So worried for my dad :-(
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Sam…..the vomiting may be related to a blockage due to tumor growth or there may be an actual physical blockage which may be able to be addressed with stenting. Either way, it is unlikely for the vomiting to stop on it’s own and as Crissie mentioned, it is unlikely to recede on it’s own and unlikely to respond to anti-nausea medication. I am sorry to hear of the pain your Dad is encountering – definitely it has to be addressed. There is plenty of medication available to keep your Dad comfortable.
No one knows for sure, but I agree with the others in that things are moving rather rapidly.
My heart is with you.
Hugs,
MarionEveryone is different, but this is how my husband was. He tried to keep going and working as long as he could until he just couldn’t any more. I too was in denial and didn’t see how fast he was going down hill. Yes, for him it went rapidly towards the end and he also couldn’t eat and would vomit bile, was totally exhausted all the time and couldn’t sleep. Meds didn’t help him either. I think Lainy’s list may be helpful to you at this point and I agree, he does need hospice. Know that we are all here for you to help in any way that we can.
Hugs,
DarlaToward the end my dad was like that. He would vomit all of the time but couldn’t eat. The anti nausea meds did not help….he would vomit bile. He would get exhausted really fast but couldn’t sleep.
Dear Sammi, I am so very sorry to read this. I do believe that people pick their time to go and know when they have had enough. Is he getting pain and nausea meds? I totally agree with you that he needs Hospice and to stop work. It sounds like on one side he has accepted it but on the other side he is still fighting. You see, the longer he goes without help for pain and nausea the worse it will get, Hospice can at least provide comfort for him so you can all have a little quality if life with him while he can. My suggestion would be Home Hospice and he needs to know he does not have to show his strength by working as he has already done that. He also does not have to show strength by what he thinks is giving in as he has already showed that he is strong. He needs help from Hospice. I have a list of 10 things to watch for near the end and if you email me I would send them to you. My husband followed all but the #10. Sammi, be very strong and we are all here for you.
I’m not really sure where I should be posting this, I’m seeking some support and advice regarding my dad.
He got the news just over a week ago that his cancer has grown and is in his lymph nodes and that he’s looking at just a few months left.
Since he received the news he has really gone downhill. He is experiencing a lot of pain, struggles to talk (his voice is very weak and husky), he’s really cold even with the heating on – but then gets sweats at night and he’s exhausted. He’s also stopped eating but drinks complan shakes. He’s also started vomiting regularly. Despite this he continues to work and all of the family are trying to get him to reduce his hours if he’s not ready to stop completely.
He was diagnosed just 5 short months ago and initially seemed to be doing well but over the months became more battered by this evil disease. Truth be known, we don’t know if we’re looking at days, weeks or months here – if he continues to deteriorate like he has this last week or so I’m not sure he’ll see the year out.
Is it common for cancer sufferers to rapidly go downhill like this? Is there anything we can do to help him? Do his symptoms point towards the end or could they be something else?
I feel almost in denial here. None of this has felt real since we were told on 4th July and I can’t accept we are going to lose him too soon.
He’s said the sooner he goes the better – he’s had enough. I just don’t want to see him suffering and in so much pain like this.
Thanks
Sam x
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