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  • July 30, 2009 at 4:28 am #30211
    cyndi
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    Stan,
    My deepest condolences to you & your family for the loss of your beloved father. Words cannot express the sadness of losing someone so dear & important in our lives. I lost my husband to this cancer recently as well & it is extremely difficult to come to terms with. Please try to find solace in the fact that he is at least no longer suffering & is finally at rest.
    Prayers be with you, Cyndi

    July 27, 2009 at 3:17 am #30212
    jamie-d
    Member

    Stan,
    You are still in my thoughts and prayers. I know when I lost my Dad I had just had my daughter a couple of weeks earlier and although it helped because I was busy taking care of her and my son it was still a very difficult time for me. Many rollercoaster emotions. Take care of yourself during this time.
    God Bless,
    Jamie

    July 27, 2009 at 12:33 am #30213
    stanvq
    Member

    All:
    Thank you for the condolences and well wishes; it will all work out, I am sure. I am happy my Dad is no longer suffering. All the family have gone back home, and I know what they mean now about the silence after all the activity dies down. I have found myself missing my pops and reflecting on his journey through this illness; when it is going on, it is hard to reflect in the present.

    Thanks to all again; I will work to provide comfort to others that are going through this.

    God bless,
    Stan

    July 19, 2009 at 7:04 pm #30224
    tess
    Member

    Dear Stan, sending many hugs in the direction of your whole family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Tess

    July 19, 2009 at 2:05 pm #30223
    jclegg
    Member

    Stan,
    I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad – it is so difficult to withstand this loss, and then to be going through such a world shaking event as a divorce at the same time is truly awful. Our thoughts and prayers will be with you, praying that God grant you peace and strength. Heaven has another angel now, to join our other loved ones in heaven, and your Dad is released from all his suffering.

    God Bless,

    Joyce C.

    July 18, 2009 at 6:00 pm #30222
    jamie-d
    Member

    Stan;
    I can only echo what everyone else has said. I am so sorry to hear of all you are going through in addition to losing your Dad. Try to take care of yourself also during these difficult times. You will be in my prayers. Take care and God Bless,
    Jamie

    July 18, 2009 at 5:03 pm #30221
    daddysgirl-2
    Member

    Oh Stan~ I am so sorry for your loss, and for what you and your family have lived through with this disease. I remember, all too well, the last night I spent with my dad before he died the next morning just about a year ago this month. You are a very loving son, and your dad must have been so proud to have you with him, during the most vulnerable, holy time of his life.

    To have been by your dad’s side knowing you were on sacred ground as the angels surrounded you and your family is such a miracle, however bittersweet.

    May God hold you and your family in His heart as you mourn for your beloved father.

    Peace be with you,
    Jolene

    by the way: You can, and will, triumph over this. My brother was in the middle of a divorce when dad died. Two significant losses at the same time -who can imagine this. Lean on your faith now more than ever. Marions often reminds us that somehow, we have the strength within us to forage on, whether we know it or not. You are in my prayers.

    July 18, 2009 at 2:47 pm #30220
    rook13
    Member

    Stan,

    Echoing all of the above sentiments. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers as you tread through this difficult time in your life.

    Blessings for you and your family…Karen

    July 18, 2009 at 1:00 pm #30219
    karen
    Spectator

    Dear Stan,

    Prayers and condolences. This is indeed a hard journey and the memories haunt for a long time. They say in time only the “good” memories surface. Be strong.
    Peace,
    Karen

    July 18, 2009 at 12:54 pm #30218
    lainy
    Spectator

    Dear Stan, we are so very sorry to hear that your dad has passed but hope you find comfort that he is now in a more peaceful place. He was fortunate to have a wonderful son who was by his side for this horrific journey. Our prayers go out to you and your family.

    July 18, 2009 at 11:00 am #30217
    darla
    Spectator

    Dear Stan,

    You and your family have my deepest sympathies. For your Dad the struggle is over. He is no longer in pain or suffering from this horrible disease. He will be with you forever in your heart & memories. I like Janet know what you are feeling and going through as do my sons who are close in age to you. My husband was also very healthy until CC reared its ugly head and our lives will never be the same. It is humbling & overwhelming. It is not an easy road, but you will manage to get by one day at a time. You are not alone. We are all here for you. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts & prayers at this very sad time.

    Darla

    July 18, 2009 at 9:45 am #30216
    magic
    Spectator

    Dear Stan,Yes it is a very challenging and surreal sort of time.I went through it recently with my husbands death with sons who are 20 years younger than you.I thought we would be totally destroyed by it but we managed to exist through it all and just hang on and come through…just.
    Look after each other and support your mother.My sincere condolences Janet

    July 18, 2009 at 7:57 am #30215
    stanvq
    Member

    My Dad, Joe (Jose) Vidal Quintana, passed away tonight at 12:58 a.m. Thank you for all of your prayers. May God has mercy on his soul.

    July 18, 2009 at 5:32 am #30214
    devoncat
    Spectator

    Stan,
    I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. I dread the day when my family and husband must suffer as you do. You and your family are in my prayers.

    Kris

    July 18, 2009 at 5:25 am #2501
    stanvq
    Member

    All:

    My Dad, Joe V. Quintana, aged 78, is in the midst of his final fight with this awful cancer. i just left my parents home a half hour ago, fully expecting my Dad to expire this evening, early morning. He is done. I have been thinking of the absolute suffering that he has undergone since being diagnosed with this awful cancer in 2/09. It makes me so sad, but I don’t have time for that. I find myself going back and forth from grieving son to managing family members, trying to ensure that my siblings, their interactions with my brothers/sister and/or Mom don’t make for unnecessary drama.

    All this while finalizing a divorce. God has put plenty on my plate, but no more than He feels I can handle.

    I just chilled out since spending 12 hours at my parent’s home, listening to my Dad struggle to breath, staring at his emaciated, yellow body, and now, all of these emotions just fill me. How many times do you need to say good-bye? How many times do you need to ensure that he knows you care? My Dad hadn’t been sick for more than four days in a row in his life until last November. Now, my whole family has had to adapt and overcome. It is scary, it is humbling, it is cruel, it is without description.

    I will always pray for the loved ones that must go through someone they love suffer through a disease like this, or similiar to this. I never knew how hard it is to go through a terrible disease like cholangiocarcinoma. The pain suffered by the patient is unimaginable to the family, and the pain suffered by the family is unimaginable to the patient.

    God bless, and Jesus mercy.
    Stan Q.
    Albuquerque, NM

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