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  • in reply to: Visitors #45145
    amylea
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    Andie,
    I definitely limited Mom’s visitors. I figured if people hadn’t been there to see her in the past couple of years, then hey didn’t especially need to come in the last few days/weeks of her life. It was too hard on her, and too hard on me. She wasn’t up to visiting much, so that left me to have to visit with them, and I wanted my focus to be her. This time is so precious, and your family needs to do what is best for you all.
    Big hugs to you,
    Amy

    in reply to: Hospice Here We Come #45061
    amylea
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    Lainy,

    Lots of prayers and comfort coming for you and Teddy today. You are a lovely wife.

    Amy

    in reply to: Teddy Boy —not doing well #43726
    amylea
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    Lainy, You are such and inspiration to all of us. Teddy is so lucky to have you. Sounds like you are lucky to have each other! I know that times are so difficult for you right now, but you seem so strong and have a wonderful attitude. I think of you both daily.
    Lots of love, Amy

    in reply to: My Dad passed #43899
    amylea
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    Pam, Sending lots of love and strength your way. Just yesterday I searched your name to see if there was any new news. I know how difficult things have been. Please take care of yourself. We are all here for you.

    Love, Amy

    in reply to: My Dad #42909
    amylea
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    Oh Pam,

    I know how hard this is. Sending lots of strength and love your way. We are all here for you.

    Love, Amy

    in reply to: How do you deal? #43239
    amylea
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    Kimmie,

    I could have written your post! I know the heartache that you are feeling. It is awful, isn’t it????

    My dad died in 1996, and I was amazed how many of my “friends” disappeared. I know that they had no idea how I felt, because they had never been through what I just went through, and thank goodness for them, but I needed them, and they were NOT there. Needless to say, I cut myself off from them. I was 21 when he died, and I changed. I became so guarded, and have never been the same. I let very few people into my life. Mom died Sept 2009, and I went through the same kind of thing, but this time more with my family. When Dad died, I had my Mom, this time I had NO ONE. I have a wonderful husband, who has stood by me through EVERYTHING, but that is about it.

    I wish that I could give you some helpful advice, but I don’t have any :(. I know that I hated to hear it, but time does help. It does NOT completely heal your pain, but it does help a little.

    I didn’t mean to go on and on about myself, just wanted you to know that you and I feel very much alike!

    Big hugs to you,
    Amy

    in reply to: Teddy Update #42885
    amylea
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    Lainy,
    I think about and pray for you and Teddy every day. You are such an inspiration.
    Much love,
    Amy

    in reply to: My Dad #42895
    amylea
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    Oh Pam,
    What a wonderful daughter you are. I am so sorry that you are on this difficult journey. I know how hard it is. My mom passed away last year. We are all here for you. Sending lots of hugs your way.
    Amy

    in reply to: update on my dad #42023
    amylea
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    Michelle,

    We are all thinking of and praying for you and your family. I am so sorry that you are on this difficult journey. My mom passed away last September, so I know the pain that you are going through.

    I am so sorry. Love, Amy

    amylea
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    Michael,
    I am so sorry for the pain that you are feeling. Your dad sounds like an absolutely wonderful man. You were lucky to have each other.

    My mom passed away last September. So, unfortunately I know the pain that you are feeling right now. My mom was my best friend. She lived with us, so it was hard on my 5 year old daughter also. I then had a son 2 months after she died. I too am so sad to think about how much my children will miss not having my mom here. My heart is breaking for you.

    We are all here for you on this difficult journey.

    I am so sorry,
    Amy

    in reply to: Mom’s battle is over #42004
    amylea
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    Oh Kim,

    I know that your heart is broken. I am so sorry for your pain. You are in my prayers. The last few weeks months have been such an emotional journey. We are here for you.

    Love, Amy

    in reply to: fallen and can’t get up #41331
    amylea
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    Terry,

    My mom went through some of the same situations after my dad passed away. He died in 1996, so it was before cell phones were as popular as they are now. She was so worried about what would happen if her car would break down. Now my mom is gone. I often wonder about what would I do if something happens to my husband. I have 2 children, and really have no one else. My parents and grandparents are gone. It is a frightening feeling. Life certainly changes, and it can be so difficult :(.

    Amy

    in reply to: Grieving in advance? #41078
    amylea
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    Claude,

    My mom died September 13, 2009. To be completely honest with you, I dealt with more grief before she died then after she was gone. Life as we knew it was over the day that they told us that she had cancer. The constant worries wears so much on your body and mind. Somehow we always make it through, but it is okay to be sad and angry and all of those emotions that you are feeling, this is a tough journey. We are all here for you, and understand how you feel.

    Amy

    in reply to: Regrets #41360
    amylea
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    Oh Beth,

    I am so sorry for the pain that you are going through. My mom died in September 2009. I have regrets too. I know that God has a plan for all of us, and everything happens for a reason. My grandma died a few years ago, and my grandpa had just stepped out of the room. For so long he felt bad that he wasn’t with her, but the hospice nurse told him that is how it happens so often. Our loved ones know that we are in so much pain, and them leaving while we aren’t there is one way that they can help us. She told him that they had said their good byes, and they want to be remembered by the time that they spent together, not by them taking their last breath. I can still see my mom taking her last breath, and that was so sad. I know that doesn’t make your pain go away, but I hope that it eases it in some way to know that others have felt and are feeling the same way that you are feeling. You loved your husband. You stood by him, and he knows that.
    Big hugs to you,
    Amy

    in reply to: Weekly vent…will, estate planning #41191
    amylea
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    Kimmie, My heart breaks for you. It just isn’t fair that you have one parent with cancer and another with dementia. I know that you are so sad, and I am so so so sorry. I wish that I could help more, but please know that we are here for you no matter what is going on. Of course this is the correct place to vent…. we understand. Big hugs to you. The paperwork does take a lot out of you. Somehow we make it through these things. I look at myself a year ago right now and have no idea how I did it. My mom passed away September 13th, and I was 7 months pregnant. You will someday look back at this time in your life and be amazed at the strength that you will have had. Please know that we are here for you!!!!!!
    Lainy, I am so sorry. You have so much strength, even though your heart is breaking. We are here for you also. Big hugs to you too…….

    Amy

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