My dad lost the battle before it started.
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July 21, 2010 at 11:25 am #40176lalupesSpectator
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss, Annette. Significant dates are so painful when you’ve lost someone – particularly the “firsts”.
This is a wonderful site, full of wonderful people who understand & who care. Please keep coming back for support & to share your experiences.
My best to you
JuliaJuly 19, 2010 at 8:26 pm #40175linda-zSpectatorHi Annette,
I am sorry for your loss, an although my father died from COPD complications, he was also 72 yrs old and his passing away was fairly sudden. I understand your grief and hope that you do find solace in this website. Come back often as we can all help each other.
My thoughts are with you and your family,
Linda Z.
July 19, 2010 at 5:52 pm #40174gavinModeratorHi Annette,
Welcome to the site, although I am sorry that you had to find us all. I know the pain that you are feeling right now and what you are going through. My dad was diagnosed late summer 2008 and passed away in December of last year. Last Monday would have been my dads birthday and he would have been 66.
Thank you for sharing about your dad today and I know that that must have been hard to do. Please feel free to come back here as much as you can and we will all be here for you and can relate to how you are feeling.
Best wishes,
Gavin
July 19, 2010 at 1:21 pm #40173darlaSpectatorDear Annette,
I am so sorry for your loss and know what you are feeling. My story is similar. My husband was only 62 and died 7 weeks after his first symtoms and only a week after confirmed diagnosis. I found this site 2 days later and have been here ever since. It will be 2 years Sept. 2 and I am so grateful to this site and the wonderful people on it for all of the love, strength and support I have gotten here. I too hope you will stay with us. Contacting Dr. Giles is another good suggestion. I did early on and it helped me a lot.
As Marion said, we are all fortunate to have loved so deeply, but that is why the pain is so intense. The sadness and loss will always be there, but we learn better how to live with it day by day.
Take care of yourself now. It takes an enormous amount of energy to deal with all that has happened and to start to heal. I feel as you do, that atleast they only suffered for a short time and that pain and suffering is now over. Your Dad will always be with you in your heart and memories.
Know that I am thinking of you and share your loss. Come here whenever you need to even if it is just to vent your anger. We are all here for you and we all understand.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaJuly 19, 2010 at 12:32 pm #40172micsylSpectatorDear Annette
My dad is also 72 with CC. You are in my thoughts and prayers at this time.
With love and strength
Michelle
July 19, 2010 at 7:49 am #40171katieloumattMemberHi Annette and welcome to the board.
I am so sorry to hear the sad news your Dad passed away so quickly after diagnosis.
I would like to share with you my story, my Dad was diagnosed May 4th 2009 and died following unsucessful liver resection on 29th June 2009. He too was 72 and sadly never reached his 73rd birthday which came just 5 weeks after he died….
I too did not find this board until after he died but since then have been a regular poster. I hope you get the comfort and support from us on here as I have done.
Please, when you feel able think about sharing your Dad’s story, sometimes writing about our experiences has a cathartic effect.
Thinking about you and your family.
Katie x
July 19, 2010 at 3:38 am #40170marionsModeratorHello Annette and welcome to our site. Although, I wish for another reason for you to join is, I am glad that you have done so. Thank you for sharing with us this very special day. I so much can relate to your feelings as the first of everything especially, the Birthday is particularly difficult to accept. It does get easier however, this takes some time. I had to understand that had I not loved so deeply I would not have hurt so much. Please, continue to reach out as many of us truly can relate to the pain you are experiencing. Also, I would like to mention that we have our very own Dr. Giles, a psychologist, who helped many of us to bridge over some of the very difficult moments and, he is there for you also.
You may find Dr. Giles by clicking on Patient Support (top bar) and scrolling down to Dr. Giles. You may also read up on the letters of others to him and who knows, you might even find some comfort in knowing that you are not alone with your thoughts.
All my best wishes to you and your family,
MarionJuly 19, 2010 at 2:22 am #3797annetteSpectatorToday is my dad’s birthday, he would have been 72 years old. I am so sad. He really never had a chance. He was diagnosed in April 2010 with cholangiocarcinoma and he passed away on June 3 2010. I guess in a way that was good because he suffered a short time. I never realized how anyone dealt with cancer and death until it hit our family. Dont even know what to say just felt compelled to share how much my dad meant to me and how much I love him on his birthday.
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