My Dad has gone
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Hello Ironbark,
We’ve not ‘met’ before, but I wanted to offer you my condolences. This is just a gosh-awful disease the way it tears through a patient, and the hearts of those left behind.
May you find comfort in your sweet memories of your father.
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Ironbark
I’m sorry to hear that your Dad has passed so soon after being diagnosed with CC. However, I’m pleased he is with you in spirit at this difficult time for you and your family.My condolences…………………Gerry
Ironbark,
I am sorry for the passing of your father, but you have already learned he will always be with you.Kris
Ironbark, I am so sad for you and for Lainy. I appreciate all of the thoughtful, personal posts that have given me insight in areas that I will be facing soon. Your selfless sharing is a great testimony to the caring person you are. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and all of the cc family in our holiday season.
I am so sorry to hear that your dad has passed on. I too am a believer and feel it is comforting to know our loved ones are still looking after us. He will always be with you in your heart and memories. You have a great attitude and it will get you through this sad time.
Lainy, great quote and oh so true.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaI am so sorry to hear about your Dad and that you lost him so quickly. But comforting to have him so aware until the end, and afterwards too. I have goosebumps from reading it and I believe too in these things.
I love Lainy’s saying. That is so true.
Peace and best wishes to you
JemimaI am really sorry to read this news. Your Dad sounds like an amazing man. I loved reading about the sightings you had the night he died. My sister is a home hospice nurse and has countless stories like that. (I just never put much credence in them until I experienced them for myself after my own mother died.)
Prayers and peace for you and your family.
Love,
KimI am so sorry about your Dad’s passing. He was very brave and you are a wonderful daughter. Keep memories close to your heart and take one day at a time. I lost my dad November 6th.
I agree, Patty. My condolences to you Ironbark, but how amazing that he could think of others at such a time. He must have been a wonderful person.
KateI am so sorry you have lost him. What a selfless man to ask if he could help other people, I am crying right now thinking how much humanity a person has to have inside of him to think of others at such a moment and what a great loss it is for the world that he is gone.
Patty
Dear Ironbark, I am so sorry on the loss of your father. His body may be gone from sight but he is still with you in your heart and in your mind. I can so realte with you right now. My daughter and I felt so priviledged to have witnessed Teddy’s passing. If we can take away the last 24 hours and concentrate on the beautiful, peaceful and awesome passing over, it was over whelmingly awesome. I just read this quote and loved it:
“To live in hearts we leave behind, is not to die.” Thomas Campbell
My condolences to you and your family. I believe you experienced your father and should feel a lovely peace knowing he is near. Before I was diagnosed with CC I had a “visit” from my deceased parents who told me that I had a deadly illness but that they would be at my side and not to be afraid. I felt such serenity and still, 12 months after diagnosis, feel very positive towards my disease. It is a part of living and its existence has revealed a generosity and kindness from many friends both near and far.
Hi everyone,
In the early hours of Saturday morning my father took his last breath. It was only fourteen weeks since diagnosis, and three weeks after a liver resection where we were given the news that he was now cancer free.
We had the funeral yesterday, and have asked for donations to the Qld cancer fund for the research of cholangiocarcinoma in Dad’s name instead of flowers. Our small way of helping to find a way to end the scurge of this dreadful cancer.
Dad had a good day on the first day post operatively, but a big struggle after that until he started to have multi-organ shut down. His little bit of remaining liver had never really kicked in, and it was soon follwed by his bowel, kidneys and finally his heart.
It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do to watch him slowly wither away and be helpless to do anything. I didn’t want to lose him, but in the end it wasn’t a case of trying to save his life but more that we didn’t want to prolong his death.
I was sad to lose him, but it was such a relief that he didn’t have to struggle any more.He died about an hour after losing consciousness, and was completely lucid prior to this. My sons and I feel very grateful that we were given the opportunity to say our final goodbyes, and that I was extremely privaliged to be able to stay with him until the end.
Dad showed great courage and dignity. He had been told that he wouldn’t last the night, and consciously chose not to be ventilated or rescusitated. I asked him if he was scared, and he answered ‘strangely no, I’m just concerned for those I’m leaving behind’. He even asked the doctors if there were any of his organs that could be used for others, saying ‘that’s a shame’ when he was told no.
I have just read Lainy’s post about a visit from Teddy, and I have to say that I am a big believer. On the night that Dad passed, I saw my Grandmother and Uncle, and then about 20 minutes before Dad’s last breath I saw Dad leave. It doesn’t matter if no-one believes me, I know what I saw and it was beautiful, and has given me great peace. I have since felt a hand on my shoulder when I was upset, and my grandson (10 months) was fixated on a spot on the wall, when he just started to smile and coo just before I felt the hand.
I feel that we have lost the mortal part of those precious to us Lainy, but that they still live on in some way, and we WILL meet them again.
For now I am just grateful for having been chosen as his daughter, and for such a short illness and an end to pain and suffering.
Tomorrow is another day, and the future still looks bright.Thank you to everyone for their support.
RIP Dad xxx
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