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First, thank all of you for your comments and suggestions, which I am now going to discuss with Mom and my brother. I was so ashamed after I read my initial post…how did I become such an angry person? When I rethought the past 3 years and all the hospitalizations from the brain tumor alone, my brother was there with me every single day/night, attending to her personal needs even though I know he was uncomfortable. And when I brought mom to our home it was with the stipulation that he would not second guess every decision I made on her behalf. I think that he is leaving this decision about whether we come back home up to mom and myself because he knows how hard it will be on my family if I have to be there for a while. He’s always been here if I/Mom called on him.
Today the Palliative nurse came by to see mom and after seeing that she is more short on breath brought up whether she would want a code should her heart stop. She doesn’t want a code called and signed a paper to that effect. Tomorrow or the next day will try once again to discuss her wishes as to whether she wants to go home to Alabama. Just want to make sure she is for once voicing her wants/needs, not what she thinks would be best for me. She is truly the most unselfish person I’ve ever known.
Please keep us in your prayers.
My mother who survived heart tumor, (benign), pituitary tumor, (benign), which left her with diabetic insipidus has just been diagnosed in Sept. with CC (bile duct cancer) because of some tenderness in her pancreas area. Aside from some shortness of breath, some nausea and a bout of pneumonia she has had no other symptoms..because she is 85 years of age, she was not a candidate for chemo or radiation. They have just suggested we call in hospice. I am her caregiver and just wish I knew what to expect.
Trying to pack up a house to sell and wanting to spend all my time making memories with Mom.
Marcia
