My dad’s fight came to an end
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January 8, 2015 at 6:42 pm #86156gavinModerator
Dear Carrie,
I am so very sorry to hear of the passing of your father, please accept my sincere condolences. I too lost my dad to this cancer and I know how you feel right now. Please know that my thoughts are with you and your family right now.
Hugs,
Gavin
January 8, 2015 at 9:27 am #86155middlesister1ModeratorDear Carrie,
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Take care,
CatherineJanuary 8, 2015 at 5:42 am #86154mbachiniModeratorCarrie,
I am so sorry for the loss of your father. Sending prayers for you and your mother for strength, peace and comfort…..lots of hugs.
MelindaJanuary 8, 2015 at 3:48 am #86153marionsModeratorCarrie…….my heart goes out to you and your family. I wish for your heart to heal ….one day at a time.
Hugs and love,
MarionJanuary 7, 2015 at 9:22 pm #86152debnorcalModeratorCarrie,
I am also so sorry that your dad had such a rough journey with cc. Like you, I read often and post very infrequently. I am glad you were able to find helpful information and advice on this discussion board. I hope you will continue to visit for emotional support. As you know, this is a wonderful group of folks.
I wish you and your family peace.
Debbie
January 7, 2015 at 8:44 pm #86151darlaSpectatorDear Carrie,
You and your family have my deepest sympathy. I totally understand how you are feeling and what you have gone through as our situation was much the same. My husband was 62 and we had been married 41 years. He also went quickly, less than 2 months. Thinking back I now realize that for him it was a blessing that he went so quickly and did not have to suffer for too long, but at the time I felt much like you and your family are feeling right now. It is much harder on those of us left behind to deal with the reality of it all.
Unfortunately so many here also know what it is like. Yes, too many are losing the battle, but in the past few years I have seen some positive things happening too and am hoping that some day there will be a way to prevent or cure this awful disease.
Keep your father with you forever in your heart and memories and know that you have help and support here from people who have been there and truly understand.
My thoughts are with you and your family at this sad and trying time.
With Love & Hugs,
DarlaJanuary 7, 2015 at 8:23 pm #86150lainySpectatorDear Carrie and Family, I am so very sorry to hear about your Father’s journey. Please know that you did all you could and you did all the right things. Hopefully, one day we will have all the answers.
Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn’s rain,
When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die. By Mary Elizabeth Frye
For everything beautiful that you see
will bring a memory of me.January 7, 2015 at 8:12 pm #10836carrierSpectatorI have only posted on here once but I read other’s post religiously and they have helped my family and I so much during these past three difficult months. My father passed away on Dec. 20th, three months after being diagnosed. We never in a million years thought we would be losing him so soon and we are still trying to wrap our minds around what has happened.
A little background on him; He was diagnosed with cancer on Sept. 18th of this year. At first the doctors told us they were pretty sure it was a secondary form of cancer and stage IV since it had already spread. After a week and a half we were able to get into MD Anderson where they did further testing and CT scans and they saw one 8 cm tumor on his liver with two tiny satellites. The Dr.s at MD Anderson diagnosed him with CC and started him immediately on Chemo with gem/cis. The first two rounds of chemo were ok, he had his bad days on days 3-5 but after that we would be good and exercising and eating great. He was able to maintain his weight and his blood work was looking good. After his 4th round he started to feel more fatigued and noticed some pain. We took him back to his dr where they did another CT scan and they discovered there was fluid in his lungs, they were concerned it was cancer related and decided to drain it. The also decided to change his chemo medicines and insert a port. They did see the original tumor had shrunk just a tiny tiny bit and the satellite tumors were stable but they also noticed a couple of very small nodules in the lung area. The port was scheduled for the 18th. From this point on I started to see a decline in my dad, he was weak , tired and his appetite was decreasing. They drained the fluid on Dec. 11th and by Dec. 16th we found out the fluid was cancerous. So the cancer had spread to the casing in his lungs. By this time by father was in some pretty bad pain and barely eating anything. We had an appt with his dr on the 17th to discuss our plan of action because from what my mother was telling the dr, the dr didn’t think my dad could handle another round of chemo. We took him in on the 17th and he was so weak, he could barely walk and wasn’t eating a thing. The blood work came back totally out of whack from less than a week before. The dr was concerned about how dehydrated he was an order some fluids for him. She also then told us that she didn’t think he could handle another round of chemo and that it wouldn’t do any good. Basically it would have done more harm than good. She recommended we begin hospice and told us he had about 6 months but more on the lighter side of that. My mother and I was in total disbelief. We couldn’t believe what we were hearing. The next day we choose a hospice care and began it right away. He was still aware and speaking, barely eating but getting up every now and then to walk or use the restroom. Friday morning the hospice nurse came back (Dec. 19th) and just went over a few things with us. When we asked her if she thought the end was near she said “no” but we just had to get his pain under control because he was visibly very uncomfortable. Friday he actually ate and drank more than he had in a few days, all of his brothers and sisters came to see him as well as his parents. That night I said Good Night to him and told him how much I loved him and I would see him in the morning. I received a phone call from my mom at 1:40 in the morning to come over because something wasn’t right. Luckily I live right next door so I ran over and as soon as I walked in the door my mom said my dad had passed away. We just don’t understand how the Dr could tell us he had 3-6 months to live and then he passed away 3 days later. I keep telling myself that he isn’t suffering anymore and is at peace but it’s just so hard to accept. He was only 61 years old, he had been married to my mom for 41 years and loved his grandson more than anything in the world. Plus I am expecting another baby in May and would give anything to have him here for that.
Sorry for the long post but just wanted to give his story and also tell all of ya’ll that each of ya’ll have been such a great resource and support system. Reading all of the post really gave us hope and positive energy. I pray and hope that a cure or better treatment for this evil disease is found soon, because too many great people our losing their battle to it. -
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