October 29, 2010 at 7:59 pm #42914lainySpectator
Dearest Pam, I had a feeling. What a strong, brave and wonderful daughter you are and will always be. Please tell dad to greet Teddy when he comes up to see him. You know Dad’s never really leave their darling daughters, they just go into the next room. Our strongest Prayers and thoughts coming your way.October 29, 2010 at 5:23 pm #42913cherbourgSpectator
These are such precious moments. I’m sending prayers of strength for you and hugs.
PamOctober 29, 2010 at 3:35 pm #42912jennifersMember
I’m so sorry Pam – please know that I am sending all my positive thoughts and prayers your way. You Dad knows you are with him, and that will bring him peace and comfort in the days to come.
JenOctober 29, 2010 at 3:34 pm #42911kimmieSpectator
Pam, many thoughts and prayers coming your way.
Know that your Dad can hear you – talk to him. That’s what the hospice nurses told us, including my hospice nurse sister, but I didn’t used to believe it. When my Mom was in the state your Dad’s in, we spoke to her a lot. Mostly encouraging words that we would be ok, and she could let go and not to worry about us. They’re in that “transition phase” with one foot here and one foot in the next. When an old family friend, who’s a priest, came to bless her for what would be the last time, he said, “Bonita, I’m going to give you the Annointing of the Sick.” And my Mom, who hadn’t said anything coherent in days, said, “I really appreciate that.” She heard.October 29, 2010 at 2:41 pm #42910darlaSpectator
I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through. I have been following your posts, but it is so hard to know what to say. It is so similar to what I went through with my husband in the end. Just know that I am thinking of you and your family. Your are a wonderful, supportive daughter and I am sure that your Dad knows you are there for him. Take care Pam.
With Lots of Love & Hugs,
DarlaOctober 29, 2010 at 1:39 pm #42909amyleaSpectator
I know how hard this is. Sending lots of strength and love your way. We are all here for you.
Love, AmyOctober 29, 2010 at 1:33 pm #42908pamSpectator
Thank you, he is in a coma like state. Has not woken up in two days. Just mumbles and takes medicine. He can not follow any directions. He knows I am right here along side him. I will take good care of him until the end. Thank youOctober 29, 2010 at 1:31 pm #42907kimmieSpectator
Ditto what Michelle said – thinking of you Pam.October 29, 2010 at 7:56 am #42906micsylSpectator
We have not heard from you in a while, I am thinking of you and your dad,
with love and strength
MichelleOctober 15, 2010 at 1:29 am #42905marionsModerator
Pam…I am wishing for love, strengths, and serenity coming your way.
MarionOctober 15, 2010 at 12:40 am #42904walkMember
I can only echo what others have said. It was a little over a year ago that I was in your shoes. You are indeed providing something precious and invaluable for your father and yourself. I pray for your continued strength.
JanOctober 13, 2010 at 2:39 pm #42903jennifersMember
I’m at a loss for words right now, but please know I am thinking and praying for you and for your father… you are an incredible daughter and I’m sure your Dad is incredibly proud of you. I wish you both peace in the days to come….
JenOctober 13, 2010 at 11:58 am #42902cherbourgSpectator
My heart goes out to you. This is such a bittersweet, precious time. I’m so glad you have hospice with you. I remember that rattle as being such a horrible thing but the meds hospice gave us worked extremely well.
I know you are so tired but you are giving your Dad the most wonderful gift of love. You are indeed an amazing daughter and will be the best legacy your parents leave behind.
I will be thinking of you and am sending love, hugs and prayers.
PamOctober 13, 2010 at 10:17 am #42901micsylSpectator
But 9 days ago, i was where you are, i feel your pain and i share your journey. These days are so precious, my dad believed he would be healed to the end but was very ready to go, this gave us a sense of peace. the death rattle is so unsettling, we lost soon dad after, you dad is a fighter and though we thought that my dad would be released on 2 occasions before his death in that same week, he went on his terms when he was ready, quietly on his own, mum had left the room for 5 minutes!
We also, took our time when it came to letting go of his body, we did it when we were ready, some 4 or 5 hours later…..
I wish you strength and am with you in thought and prayer.
lots of love and a big hug.
MichelleOctober 13, 2010 at 10:02 am #42900gavinModerator
My thoughts are with you right now as you go through time this with your dad. It is just under a year since I was in the same position with my dad so I can so relate to what you are going through right now. I wish you strength, courage and hope everything goes peacefully.
Thinking of you right now.
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