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I also would like to welcome you to our site. My heart goes out to all involved especially the young children. My youngest son was 18 years old when my husband passed (almost 4 years ago) and he continues to struggle with the loss of his Dad. Counseling had been of tremendous help and it continues to be so. Given that your sister’s children are still very young I believe that some support is needed. You may want to reach out to community services or, as has been mentioned, to Hospice. This is a tough time for all Please; continue to reach out for support whichever way it is offered including, from the incredible members on this board. We are in this together.
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MarionCancer doesn’t care about age, families, or wealth. It just consumes lives and wreaks families as we know them. It will bring families closer as we fight together and will bring perfect strangers from all walks of life together if we let others share their concerns. Just one look at the posts on this site and you can tell we all are individuals, but share a common bond in cc. Everyone tries to relay what is working or not and tries to offer encouragement and information as it applies. Try to read and post whenever you can.
I am sorry to hear about your sister and my heart breaks for her. I am a 42 y/o mother of 6. The ages are 21, 18, 15, 12, 12, and 8. The youngest two are stepchildren but are as close as my own. My will to survive is purely for them and can’t imagine leaving them and for them to have to go back to my ex-husband. I feel her pain and your frustration. I am sorry and wish I had some miraculous words of wisdom….I do believe in miracles and my faith is strong, but that doesn’t always keep me from thinking about what might come.
My 21y/o son, who is in the Navy called the other night and said sorry for all the things he may have done and begged me to live to see him have children. I promised to do my best…that is all we can do.
Know that you and your sister are not alone and I pray for your depression and anxiety to lessen so you can focus on the moments that are precious now.
Melinda
Dear Vwallis, We are so sorry to hear about your sister’s prognosis. It is indeed so very sad. I just want to mention that if she asks for Hospice to help now they also council with the family. They are terrific and can help ease her journey in a painless way. My husband is in home Hospice now and they are truly Angels.
Hi vwallis,
Welcome the the site. I am sorry that you had to find us all and I am very sorry indeed to hear of your sister. But I am glad that you have joined us all as you will get a ton of support and help from all of us here. I came here back in 2009 when my dad was diagnosed with inoperable CC and for me, it was the best thing that I could have done.
You are right in that you are not alone anymore, and here you are among people who know how you feel and what you are going through. We understand and we care. I so hope that you will keep coming back as coming here and the people here helped me enormously and I am sure that this will also help you. Please feel free to ask any questions and we will all help if we can. Also what may help is posing a question to Dr Giles who we have here to help all members. He is a licensed psychologist and has helped many members in dealing with CC and the effects of CC on family members.
You can follow this link here should you wish to ask him a question.
http://www.cholangiocarcinoma.org/ask.htm
My best wishes to you and your sister,
Gavin
Thank you for your support. It means so much to me. I am grateful for this website and I no longer feel so alone. However, I feel as though there is a dark cloud over me and has been there since her diagnosis. Two months ago it was beginning to dissipate. I truly thought she was going to pull through. Perhaps I was in denial. I’m beginning to believe that it is in God’s plan to take her. I spoke with her yesterday and she sounded strong. She told me she found a burial spot by other family members. Now the dark cloud is back. I can’t even imagine what she is going through, though I think about it daily. How hard it would be to look into my own children’s eyes and know soon I would no longer be there to guide them and love them. It’s heart wrenching and unfair. Please let me know what others do to help combat depression and anxiety. It seems unrelenting.
Welcome,
I am so sorry to hear about your sister.
I lost my soulmate last Dec he left me with a wonderful 15 yr old son,
We often breakdown & miss him.
We will pray for your family.
TAKE CARE
nkWelcome to the site. Iam so sorry about yoour sister. We are of a similar age and though I dont have children, I do understand the strong will to fight. My sister is my bestfriend too and is in fact one of my biggest worries about my passing. Sisters are so special and the bond between is incredible. It is that bond that will help your sister get through this.
Kris
Hi vwallis:
As a mother to a young child and was diagnosed last year with CC, let me say I understand your sister’s will to fight. I’m sorry that she’s faced with this disease and has heard such frightening news from her oncologist. Feel free to visit as often as you need to so that you can obtain support and vent your frustration. Your sister is so blessed that you care so very much for her and her children.
My sister was diagnosed with stage 4 CC April 20, 2010. She is 34 years old and has two children (7 &
. She is my only sibling and my best friend. She has been going to CTCA since June. They told her over the weekend she needs to get her affairs in order. The cancer is continuing to spread. It is in her lungs, liver, pancreas, pelvis, liver and has eaten nearly all of her sternum away. I truly hate cancer. She is a single mother and when she passes, her two beautiful children will go to her horrid ex-husband. This is a terrible disease and my heart goes out to all of those who have family/friends who are currently going through this or have lost someone dear to them. My sister continues to keep a positive attitude and brings all she has to the table each day to fight for her life. I still pray daily for a miracle.
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