February 23, 2010 at 1:17 am #35741darlaParticipant
My husband was 62 and healthy, or so we thought. He died less Than 2 months after his first symptoms. Unfortunately, this disease sneaks up on you and is often too far advanced by the time it is diagnoised. There are many on this site with similar experiences. There are also many who are successfully fighting and doing well. CC is not fair and treats everyone differently. What works for one doesn’t for another.
I am so sorry for your loss and I truely understand what you are going through. It comes out of no where and just turns your worls up side down. Try to take comfort in the fact that your Dad is no longer suffering and is now in a better place and at peace. He will be with you forever in your heart and memories.
DarlaFebruary 23, 2010 at 12:35 am #35740jeffgriederMember
Hey Susanne… I am new to this site as well. My life partner was just diagnosed with CC earlier this month. We are told that it is not operable and not curable, but we are going to fight it with everything we have.
But the positive side to this is THIS website and the CC Foundation as a whole. Everyone here offers amazing support! I also plan to offer this Foundation my own support as well as they need all the help they can get and deserve!
My condolences of the passing of you father and welcome to this great family.February 23, 2010 at 12:22 am #35739daddysgirl-2Member
Sending you deepest sympathies on the loss of your dad. I lost my dad 18 months ago, and my mom is in the end stage of lung cancer. This site has been such a healing grace for me, and others, who have lost loved ones to CC. Please visit often, to receive the love and prayers that are offered to you. Wishing you good memories of your beloved dad, and until you are able to smile again, we walk beside you holding you up.
Peace be with you and your family,
JoleneFebruary 18, 2010 at 12:55 pm #35738cherbourgParticipant
I know how you’re feeling. I lost my Mom to CC April 3, 2009. She lived almost exactly one year after being diagnosed. I miss her so much!
I’m finding grief is hard work and has absolutely no timetable. It’s a little like being on a rollercoaster. As I approach the one year anniversary of her death, I’m having more good days with good memories than bad. However, it’s been a long road. Grief is physically, mentally and emotionally challenging.
One website that helped me was: http://www.connect.legacy.com/
I hope you will come back often. This is a wonderful group of people and as you said…we all have similar experiences.
Hugs to you and sympathy on the loss of your Dad,
PamFebruary 18, 2010 at 2:29 am #35737susanneMember
Thank you all for your kind comforting words. They are more meaningful coming from those of you you have had similar experiences. God bless.
SusanneFebruary 18, 2010 at 2:16 am #35736mlepp0416Participant
No one can really answer your question, as there is no answer. Your dad will live on in your heart and your wonderful memories that you have. Hold those near and dear to you.
So sorry for your loss. The problem with CC is that so many people are not diagnosed until it is too late. Not a lot of doctors are familiar with CC and there are many doctors who have never had a patient with CC, so when they encounter one, many don’t know how to deal with it.
My husband was one of the lucky ones who was diagnosed fairly early, was able to have a liver resection, but had a reoccurance of a non operable tumor. He is now fighting his battle all over again. No matter how much time our loved ones have, all we can do is to be there for them.
The loss of a parent is very hard, I know as I lost my dad from pancreatic cancer many years ago and lost my mother due to a massive stroke. No matter how a parent dies, it’s never easy. I have learned over time to cherish the memories I have and you will learn to do the same, but it does take time.
Prayers are coming your way from Wisconsin.
MargaretFebruary 18, 2010 at 2:03 am #35735lainyParticipant
Dearest Suzanne we are so very sorry about the passing of your dad. Daddy’s really never leave as he will always be watching over you, just from another place. I know your heart is breaking but your dad will continue to walk by your side and to love you forever.February 18, 2010 at 1:53 am #35734marionsModerator
Suzanne…I am so sorry to hear about your dear Dad’s passing. This disease has a tendency to sneak up on people without any significant symptoms leading to early diagnoses. We have seen this on this board numerous times. I know that this knowledge does not take away your pain because, really nothing does other than healing…one day at a time. I am hoping and wishing for others to share some of their thoughts with you also.
Hugs coming your way,
MarionFebruary 17, 2010 at 10:09 pm #35733gavinModerator
Welcome to the site. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dad. I lost my dad to CC in December of last year so I know the pain that you are feeling right now. I miss my dad so much and I know that you do so as well. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of him and words can’t describe how much I miss him.
My dad was diagnosed in summer 2008. He was 64 and in good general health and showed no symptoms of CC or had any pain. Then the jaundice appeared, yellowing of the eyes and the itching. He was admitted to hospital and 3 weeks or so later he was diagnosed with inoperable CC. He had PDT as his treatment in an attempt to stop the spread of the tumour. No chemo, radiation or surgery as dad was not able to do them. Like you, I was astonished about all of this. One week dad seemed okay, then a few weeks later we get this news.
I wish there was something I could say to help you Susanne, but all I can say right now is that I know how you feel. I hope that will come back here again as we know how you feel and what you are going through, and I know that you will get so much help and support from us all.
My thoughts are with you and your family,
GavinFebruary 17, 2010 at 8:39 pm #3202susanneMember
Hello. This is my first visit. I was so astonished that my Dad died one month after an MRI showed a mass on his liver. He was diagnosed with cholangiocarcinoma that spread to his liver. He became so weak so quickly. There was nothing anyone could do. I know he had been complaining for about two months of pain in his right side. He was 80 robust and full of life. We miss him terribly. If someone could shed some light on this I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you. Sincerely, Susanne.
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