologist predicted she might have with chemo–just 6 weeks.
We did get the most wonderful mother any family could hope to have. A mother worthy of envy for her loving kindness, gentle spirit, and generous heart. She was all about “you.” Mom listened and Mom cared whether it was good news or bad news or even boring news; she was an active listener. Her dreams were your dreams and she hoped they would come true for you as if they were her own. It didn’t matter if she was family or friend, she wanted the best for you and thought the best of you even at your worst. Don’t worry, she’d set you straight if you were “out of line” because she cared. She expected you to be respectful to others and that “doing unto others as you would have them do unto you” was without question the “golden rule” to live by. If you needed box tops, she collected them. If you needed soup labels or soda tabs for a cause, she was pulling them off and collecting them for you. It didn’t matter if “nothing was in it for her.” It only mattered that you asked for them. Need a ride? Need a volunteer? Need a friend? What can I do to help? Yes, Mom helped and did so much for others that she made the world a better place. She was a devoted wife in love with a devoted husband for 52 years, mother of 3 children, 2 grandchildren, 3 grand-dogs and 1 grand-cat. Oh yes! Pets are family, too!
All of her family surrounded her the day and night before she died and she had her loving husband holding her hand telling her “it is going to be all right and it’s okay to go if you want to” just minutes before she took her last breath the next morning. She left peacefully (without jaundice by the way). Although my prayer for a healing of cancer did not come, my prayer for God to take her gently without suffering was answered.
So what was the miracle you might wonder? Well, the miracle is the fact that this woman was born on this earth to face the up and down hardships of life for 71 years and through it all maintained the ability to love others unconditionally.
Mom, I will miss you more than words can possibly express. Though I can no longer touch you, I will always hold you in my heart.
I’ll see ya later….Love Always and Forever…
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