my dad has CC i have depression

Hi,Amir,

As a father myself, of course, I like to see my son get marry and carry the family name on for generations to come. I am an old fashion guy when comes to traditions but I am also try to keep me up to date on the knowledge of finding a better treatment for this disease.
I am a Christian by faith, sometimes we have to accept whatever God decides ; we can use God given wisdom and guidance to try our best ,to care of our family and make our future brighter even in the mist of disappointment.
That is why I told Ms.beautiful ” eyelashes” and you ” TO CHANGE THE THINGS YOU CAN AND ACCEPT THE THINGS THAT YOU CANNOT CHANGE”.
As long as the chemotherapy works and your father can tolerate the chemotherapy,that will be fine. Surgery depends on whether the tumor can be shrunk enough to do the procedure and the current health status of your dad. As long as the chemotherapy works, I do not think you need to get interventional radiology treatment at the SAME time but it will be a very wise choice down the road if chemotherapy stop working. 2nd opinion on interventional radiology is recommended if chemotherapy failed . ( ie:University affiliated hospitals in Iran) In the meantime, be strong , and enjoy the family time with your dad and the whole family. It may not be a bad idea if you can see your family doctor or go to the drug store and ask the local pharmacist to recommend an anti-depressant for you if the pharmacist are allowed to do so. It will help you to be more at ease to deal with the emotional of ups and downs of taking care of your father.
Again,seek help for yourself and be healthy . I think your father will agree with me on this too.
God bless.

Hi, Amir,
I am sorry for the situation you are in now; you are a good son for your family and the prince in your father’s eyes.
A couple years ago, on this web site, I met a young woman(whose name means “eyelashes”) from Iran who came on this message board,like you, and asked for opinions to help her mom who had the same type of cholangiocarcinoma.
If I remembered correctly in the exchanging of e mails, I told her” To change the things that she can and accept the things that she cannot change”.
Amir, I am only a patient and one of the moderator on this board.As a patient, I know first hand how your father is feeling right now, both physically and mentally,but as a father of four myself, I am not worrying about my illness as much as the future and happiness of my children; and I am sure your father will be thinking the same about you and your brothers and sisters . Base on your message above, I know you have tried your best in taking care of your father,the same way as a commander taking care of his troops in the battle field, and therefore you should be proud of yourself in caring of your father to such a great extend without any regrets.
Please take care of yourself ,in doing so, your father will be proud of you knowing that his son will be healthy and fit in the years to come.
God bless.

Amir…. A warm welcome to you. The diagnoses with this disease is known to trigger a wide range of emotions hence, I much understand your feelings well. Amir, no one can predict the true life experience of someone stage IV with this disease. Your Dad has his cancer, it presents at his stage and his response to treatment will be dictated by his body alone. In no way do I want to make light of the situation but, I also want to give you a little bit of hope and help you help yourself.
Amir, I don’t know how things work in your country but I was wondering whether other treatments such as interventional radiation has been ruled out?
You will not be lacking emotional support on this site. Collectively you have a tidal wave of love, understanding, caring and commitment heading your way. I am sure for others to be around real soon.
Please stay in touch. We care and we are in this together.
Hugs,
Marion