Thanks to all for your helpful replies. I will try and keep up to date on the message boards. Its good to have understanding from people who are having, or have had experiences, similar experiences.
The tumors have spread to her liver and lymphnodes. My dad has begged mom to get a second opinion but to no avail. She is at peace with her decision and I am pretty sure there is no changing her mind. She just wants to enjoy the time she has left without the side effects of treatment. The oncologist did explain that they can manage any side efeects but she still refuses to even entertain the option. My concern now is respecting my moms wishes. I was able to find a good website on what to expect…sort of. I guess no two people are alike. Still looking for ways to help my dad.