October 27, 2009 at 11:21 am #32306kristinMember
I am SO glad that you went to the doctor and got better pain medication for your mother. Once she is sleeping better and feeling more comfortable, her body will recover much faster. I’m sure she is starting to feel better already.
Please keep writing to tell us about her progress, and let us know if there is anything we can do to help you! She is lucky to have such a wonderful son.
Best wishes to both of you–
KristinOctober 26, 2009 at 10:19 pm #32305gavinModerator
I’m glad to hear that you were able to speak to your mums doctor and that he was able to prescribe some different pain killers. Hopefully these will work better than the last ones and help your mum some more. And if she can also get some sleep and not be in so much pain then hopefully that will also help her mood and her recovery.
Best wishes to you both.
GavinOctober 26, 2009 at 8:33 pm #32304
Thanks Katie for your words and sorry for your dad.
All you say about this site 100% agree.
CarlosOctober 26, 2009 at 7:34 pm #32303katieloumattMember
Sorry it’s a little late but welcome to the board. It looks like you have already discovered how supportive and knoweldgeable everyone on here is. People are so kind and helpful, there will always be someone to answer a question or ask advice from…..
My Dad had a failed liver resection in June 2009, he wasn’t as fortunate as your Mum, his cancer had spread so far in to his liver that it was not compatible with life and he died 9 days after surgery without ever coming round from his anaesthetic…
Wishing you and your Mum strength and good wishes as you face the journey ahead.
KatieOctober 26, 2009 at 3:40 pm #32302
I have to say you that the evolution is being positive.
I just came from the phisician.I went alone logically since my mum is not strong enough. I gave him surgeon report and explain him about pain management, pills etc…
Now he has prescribed her two kind of painkillers(every four hours) and sleep pill.He believes that the evolution will be positive in the next weeks if nothing strange happens reaching a life almost the same as before the operation.
According to him, checking surgeon report, another thing will be the dissease evolution in short time(one, two years)
Thanks for your support.
CarlosOctober 26, 2009 at 11:39 am #32301lalupesParticipant
Good luck with your mum’s continued improvement, Carlos. Tell her we’re thinking of her (& of you, too!!)October 25, 2009 at 12:36 pm #32300
Kristin, really thank you for your feedback and advices.
IOctober 25, 2009 at 11:52 am #32299kristinMember
We are so glad that you found this group! The people here are wonderful and caring, and have so much knowledge and experience.
I had a five-hour surgery for a Klatskin tumor in 2004, and it took me about six weeks to really recover completely. (I was 46 then, younger than your mother.) It’s a very serious operation, and it takes time for the body to recover and start to function again.
Your mother’s surgery was only two weeks ago, so it’s normal that she’s experiencing pain and feels weak. I agree that you really need to get stronger painkillers for her. Her body can’t heal when she’s in pain. Also, it’s really good if she can stand up and walk around just a little, as often as she can, and try to walk a little more every day. That really helped me a lot. And she should eat very small amounts (even just a few bites) many times a day.
And tell her that she WILL feel better, much sooner than she thinks. I have had four big surgeries, and the time right afterwards is always so hard because you think you will always feel like that– weak, tired, and in pain. But our bodies are amazing, and she will feel better every day.
Best wishes to you and your mother!
PS Your English is GREAT! (I’m an English teacher.)October 25, 2009 at 10:59 am #32298
Julia, Sharon thank you very much too.
it seems that she has slept a little bit better tonight. Anyway, tomorrow IOctober 24, 2009 at 11:48 pm #32297sharon_teammarianMember
Like Gavin, my mom can not have surgery. However when she was first diagnosed she experienced pancreatitis after one of her procedures. It caused extreme pain and took her several weeks in hospital to recover. She did use a sleeping pill to get through the worst days and nights.
She was very depressed when she came home for almost two weeks. I think the combination of being diagnosed with cancer, being in extreme pain for weeks and not sleeping well left her with no reserves. I am happy to say that she did turn the corner and while her prognosis is not great, she is her sweet self again.
I am sending you positive energy from Canada.
SharonOctober 24, 2009 at 8:51 pm #32296lalupesParticipant
Welcome, Carlos!! I’m sorry you have to be here but in awful times like this, this website is a very comforting place to be.
My very best wishes to you & your mum.
JuliaOctober 24, 2009 at 7:35 pm #32295
Thanks Marion for your feedback too.
IOctober 24, 2009 at 7:18 pm #32294marionsModerator
Carlos……pain is associated with recovery from a major surgery such as the one your Mom has undergone but, pain medication should be able to help ease the discomfort and allow her to sleep. I agree with Lainy and Gavin in that a physician needs to prescribe something stronger then what she is taking presently. Also, small, frequent walking around the house is really important in order to force the digestive tract to function and of keep the lungs from accumulating fluid. I am not a doctor but, I am relating back to the care my husband received following his surgery and from what others have shared on this site. Pain medications have a tendency to slow the bowel causing constipation which, in itself can cause much pain. Your Mom has had an enormous surgery and it will take some time to recover but, with adequate pain medication and her being able to have some sleep I suspect that she will feel much better soon.
Best wishes and please, say “hello” to your Mom.
MarionOctober 24, 2009 at 4:22 pm #32293lainyMember
You are so right Carlos. You have to be strong enough and know that your decision is the right one. We just heard from a friend who used the same surgeon Teddy had for his Whipple. The surgeon knew we were friends and he told them the story of when he opened Teddy up 4 years ago for the 8 hour Whipple surgery> He said he opened him, turned to his Resident physician and said, What would you do?” The resident said “I would close him up, he is 73 and will never survive this.” About 2 hours in to the surgery he again asked the Resident, “what would you do now?” The resident said I would still close him up and let him just be, what ever time he has left.” Our surgeon said, “Oh yeah? Watch me.” So much depends on the luck of the draw when it comes to any doctor. You and us have just been very lucky! I do believe if you can get that pain under control, mom will improve a bit faster.October 24, 2009 at 3:21 pm #32292
Hi Lainy and thanks for your response.
I knew from this site that the surgery is the only option of cure.
As i said above after opening, experienced surgeon was of the opinion to go on with.Then, to be honest i didn
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