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Carlyn,
Please know that your sweet momma is with her savior now. She has no pain and is in perfect health. You will see her again soon. I’m sure she’s watching over you right now. I’ll be praying for you all. God bless.
Dear Carlyn, I am so very sorry about your Mom. Part of the loss we feel beside loosing a loving Mother, is the letting go of taking care! You accomplished an extraordinary feat and I know your Mom was proud and lucky to have you take this terrible journey with her.
Letter from Heaven by Ruth Ann Mahaffey
To my dearest family some things I’d like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived okay,
I’m writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there’s no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy because I’m out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said “I welcome you,
It’s good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they’ll be here later on.
God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
One thing is for certain though my life on earth is o’er
I’m closer to you now than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
Together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you’re walking down the street and you’ve got me on your mind
I’m walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind
And when it’s time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you’re not going . . you’re just coming here to me.Carlyn,
I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. Now she’s not in pain and at peace.
I know how you feel, my dad passed away 10 years ago from cancer too.
We all are here for you. Let me know if I could help with anything.
I’ll be praying for you and your MOM
LeeAnnThis morning at 2:12 AM Mom completed her journey from life to eternal life. Everyday her health changed dramatically. I am glad I did it and brought her home and I couldn’t have done it without Hospice, they were just wonderful. I feel bad about the times I made my mom feel bad about her health, she was right a body does what it does and you can’t stop it. Today she is celebrating a new body.
I don’t know what to do, I have taken care of and worried about her for the past 3+ years, I feel lost.
I miss her so much.Carlyn
Dear Carlyn, I am so glad your mom is in a peaceful state. I was in your position a few months ago with my husband. Being with her, loving her, and letting her go peacefully is a beautiful yet sad experience. We are with you. Hugs. Nancy
Carlyn,
I am very sorry and will pray for your dear Mom. Take care and I wish you strength to deal with whatever comes your way.
Love, -Pam
Today was hard. We had a few lucid moments but mostly Mom is asleep. No food today. Some water she had a small amount of protein shake with banana.
The scariest moment was after dinner I couldn’t wake her. I was yelling and shaking her, everyone came in the room. We called Hospice and they said keep trying and they would be over. She was still breathing but totally unresponsive. Then our little dog jumped on the bed (she has never been in the hospital bed) and she woke up! It took awhile but she started talking some, we tried to get her up but she is totally bed ridden. I am unsure is she will wake on the morning. The nurse said because of the high ammonia, bilerubin and other chemicals building up she may fall onto a comma, she will be able to hear us but won’t be able to respond. It’s ok, I prayed for peace and comfort. She is only having morphine every eight hours nothing else. She is in no pain. I will miss her.Blessings on your journey,
CarlynI think you are both doing great and should be proud of yourselves. The wanting the end is just because you care so much and don’t want them to suffer. I find it is almost like your life is on hold. You need to take a little time for yourselves to. Stay strong.
Carlyn..there is comfort in knowing beforehand the process to come. These are some of the most precious moments in our lives; bittersweet and yet so very rewarding.
Hold on to it, Carlyn,
Hugs and love,
MarionShar, I forgot to mention that I think everyone wishes it would be over but that is different than wishing our loved one would die. No one wants to go through seeing someone they love suffer. I have “baggage ” with my Mom but this past week none of it matters and I find myself touching her more, kissing her forehead and rubbing lotion on her tired body, holding her hand when she cries, and just being present in the moment.
My Mom too is experiencing little pain, for the first time in YEARS she said she is a zero. I am keeping to her normal pain meds so that it doesn’t hit her like a train. I think my Mom is experiencing a positive transition to heaven because of all the prayers, I am going to choose to BELIEVE.Blessings on your journey,
CarlynShar, I love that name my mom’s youngest sister has the same name
I am so glad someone on this site said I could call hospice up to a year ahead, I did and I am so glad I did. They have been wonderful telling me what to expect and just very calming and encouraging. When my mom’s symptoms changed overnight I called and they came right over and gave her a quick assessment. That gave me peace that I was responding correctly and not overreacting or being overly dramatic. Call them for YOU and your MOM.Marions, They brought me the book you are referring to today. It was a short read but worth it . The hospice lady said of course she cannot predict the time of death but we are possibly within two weeks. She is quickly experiencing most of the signs that book talks about. I have been short with her a few time but it is mostly because I am scared about living with out her. Frustrated that it is not her anymore it’s the cancer. I feel that she is already gone.
Blessings on your journey,
CarlynShar…I am so sorry to hear the latest. There comes a point when we are at a loss – when we look for answers to some of the most painful questions ever to encounter. The “Supportive, Palliative, and Hospice Care” thread has helped many of us through this difficult time. It is tough to read for some, but I believe strongly that those, who have contributed to this thread have gifted this site with unprecedented candor and honesty, and for that I am ever so grateful.
My heart is with you,
Hugs and love,
MarionCarolyn…you are giving to your Mom the most loving gifts of all. It is anything but easy; we are not trained beforehand – we do it out of love. Now it is all about comfort for your Mom. She is in good hands with you and the hospice team – she has raised a fine daughter.
My heart is with you.
Hugs and love,
Marion
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