Wedding ring?

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  • #66149
    dianec
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    I had my husband’s wedding ring made into a pendant which I wear always on a chain around my neck. He passed in 2008 from cholangiocarcinoma.
    Love, Diane

    #66148
    lainy
    Spectator

    Hey, Alla, one more thought on this that I forgot about. Teddy had a gold wedding band that he gave my daughter. He had wanted something in a platinum plain band. I bought him a titanium band for Christmas one year and I now wear it as a thumb ring. Perfect fit from a perfect love.

    #66147
    marylloyd
    Spectator

    Alla,
    I just resized my wedding ring. I actually lost my engagement ring years ago. I would take it off because the diamond would catch on things and then forget to put it back on. I think I swept it up in the sweeper. I have always felt bad about that. Best wishes , Mary

    #66146
    tryingtohelp
    Member

    Thank you all for good advices. Mary – did you resize just wedding ring or engagement ring as well? I’m thinking to do the same at some point…
    Thanks, Alla

    #66145
    marylloyd
    Spectator

    I had my wedding ring sized to fit on my right hand. I plan on always wearing it in memory of Tom regardless of what my future may be. I just feel wrong not wearing it. I couldn’t wait to get it back from the jewelers, I was so worried they would lose it. It’s a personal decision and there isn’t a wrong or right way of doing it. Just do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Mary

    #66144
    lainy
    Spectator

    Nancy, it is gorgeous here. In the 80’s, whichis not hot, evening gets cool now in the 60’s as the desert gets cool at night, and always sunny. You are welcome to try it out anytime!

    #66143
    nancy246
    Spectator

    Thanks Lainy. After Doug passed I had a heart pendant made in Doug’s memory that I wear everyday, so no room for the rings there right now but it is a good suggestion. Had our first snowfall tonight; if I wasn’t still working might be a snowbird. How is Arizona? :) Nancy

    #66135
    lainy
    Spectator

    Hi Nancy, so good to wake up to your posts this morning. Just a suggestions about your rings….I have seen women wearing their rings on gold or silver chains and use them as necklaces. Glad to hear you are doing OK.

    #66142
    nancy246
    Spectator

    Hi Alla, I lost my husband on Sept. 14th, 2011. In December I broke my left arm and had to remove my rings due to swelling. Months later they still would not fit on my fingers so I had them made bigger this summer because I missed them so much. My physiotherapist said my fingers would eventually go back to their original size but I gave up! Maybe one day I will switch them to my right, who knows, but then I would have to have them made bigger again! Like Darla said above just do what feels right. We’re in unchartered territory with no rules! Hugs. Nancy

    #66141
    darla
    Spectator

    Alla,

    It’s been a little over 4 years for me and I still wear mine. I agree with all the other ladies. It is a personal choice. Whatever feels right to you.

    Love & Hugs,
    Darla

    #66140
    lainy
    Spectator

    Janet, my Mom still wore hers at 90, met a man, still wore it, but they both started getting dementia and couldn’t remember who each other was! I know, bittersweet.

    #66139
    tryingtohelp
    Member

    Thank you, ladies. It definitely reassured my decision.

    #66138
    magic
    Spectator

    Alla,
    I dont wear my wedding ring now.My husband has been gone for three and a half years and I dont remember when I took it off,after a couple of years perhaps…I just felt like removing it at that point so did so. My mum at age 80 still wears all her rings and my dad has been gone for 10 years AND she has a man friend these days…..so it is very individual really.

    take care Janet

    #66137
    marions
    Moderator

    Alla….Nearly six years later, I still wear my wedding band. However, depending on my mood I may switch to my right hand. With all we have gone through, etiquette in regards to the band is the last thing on my mind. Follow your heart; it will lead you the right way.
    Hugs,
    Marion

    #66136
    lainy
    Spectator

    Hi Alla, wear your ring as long as you want, there are no rules. You will know when you are ready to change “fingers” and if you do you can always use it as a cocktail ring. If you find you don’t feel that comfortable down the road wearing it you can save it for a “daughter-in-law”. Just do what ever you feel like doing.

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