My husband’s liver resection and recovery

Lisa, I did not have such an extended surgery as your husband and can not add anything regarding digestive issues, other than I found it difficult to eat any significant amount at a time. People kept pushing food at me and I gained instead of lost weight, which was not good in my case. As to the tears and sobbing, I can attest to the fact that it just goes along with the diagnosis, surgery, and healing process as well as long term living with this over our heads. That said, I can also tell you that it does get some better. After having a resection in Feb of 2014, I had a recurrence found in NOv of 2015, almost 20 months later. Every scan brings up the fears again and the tears eventually flow. However, I was surprised that with this recurrence, I shed tears for the first several hours after hearing the news and then after that, I seemed to do pretty well. I think my oncologist having already contacted a surgeon for a consult the same day before I even saw the oncologist and heard the news of the recurrence had a lot to do with me handling it so much better this time around. I didn’t have the time to wait out a lot of testing….just got the news, talked to the surgeon and set up the surgery date. It was before Thanksgiving and Christmas, and the time really did go so fast with all the shopping and cooking to be done before the surgery. Keeping busy may be another good way to get through this better…..something to keep your mind off of the CC and the “what ifs”.

Julie T.

Hi Lisa . . . . I can relate somewhat. My husband was diagnosed in September – resection of 50% of his liver. He is currently undergoing chemo . . . . he is 1/2 done. We are devestated. There is no guarantee of anything. He tries to be more upbeat for me, but I know how he is feeling. We have a 14 year old and 5 year old . . . . I’m sure he pushes more for them. This site has at least showed me that we are not alone. Right now my biggest concern his my husband’s weight loss and lack of eating while going through chemo. He’s currently down 40 lbs. I pray a LOT. I think the time of the year really doesn’t help with all the emotions we are going through either. I’ll be praying for you.

Sherry – Wisconsin

Lisa, I feel for your husband as mine was in a similar situation a year ago. He had an extended resection with multiple reconstructions also. It really does get better, a bit at a time but it comes more slowly than we would like

Lisa, I am sorry your husband is so uncomfortable. The emotions and crying happen, I don’t know if it is the pain medication or what but I was teary and cried while in the hospital and thereafter, perhaps it is the thoughts of our mortality that touch such a deep feelings, I never cried for anything before that…Maybe I had never had anything to cry about before that. Focus on healing and eating if he can, It sounds like the surgery was a bit more aggressive than mine was, try to make him smile when you can, remain positive and I am thinking of and praying for you both, God bless, Pat

Dear Lisa, Welcome to our remarkable family where you will find the best in CC support. I know it is so tough after Surgery but I have to say CONGRATULATIONS that Pat was able to have it. I sincerely hope his ONC is aware of the issues Pat is having as there are Meds for everything. I am wondering if he might give Pat a RX just to take the edge off of what he is going through. I feel so bad for him as it is as if they turned him inside out! The vomiting, pain and constipation should be able to be controlled as well. I am glad you are holding it together but remember to be kind to yourself as well, it is a long haul for recovery. Sending you the very best including some huge cyber hugs! { } { } { } Please keep us updated on Pat’s progress!