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Thank you Laurie. I am so terribly sorry to hear of your loss. Did you find any peace having read and been a part of this website before your mom’s passing? What sort of things can you do to prepare, though I’ve read posts that say there is no preparation?
He is on the list for hospice, but I don’t know at what point they will bring him there. I hear hospice care really is lovely, but he is stubborn. I am assuming you have to be in pretty bad shape to get a bed, at least that is the health care system in Kingston, Ontario where he lives. Women from St. Elizabeth’s Homecare come in every day so that has been nice!
I had a quetion though: to say that the cancer has metastasized to the other lobe, does that mean his lymph nodes are infected? Would the cancer have to travel through these to mets?
Hello All!
Wow I was surprised to find a couple replies already. Thank you! Just to give you some more information, I am from the great North of y’all!! In cold Canada. So you may not know the doctors here, the specialists. My dad lives in Kingston, Ontario, Canada and is working with Dr. Biagi at the Cancer Centre there. And I from Thunder Bay, Ontario, Canada. Similar to Pam, my dad was in the hospital for a completely separate knee replacement surgery. They then noticed his white blood cell count was through the roof. They did some scans and saw a perforation in his bowel. To avoid the abscess popping they did an immediate surgery to remove the abscess that would leave him with a colostomy. They then found what looked to be a secondary liver cancer while poking away in there. But they did tests on the part of the large intestine and no cancer cells were found. Rather it was diverticulitis. Now, this was in august 2008. Then the resection was supposed to occur October 30th 2008, when they said it was inoperable. That is when they gave us 2-12 months survival expectancy. Then while in another appointment my father asked what stage? The Doctor said “it’s difficult to say. But stage 2” I thought the reason they couldn’t operate was because it was too advanced? The original team of doctors that gave us the 2-12 suggested we opt for “quality of life at this point and not do chemo or radiation because it really wouldn’t make a difference” since my dad is a “special” case. My dad, and our family are okay with this. We believe God has a plan here and He will take my dad when He chooses. All my dad wants is to start to go for regular CT scans to see how large the tumor is getting and all that. Since August the tumor has grown from 5x6cm to 10×11 and of course we know it has metastasized to the other lobe in 2-3cm pieces.I did look into some side effects, and symptoms of this. They recently put my dad on this steroid Dexamethasone, but we later found it was killing his leg that is already mangled. Also, it was making him really jittery and anxious!! Considering before the steroid he was very tired and would rest, he has now painted his entire home in a matter of a couple weeks. He won’t sit down! It’s really kind of cute and I think he has this need to keep his mind occupied and make his home pretty to live in, since this is where he wants to lay his head down.
Thank you for all the advice and support already! Blessings,
Ashlea
