August 4, 2017 at 1:13 am #94467marionsModerator
Gail… I echo Darla’s comments. No one is prepared to handle all that comes with losing a spouse to this cancer while raising three little ones and working full time. Incredible!
You will need to recharge your batteries. Hoping you find a few moments to nourish your body and soul.
Tons of hugs,
MarionAugust 3, 2017 at 12:44 pm #94466darlaParticipant
It sounds like you are slowly beginning to get things in order. I’m glad you had a lot of help and support as it is so needed in the beginning as we seem to be in a fog of unreality. The camp for the kids sounds like a good arrangement and your sons plans to be a counselor in the future are admirable. You are definitely doing a good job under these difficult circumstances.
Yes, only those of us who have been in your shoes and dealt with this rare cancer can truly understand. The effects it has on us never really go away, but it does get better with time.
Just keep on doing the best that you can and take things one day at a time.
Take care and know that we are all here to help and support you in any way that we can. We understand what you are going through and truly do care.
Lots of Love & Hugs,
DarlaAugust 3, 2017 at 3:41 am #94465momof3Participant
Thanks so much for your note. I just logged into the site for the first time in a while and it was so nice to find your message.
It’s hard to believe how quickly time is slipping by. I was so blessed with amazing support from friends, family and colleagues in the first few weeks. The funeral, as hard as it was, really brought together all of the aspects of our lives. And thanks to the generosity of my colleagues, i had secured day camp arrangements for the kids for the summer (before this my husband was home full time with the kids).
Last week the kids had the opportunity to go to Camp Kesem, which I can’t say enough wonderful things about. My 11 year old already has plans to become a counselor for them when he turns 18! I would highly encourage those on this board to find out more about it for their kids.
I’m now trying to begin the juggle of full time work, maintaining the household, getting ready for the twins to start middle school, and everything else life entails. Of course sleep is rare and not restful, but I’m doing the best I can.
I can’t say enough about how much the support I have had from everyone on this board has been. This is truly a unique cancer and I feel like only those who have been done our road can truly understand.
I hope you are doing well.
GailJuly 25, 2017 at 3:34 am #94464
Please know that I have been keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers this past month.
VictoriaJune 18, 2017 at 8:35 pm #94463middlesister1Moderator
My heartfelt condolences are with you and the family.
CatherineJune 18, 2017 at 4:12 pm #94462marionsModerator
Gail….please accept my most heartfel condolences on the loss of your husband.
No matter how accepting we think we are of death, coming to terms with the loss of a loved one can be shocking, divisive, and devastating. Please allow yourself time to grief.
You may find comfort in knowing that you did everything and more to help guide his transition and nothing more could have been done. You did it all.
May your heart begin to heal …one day at a time.
Hugs and tons of love,
MarionJune 18, 2017 at 4:00 pm #94461bglassModerator
Please accept my condolences for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.
MaryJune 17, 2017 at 6:05 pm #94460gavinModerator
I am so very sorry indeed to hear of your loss. Please accept my sincerest condolences. I so wish there was something I could say that would help right now but know there are no words. Please know that right now my thoughts are with you and your family.
GavinJune 17, 2017 at 5:22 pm #94459hopeseekerParticipant
So very sorry for your loss. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. You were a brave and wonderful caretaker to your beloved husband.June 17, 2017 at 3:17 pm #94458debnorcalModerator
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family have been, and will continue to be, very much in my thoughts. As Darla said, in time the pain will ease and the happy memories will shine through.
Wishing you comfort and peace.
DebbieJune 17, 2017 at 12:01 pm #94457darlaParticipant
Know that I am thinking of you and your sweet children this morning. I am so sorry for your loss. None of this is easy, but you are a strong lady. In time the pain and sadness will ease and you will be able to remember the good times before this terrible disease entered your lives. May those memories bring you comfort and peace.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaJune 17, 2017 at 6:47 am #94456
I am so sorry for your loss. I will hold your family in my heart. You can do this.
VictoriaJune 17, 2017 at 6:21 am #94455momof3Participant
It’s overJune 17, 2017 at 5:40 am #94454
I was so glad to see the graduation photo and hear that you were able to spend time with your kids on their special day. I know that you are doing the best you can for your family and that your children are so blessed to have you as their mom. Please do what you need to do to be wherever you want to be. If that is by your husband bedside, then make that happen and worry (or don’t) about hurt feelings later. This is such a difficult phase in your lives, and I will be thinking of you all as you continue this journey.
VictoriaJune 16, 2017 at 2:19 pm #94453debnorcalModerator
I am so very sorry that it has come to this. My heart is breaking for you and your children. Your courage and clarity of mind during this unimaginably difficult time are admirable. You are doing an outstanding job of providing comfort to your husband and also leading your children through this difficult terrain. Hang in there – your husband’s journey will get easier soon and there will be time to relax the need to be strong and accept comfort from your friends. We are here for you.
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