Discussion Board Forums In Remembrance My Sister’s Blessing

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  • #46848
    nancy246
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    Tommy, So sorry to hear of Judy’s passing but glad the pain will be no more. She sounds like a remarkable woman. I am glad you have your daughters close by for support. Take care of yourself. Nancy

    #46847
    darla
    Participant

    Tommy,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Try to find some comfort in knowing that for Judy the fight is over. She is no longer in pain or suffering and has moved on to a better place. She will always be with you in your heart and memories. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    Love & Hugs,
    Darla

    #46846
    andie
    Member

    Dearest Tommy,

    I am so sorry to hear that your beloved Judy has passed away.

    There are really no words I can say to make it better but I know that watching my Dad the last week of his life was heartbreaking and knowing he is now at peace helps the pain a little.

    The next few days will be a blur with orgainising the funeral etc, but you have 3 loving daughters and the love you share will give you the strength to get through the days and weeks ahead.

    Sending love to you and your family

    Take care

    Andrea

    #46845
    lainy
    Member

    Dearest Tommy, I am so very sorry to hear about Judy but then again she deserves to be at Peace. I know it will be hard at first but your life will go on with 3 daughters who will make you both very proud. Judy seemed to be a remarkable woman and I am positive she felt the great love around her through this awful journey. She will never be far in spirit and her love for all of you.
    From a book of blessings called “Benedictus” by John O’Donohue
    When you lose someone you love,
    Your life becomes strange,
    The ground beneath you becomes fragile,
    Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
    Your heart has grown heavy with loss.
    And though this loss has wounded others too,
    No one knows what has been taken from you
    When the silence of absence deepens.
    There are days when you wake up happy;
    Again inside the fullness of life,
    Until the moment breaks
    And you are thrown back
    Onto the black tide of loss.
    Days when you have your heart back,
    You are able to function well
    Until in the middle of work or encounter,
    Suddenly with no warning,
    You are ambushed by grief.
    More than you, it knows its way
    And will find the right time
    To pull and pull the rope of grief
    Until that coiled hill of tears
    Has reduced to its last drop.
    Gradually, you will learn acquaintance
    With the invisible form of your departed;
    And when the work of grief is done,
    The wound of loss will heal
    And you will have learned
    To wean your eyes
    From that gap in the air
    And be able to enter the hearth
    In your soul where your loved one
    Has awaited your return
    All the time.

    #46844
    tommy
    Member

    Judy’s final breath was taken at 5:26 AM, March 9 2011. This has been a terrible final week. I am so glad Judy is no longer suffering. I will miss her more than I can say. Thank you to everyone for helping me along the way.

    #46843
    orchid
    Member

    Minkzy, thank you for sharing your story.

    It seems that our situations are quite similar and it is lovely to hear you talk about times with your sister so fondly, even at the most challenging of days. It seems you shared a very similar, close relationship with your sister and the ability to pick up each others spirits and comfort each other even when things look desperate. It sounds like your were an incredible support to your sister and you shared that unique level of understanding for each other that can often been found between siblings.

    My only sister died of BDC at the age of 27 last August, less than 6 months after original diagnosis. She too put up an amazing fight, never gave up and kept very strong throughout treatment.

    The loss of a sibling is irreplaceable and something I can sincerely sympathise with. While I am truly sorry for your loss, thank you for posting; it is of some comfort for me to hear of someone who has been through a similar situation and is so positive. I feel like the grief will be a very long journey which I am only just beginning, but that is perhaps a topic for one of the other forums.

    Thanks again, your sister sounds like an amazing woman and I wish you the very best.

    #46842
    joolz822
    Member

    Thank you for sharing such a lovely remembrance of your sister.

    #46841
    nancy246
    Member

    Mark, Your message gave me goosebumps. Your sister was truly remarkable and so are you. Thank you for sharing your story it gives many of us comfort. Nancy

    #46840
    tiapatty
    Member

    Mark,

    You have made a beautiful tribute to your sister and her life in your post and I am sure that anyone who reads it would feel as I did–that I would liked to have known her and that the world is a lesser place without her. You also made me understand more clearly exactly what I went through with my mom, thank you.

    Patty

    #46839
    minkyz
    Member

    Thank you for your kind responses– each and everyone of you! I appreciate having the opportunity to share.

    Mark

    #46838
    slittle1127
    Member

    What grace and acceptance you and your sister demonstrated. God has truly blessed both of you with each other and in sharing this cc experience with all its ups and downs, you two made the best of it. May your blessings abound in 2011. I know you will always miss your sister, but you carry her in your heart. Blessings, Susan

    #46837
    darla
    Participant

    Dear Minkyz,

    I agree with everyone else. What a great attitude. Thanks for posting this and sharing your thoughts and feelings with us.

    Darla

    #46836
    charlea
    Member

    It is always so heartening to read letters such as Minkyz’s. The beauty of her words in describing her relationship to her sister is wonderful but also her ability to see the positive in the experience of dealing with a devastating illness and not be diminished by it.

    #46835
    lainy
    Member

    Dearest Minkzy, welcome to our wonderful family. That was a beautiful letter about your sister and I believe the biggest blessing was that you had each other for a sister. I know it sounds absolutely bizarre to call a disease like CC a Blessing, but it really is in so many ways. I also like her expression, “Life on Life’s terms”. Excellent. I am so very glad that you shared your story with us and I wish you many blessed memories!

    #46834
    kathyb
    Member

    minkzy,

    I don’t often read the “In Remembrance” posts as I have inoperable cc, but for some reason I clicked on yours. I think it was the word “blessing” that drew me to it.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts/feelings about your beautiful sister and the time you had together.

    I truly believe God can bring good out of horrible circumstances. I hope I will always realize my blessings and be a blessing to others, like your sister.

    Kathy

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