March 19, 2010 at 10:32 am #36566jcleggMember
I am so sorry for your loss. Do remember that , dark as these days are, we will see our loved ones again some day. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
JoyceMarch 18, 2010 at 5:32 pm #36565bwParticipant
I’m very sorry to hear about your mother. You have my deepest sympathy.
I was with my mother when she passed away and with my 1st wife when she passed over and its most most moving and leaves an empty hole in
ones life. They are in a better place as you already know and they are be missed. I believe we will see them again when its our turn. In the mean time try to fill the hole and peace be with you.March 18, 2010 at 9:31 am #36564duke0929Member
our prayers and thoughts are with you…..lucille and ronMarch 18, 2010 at 3:08 am #36563daddysgirl-2Member
Mom’s Daughter, Wishing you peace in the coming days. I lost my dad to CC 19 months ago & my mom and mominlaw 2 1/2 weeks ago. While the pain is deep, there is comfort to be among others who share this sad, though common, ache.
JoleneMarch 17, 2010 at 9:19 pm #36562darlaParticipant
Dear Mom’s Daughter,
I am so sorry for your loss and what you and your family have been through. Unfortunately I and so many more have had similar experiences and know exactly how you are feeling. Thanks so much for posting this, as although it may be hard for some to read, it may help others to know what to look for and expect. Try to take comfort in knowing that your Mom is in a better place, no longer suffering or in pain. She will always be with you in your heart and memories. Take care. You have my deepest sympathy.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaMarch 17, 2010 at 8:16 pm #36561amyleaParticipant
Mom’sDaughter, I can feel your pain in your post. I am so sorry. My mom passed away on September 13th. She was originally diagnosed in October 2006, had surgery, and cancer returned August 2008. Mom was in the hospital in August 2009 and then came home on hospice also. She was with hospice for about 2 weeks. You talked about your moms breathing. That is something that still sticks in my head now. The last couple of hours mom was alive her breathing was like a nightmare that I can’t get out of my mind. I also can remember waiting for the next breath. Please know that we are here for you. I know how sad you are.
Pam, You and I will both be thinking about our moms on April 3rd. April 3rd was my mom’s birthday.
Love, AmyMarch 17, 2010 at 12:50 pm #36560cherbourgParticipant
Dear Mom’s Daughter,
My heart is breaking for you. It will be one year April 3, 2010 that I lost my Mom and I still remember the last hours of her life.
I’m so sorry you had to go through such an experience but what a blessing for your Mom that her daughter was there to hold her hand. Your Mom must have been an extraordinary woman to have raised such a loving and caring daughter.
My thoughts and prayers will be with you as you move through the coming days.
We are all here for you.
Hugs and much, much love,
PamMarch 17, 2010 at 12:38 pm #36559jeffgriederMember
My thoughts and prayers are with you!March 17, 2010 at 11:54 am #36558magicParticipant
My condolences to you and your family.What a difficult time you have experienced.Thankyou for letting us know,we do know how you feel as sadly we have lived through similar times. JanetMarch 17, 2010 at 8:27 am #36557gavinModerator
I am so very sorry to hear of the passing of your mum, please accept my sincere condolences. Having recently lost my dad to CC I know the pain you are feeling right now. My thoughts are with you and your family right now.
GavinMarch 17, 2010 at 3:41 am #36556lainyParticipant
Dear Mom’s Daughter and Family. We are so very sorry to hear about your Mom. I believe that Mother’s never really leave their children and that she will be watching over you forever. Please accept our sincere Prayers.March 17, 2010 at 3:40 am #36555lisaParticipant
I am so very sorry to read about your Mom’s passing. It is heart-wrenching to hear that she suffered so, and that you suffered with her.March 17, 2010 at 2:44 am #3311momsdaughterParticipant
It happened so quickly.
3/09 Whipple at USC
Spread to Lymph nodes
6/09-12/09 Gemzar/Xeloda Chemo at USC
12/09 More spread to Lymph Nodes
12/09 Chemo changed to Oxiliplatin/Leucorvin/5FU
2/10 Spread to Abdominal Wall, Liver, and Uterus
2/10 Stopped Chemo/Began Hospice
3/5/10 Passed Away
It began with shortness of breath for about a month. Then came the severe edema, she could barely walk. What made it unbearable for her was the severe abdominal bloating. It hurt and she could not move, sit, or stand comfortably. Her fatigue basically crippled her as she strugged the five feet to the bathroom. She was tested to make sure her heart was ok, which it was. Her cardiologist said it was the cancer spreading and her oncologist said it was her heart. I was told to take her to emergency if it got bad. I called her oncologist and insisted she be admitted to the hospital. A CT scan at the hospital revealed major spread that ravaged her body in about three weeks. We were stunned. It took five days to stabalize her in the hospital and she was told to go home, there was nothing else that could be done. As I immediately began calling other institutions, she became worse. It was too late. She was released from the hospital on a Monday and died twelve days later. She was in pain and would not take her medications because they were too many and she had difficulty swallowing. She also stopped eating and drinking. She had diarrhea and constipation. She could not stand the pain and suffering any longer. In the end, she was in hospice at home for five days, suffering a great deal and she was extremely aggitated. It took a great deal of drugs to calm her. During her last night, her breathing was scary as we waited for every breath. Her beautiful eyes rolled to the back of her head and she could not speak other than moan in pain. She took her last breath at 1:00 pm, the next afternoon. All we could do is hold her hand and speak to her one by one. It was a nightmare.
I share this with you so that you may know what can happen. This will not happen to everyone, but I think the more information we have against this monster, the better. Please cherish every day with your loved one and keep strong.
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