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  • #91025
    Darla wrote:
    Sharon,

    You’ve already gotten some great responses and advice. All I can add is to cherish the time you have be it more or less and just take things one day at a time. Feel free to come here and vent all you want. We are all more than happy to listen. We’ve all been there and are happy to help and support you in any way that we can. As Jim said, you are not alone.

    Take care and let us know how you and Phil are doing.

    Love & Hugs,
    Darla

    Thank you Darla. Taking things one day at a time is definitely the best advice. I will work hard on this. As one who has an impatient personality, I will have to learn patience so that I can help Phil better.
    Love and hugs back. Thank you for listening.
    Sharon

    #91024
    middlesister1 wrote:
    Sharon,

    We are here to listen.

    Mom was diagnosed with CC on their 54th anniversary. She told us later that they spent the evening having a quiet dinner together, putting music on and dancing. We are so blessed that she so far has beaten the odds (she was given a year) and they celebrated 56 years in October. However, yesterday we got confirmation that Dad has cancer which has spread to his brain. Mom is very sad and mad as well. She said the only way she will be able to deal is by looking at how we face today; she does not have the strength to look at the future and what they may face. We spent the afternoon in the hospital with them playing cards while waiting for Dad to go for a bone scan.

    Scared for tomorrow, but trying to appreciate today.

    Take care,
    Catherine

    Oh Catherine…….you hit the nail on the head. “Scared for tomorrow but trying to appreciate today.” Thank you!
    Sharon

    #91023
    mkc228 wrote:
    We laugh. We cry. We hope and pray. We listen to our doctors and we challenge them to find a better way. We face whatever comes because we know we have to.

    Mary was diagnosed in January and it’s been a fight ever since. I’m sure we’ll do the same this year, as will you.

    I am learning to lean on friends and family even more, hoping they can build a relationship with Mary before she goes. I’m also finding time for silence to listen where we’re supposed to go and do. Only God knows. It is a great comfort to know we’re not alone.

    I hope this helps.
    Jim

    Jim,

    Thank yo. You have been very helpful. We will do the same : laugh, cry , hope and pray.

    Praying for you and your journey.
    Thanks again
    Sharon

    #91022
    IrishMac wrote:
    I understand the anger fully and the lack of hope re a New Year. The other day I found myself shouting and swearing in the car whilst driving on my own.

    I wish you both well in the fight. I’m just taking each day as it comes happy that my Dad is still with us.

    Thank you for your response. I have done the same thing-screaming and crying in the car. Just knowing we’re not alone is a comfort. I also wish you well in your fight.

    #91021
    darla
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    Sharon,

    You’ve already gotten some great responses and advice. All I can add is to cherish the time you have be it more or less and just take things one day at a time. Feel free to come here and vent all you want. We are all more than happy to listen. We’ve all been there and are happy to help and support you in any way that we can. As Jim said, you are not alone.

    Take care and let us know how you and Phil are doing.

    Love & Hugs,
    Darla

    #91020
    mkc228
    Participant

    We laugh. We cry. We hope and pray. We listen to our doctors and we challenge them to find a better way. We face whatever comes because we know we have to.

    Mary was diagnosed in January and it’s been a fight ever since. I’m sure we’ll do the same this year, as will you.

    I am learning to lean on friends and family even more, hoping they can build a relationship with Mary before she goes. I’m also finding time for silence to listen where we’re supposed to go and do. Only God knows. It is a great comfort to know we’re not alone.

    I hope this helps.
    Jim

    #91019
    middlesister1
    Moderator

    Sharon,

    We are here to listen.

    Mom was diagnosed with CC on their 54th anniversary. She told us later that they spent the evening having a quiet dinner together, putting music on and dancing. We are so blessed that she so far has beaten the odds (she was given a year) and they celebrated 56 years in October. However, yesterday we got confirmation that Dad has cancer which has spread to his brain. Mom is very sad and mad as well. She said the only way she will be able to deal is by looking at how we face today; she does not have the strength to look at the future and what they may face. We spent the afternoon in the hospital with them playing cards while waiting for Dad to go for a bone scan.

    Scared for tomorrow, but trying to appreciate today.

    Take care,
    Catherine

    #91018
    irishmac
    Member

    I understand the anger fully and the lack of hope re a New Year. The other day I found myself shouting and swearing in the car whilst driving on my own.

    I wish you both well in the fight. I’m just taking each day as it comes happy that my Dad is still with us.

    #91017

    Thank you Lainy. I wish he had the strength to go somewhere, but his pain and energy level won’t allow for much. We were very active before this- riding bicycles, hiking, camping, kayaking and scuba diving- this disease put an abrupt stop to that and robbed us of our future.

    I appreciate the advice and I will cherish each moment we are together. It does help to express my anger here- a much needed outlet.

    Thanks again and my apologies for dampening new year’s spirits.

    God bless you for your listening ear.

    #91016
    lainy
    Participant

    Dear Sharon, Teddy and I had only been married 10 years when he was Diagnosed. His mind set was always “now we know what is wrong, let’s fix it!” He never lost hope but knew what was to happen. He had an aborted Whipple Surgery, a double e coli infection, the real deal Whipple, Cyber Knife as his too could not be treated with chemo and actually made it through 5 years. The whole time we were like honeymooners. It became a matter of making new Memories and of being on a perpetual honeymoon. He was on Morphine for months.
    My point is to make the most of what ever time any of us have sick or not. I didn’t want to look back and only have memories of CC and he didn’t want that for me either. We even took a cruise around Hawaii. Not long after his “relocation” I began to have only the best of memories that still carry me through today. I know you are angry and you have a right to be but I hope you can climb over the anger as it will also help Phil get through what he has to as well. If you find that this just cannot be done then I would suggest talking to your own Doctor about something to help get you through and take the edge off. It will help. And of course writing it out here helps too. Sending you big hugs!

    #12000

    How does one deal with the knowledge that this coming year her spouse will likely be taken due to this terrible disease?

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