becki
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You are right that we need to take care of ourselves. I have already been to the doctor as well for my migraines & then throwing up with acid reflux all due to the stress. I got the talk from my doctor that if I don’t take care of myself I won’t be able to help my mother. Way easier said then done. I do take melotonin at night to help sleep, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. My doctor suggested an anti-depressant as well.
I am having a very hard time with all this. My mom is 5 weeks post whipple surgery & still struggling. She still has the IV tube & stomach tube & can’t tolerate the stomach tube yet although they just tried to use it last night. She ended up with diarrhea & throwing up
She also starts chemo on Monday which scares me because she hasn’t fully recovered from the surgery but that is what they want to do.I wish this wasn’t happening. I hate seeing my mom go through this.
I am positive when I see her though but when I am not with her, it is hard to even get simple things done. I need to be able to cope because this is my life now.
Now I feel guilty for feeling so down & writing it on here. Just a bad day I guess.
Thanks for understanding.
BeckiThank you Sissy! I have not shared my emotions with my mom yet. She had the whipple surgery 4 weeks ago & is still recovering from this. We haven’t even spoke with an oncologist yet but I guess that is the next step. It is nice to hear from someone also who is going through this, even though I am sorry to hear that you are. I’m sure there will be lots of praying & crying with eachother in the near future. Right now I feel like we are all taking a step back & breathing deeply. Kind of like a mini break before the next step in this process.
I never thought of it as in my mom would be worried about leaving us. Thank you for sharing that. You are so right though, only God can get us through this.I’m sorry you are having to go through this too. You are so young. I know no one wants to deal with it. I will pray for your healing as well. I do hope you keep me updated.
Becki
Thanks for the warm welcome. I really did not know where to turn. My mind just started reeling from this & I did not know what is normal or not. I did read the link provided, thank-you, about depression. I saved it so I could read it again if needed. I do feel depressed but it sounds like that is normal for what I am going through with mom. My goal today is to walk. I have kind of shut down. Just having somewhere to write & have others understand helps alot.
I do need to stop looking at the statistics. I know this cancer is bad but you are so right that everyone is different. Only God knows when my mom will die & right now she is very much alive. I am going to focus on that & getting her well again.
I think the hard part too is we don’t have a plan of action after she recovers from the surgery. The surgeon states his job is to get her better after the Whipple first. He did notifiy an oncologist who stopped in to see mom but we were not there. I guess this will be the next step.
But after reading Gerry’s comment about taking one step at a time, that gives me a start. Something to focus on.
I hesitated to write for a few weeks on here. Just the fear, I don’t know but I am so glad I did. Everyone of your comments helps in some way.
Thank you so much,
Off to the hosptial again,
Becki
