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I’m sorry you had to find us but this is as good a place as I know to get the help and support you need.
First and foremost get a second opinion on the surgery. Surgeons w/o CC experience almost always say a Klatskins is not resectable, but some can and will do it successfully. I’ve written this same response before. Please use the search function at the top of this page and enter ‘second opinion’. You will find help and some good advice.
Especially be aware that you don’t have to travel long distance to get feedback from some great surgeons. Get copies of your labs, scans, radiology reports and physician reports. Get on the phone to hospitals with CC experience and ask if you can send your information to see if they will consider your dad for surgery. It isn’t always possible but for those of us fortunate enough to get it surgery it provides the best hope for extended quality and quantity of life.
Someone must take the lead and manage this disease, the doctors, even the best ones, won’t do it for you.
I had successful Klatskins surgery over 4 1/2 years ago.
All the best to you, your Dad and family.
Courage!
-Peter