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  • November 30, 2010 at 1:02 am #44824
    childlikehope
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    Hi Dave,

    I just found out about my dh. Heck, I likely said just the wrong thing the first time I opened my mouth. It doesn’t truly matter. What matters is he knows how dear he is to you, just as my husband knows how dear he is to me. Yeah, we might stubble a bit, but dust off and hug him and he’ll get what he needs… his brother at his side. That’s what counts… YOU there.

    And don’t forget to laugh when you can…. my dh has said that being able to laugh with us is really good.

    Best wishes, Lisa

    November 30, 2010 at 12:06 am #44823
    gavin
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    Hi Dave,

    Welcome to the site. Sorry that you had to find us all but glad that you have, and I’m sorry to hear about your brother. I felt like you do right now when my dad got his diagnosis of inoperable CC, and he also spent 3 weeks in the hospital here in Dundee getting tested. I know that its tough right now, but try and stay strong for your borther as he will need you right now. Just be there for him, and once the shock starts to wane a bit then the fight will start, and you will both feel much better once you start to fight back.

    I know you say that your brother would not be up for travelling abroad, but do you think he would be up for getting another opinion from someone in the UK? I assume that he is being treated under the NHS and he would be able to be seen by someone else in the UK. Just thinking out loud here.

    We are all here for you and will help if we can. Please don’t give up hope.

    My best wishes to you and your brother,

    Gavin

    November 29, 2010 at 11:55 pm #44822
    tommy
    Member

    Hi Dave, Judy, my wife was diagnosed April 15 2009. The doctors told her about radiation and chemotherapy but didn’t think it would do her much good and gave her 2 to 6 months. She did the radiation,30 treatments, 26 rounds of chemotherapy and she is still going. Judy is only 54 and still wants to live to be a 100. Strong willed people can be amazing. Chin up my friend. I think LOVE and PRAYERS and FAITH and DOCTORS are the way to go. I don’t use this website as often as I should, but when I do, I always learn something and can tell all these wonderful people really do care. Tommy

    November 29, 2010 at 11:09 pm #44821
    marions
    Moderator

    Dave…..I would want to make sure that the information comes from more than one center only, as specialists disagree with their approaches. But, if the decision has been made than all you can do is to support it and wish for a positive response to the chemotherapy. We have had some really good results and there is no reason to believe that your brother won’t be just as fortunate. Please, stay connected with us. We care.
    Best wishes,
    Marion

    November 29, 2010 at 7:46 pm #44820
    lainy
    Spectator

    Wow! You are our 3rd Member from Ireland! Good luck to you on everything.

    November 29, 2010 at 7:42 pm #44819
    drummerdave
    Member

    Thanks for all your kind replies. His partner is a nurse and has asked all the relevant questions regarding 2nd opinions and surgery possibilities and has been told that it is too late to pursue other avenues.
    We live in Northern Ireland and are not sure he would be up to travelling to specialist clinics abroad.
    We are just taking each day as it comes and hope that the chemo sessions will have a positive effect.
    Dave

    November 29, 2010 at 6:19 pm #44818
    marions
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    Hello Dave….welcome to our site. I am sorry to hear of your brother. You and many other are in disbelief and shock and disbelief when receiving the diagnoses of CC. This disease has a tendency to be sneak up on us and often times, at time of diagnoses, it has progressed to an advanced stage.
    Having said that though, I would like to point out that situation is not one of any hope. Read up on some inspiring stories on this site. As our dear Kris has pointed out….”.there is no expiration stamp on anyone

    November 29, 2010 at 6:01 pm #44817
    lainy
    Spectator

    Hello Dave and welcome to our wonderful family. We are so sorry to hear about your brother. Can you tell us a little more information, like where the CC is located and where your brother is being treated. Have you thought about a 2nd opinion? Like Margaret said, there is nothing one can say except that you love him and you are there for him and to ask if there is anything you can do to help him and his family. Be strong for him and we are here for all of you.

    November 29, 2010 at 5:09 pm #44816
    mlepp0416
    Spectator

    Dave: You don’t really have to ‘say’ anything. Actions speak louder than words. Just be there for him, let him know you love him. Spend time with him and be supportive for him and his family.

    Hugs,
    Margaret

    November 29, 2010 at 4:51 pm #4390
    drummerdave
    Member

    Hello everybody.
    My brother was diagnosed last week with CC after 3 weeks of tests in hospital. He is 43 and has been told that it is inoperable. He will be starting chemo this week. I feel like the world has caved in on me, I don’t know what to say to him at the moment.
    Dave

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