October 13, 2010 at 7:38 am #42899katieloumattMember
Just to say my thoughts are with you at this very difficult time. Sending strength and peace to you.
KatieOctober 13, 2010 at 3:39 am #42898lainyParticipant
Pam we are thinking about you and about what you are going through. Wish I could tell your Dad to look for Teddy! I hope it all goes peacefully and know we are sending prayers.October 13, 2010 at 2:10 am #42897pamParticipant
Thank you all for your words of encouragement. Today I heard the “death rattle”. I know the sound because my mom experienced it before her death. Hospice had given us secretion medication so I quickly gave him some. He will be given it every four to six hours. Even though I heard it several times this afternoon, my dad awoke to wanting ice cream and candy! So of course he got it all! He will get anything he wants from here on out. My husband comes home on Friday and I hope my dad makes it until then. Luckily my brother in law came home this evening. My dad seems to do better around guys. We have double beds set up in the room so BIL will stay with him. We will see what tomorrow
brings. His Hospice nurse will see him tomorrow and will have more information for us, for sure.October 12, 2010 at 10:34 pm #42896clolomishParticipant
I’d like to ditto what Amy said.I too lost my mom on sept of last year.It was a rough journey but time well spent.Take care of yourself and many blessings to you! CorinaOctober 12, 2010 at 6:29 pm #42895amyleaParticipant
What a wonderful daughter you are. I am so sorry that you are on this difficult journey. I know how hard it is. My mom passed away last year. We are all here for you. Sending lots of hugs your way.
AmyOctober 12, 2010 at 5:38 pm #42894lainyParticipant
Pam we are so near the same place in time. Teddy is not jaundiced but very pale. His skin is getting cool, sleeping more and more, can go to the bathroom but very shaky (tired) and eating very little. It sounds like your Dad wants you to make sure they don’t take him too fast in case his time is really not over. Or maybe he wanted to have more time with your Mom before she was taken.
I also believe that people get a feeling when they know “time” is getting shorter.
Oops, I hear the little man loving about…got to run! Hang in!October 12, 2010 at 5:16 pm #42893jennifersMember
I’m so sorry to hear that he’s not doing well, but he seems very much at peace with what is to come and I hope you also find peace in that.
Continue to enjoy this precious time, the car rides, and the conversations you have with him… those are the types of memories that will help to carry you through the tough times…
Thinking of you often…
JenOctober 12, 2010 at 4:50 pm #4158pamParticipant
We enjoyed a few car rides last week. Still haven’t hired a sitter for three evenings. Yesterday my dad had a short talk with me and told me his time was near. I asked him how he knew and he just said he knows. He said he wants us to take our time when we call for his body to be picked up. He thinks we rushed my mom’s, but a nurse found she had died in her sleep and the wheels turned pretty fast. We all got to say a proper goodbye to her. I could have defended that, but all I could say was we would take good care of him.
This was a profound conversation because my dad was just talking days ago about taking vitamins and minerals to give him some strength and questioned how long they would take to work.
He is very confused and sleeps most of the time. He is eating and drinking small amounts. He can still get up to use the restroom but is very unsteady. He is extremely jaundice and has lost over fifty pounds.
I just love on him and tell him he might feel better after a little nap. One nap turns into another.
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