March 10, 2011 at 11:08 pm #46848nancy246Member
Tommy, So sorry to hear of Judy’s passing but glad the pain will be no more. She sounds like a remarkable woman. I am glad you have your daughters close by for support. Take care of yourself. NancyMarch 10, 2011 at 8:33 pm #46847darlaParticipant
I am so sorry for your loss. Try to find some comfort in knowing that for Judy the fight is over. She is no longer in pain or suffering and has moved on to a better place. She will always be with you in your heart and memories. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaMarch 10, 2011 at 7:38 pm #46846andieMember
I am so sorry to hear that your beloved Judy has passed away.
There are really no words I can say to make it better but I know that watching my Dad the last week of his life was heartbreaking and knowing he is now at peace helps the pain a little.
The next few days will be a blur with orgainising the funeral etc, but you have 3 loving daughters and the love you share will give you the strength to get through the days and weeks ahead.
Sending love to you and your family
AndreaMarch 10, 2011 at 1:52 pm #46845lainyMember
Dearest Tommy, I am so very sorry to hear about Judy but then again she deserves to be at Peace. I know it will be hard at first but your life will go on with 3 daughters who will make you both very proud. Judy seemed to be a remarkable woman and I am positive she felt the great love around her through this awful journey. She will never be far in spirit and her love for all of you.
From a book of blessings called “Benedictus” by John O’Donohue
When you lose someone you love,
Your life becomes strange,
The ground beneath you becomes fragile,
Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
Your heart has grown heavy with loss.
And though this loss has wounded others too,
No one knows what has been taken from you
When the silence of absence deepens.
There are days when you wake up happy;
Again inside the fullness of life,
Until the moment breaks
And you are thrown back
Onto the black tide of loss.
Days when you have your heart back,
You are able to function well
Until in the middle of work or encounter,
Suddenly with no warning,
You are ambushed by grief.
More than you, it knows its way
And will find the right time
To pull and pull the rope of grief
Until that coiled hill of tears
Has reduced to its last drop.
Gradually, you will learn acquaintance
With the invisible form of your departed;
And when the work of grief is done,
The wound of loss will heal
And you will have learned
To wean your eyes
From that gap in the air
And be able to enter the hearth
In your soul where your loved one
Has awaited your return
All the time.March 10, 2011 at 1:39 pm #46844tommyMember
Judy’s final breath was taken at 5:26 AM, March 9 2011. This has been a terrible final week. I am so glad Judy is no longer suffering. I will miss her more than I can say. Thank you to everyone for helping me along the way.March 10, 2011 at 1:01 pm #46843orchidMember
Minkzy, thank you for sharing your story.
It seems that our situations are quite similar and it is lovely to hear you talk about times with your sister so fondly, even at the most challenging of days. It seems you shared a very similar, close relationship with your sister and the ability to pick up each others spirits and comfort each other even when things look desperate. It sounds like your were an incredible support to your sister and you shared that unique level of understanding for each other that can often been found between siblings.
My only sister died of BDC at the age of 27 last August, less than 6 months after original diagnosis. She too put up an amazing fight, never gave up and kept very strong throughout treatment.
The loss of a sibling is irreplaceable and something I can sincerely sympathise with. While I am truly sorry for your loss, thank you for posting; it is of some comfort for me to hear of someone who has been through a similar situation and is so positive. I feel like the grief will be a very long journey which I am only just beginning, but that is perhaps a topic for one of the other forums.
Thanks again, your sister sounds like an amazing woman and I wish you the very best.February 1, 2011 at 6:56 am #46842joolz822Member
Thank you for sharing such a lovely remembrance of your sister.January 31, 2011 at 12:53 am #46841nancy246Member
Mark, Your message gave me goosebumps. Your sister was truly remarkable and so are you. Thank you for sharing your story it gives many of us comfort. NancyJanuary 30, 2011 at 5:54 am #46840tiapattyMember
You have made a beautiful tribute to your sister and her life in your post and I am sure that anyone who reads it would feel as I did–that I would liked to have known her and that the world is a lesser place without her. You also made me understand more clearly exactly what I went through with my mom, thank you.
PattyJanuary 30, 2011 at 5:02 am #46839minkyzMember
Thank you for your kind responses– each and everyone of you! I appreciate having the opportunity to share.
MarkJanuary 16, 2011 at 5:38 am #46838slittle1127Member
What grace and acceptance you and your sister demonstrated. God has truly blessed both of you with each other and in sharing this cc experience with all its ups and downs, you two made the best of it. May your blessings abound in 2011. I know you will always miss your sister, but you carry her in your heart. Blessings, SusanJanuary 16, 2011 at 2:07 am #46837darlaParticipant
I agree with everyone else. What a great attitude. Thanks for posting this and sharing your thoughts and feelings with us.
DarlaJanuary 16, 2011 at 1:35 am #46836charleaMember
It is always so heartening to read letters such as Minkyz’s. The beauty of her words in describing her relationship to her sister is wonderful but also her ability to see the positive in the experience of dealing with a devastating illness and not be diminished by it.January 15, 2011 at 9:34 pm #46835lainyMember
Dearest Minkzy, welcome to our wonderful family. That was a beautiful letter about your sister and I believe the biggest blessing was that you had each other for a sister. I know it sounds absolutely bizarre to call a disease like CC a Blessing, but it really is in so many ways. I also like her expression, “Life on Life’s terms”. Excellent. I am so very glad that you shared your story with us and I wish you many blessed memories!January 15, 2011 at 9:13 pm #46834kathybMember
I don’t often read the “In Remembrance” posts as I have inoperable cc, but for some reason I clicked on yours. I think it was the word “blessing” that drew me to it.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts/feelings about your beautiful sister and the time you had together.
I truly believe God can bring good out of horrible circumstances. I hope I will always realize my blessings and be a blessing to others, like your sister.
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