beetle2001
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Oh thank you and so sorry for your loss. It’s kind of hard because Daddy and I haven’t had the closest relationship, but he’s still my Dad and over the past 5 years or so our relationship has improved which is such a good thing. He’s had some other health bouts within that time frame but this, this just seemed so … final. And no one’s life ever is forever … no one knows what is truly in the heart of another, but I do know that I love my Dad and the fact of him not being there today feels overwhelming right now. I can only imagine his fears. Earlier Margaret had mentioned a higher power and I’m grateful that I’ve developed a relationship with my own Higher Power over the past 25 or so years. I’m able to pray for acceptance today, not for anything specific except to remain humble (teachable) and watch for the lessons and blessings contained in this life chapter. Thanks again for taking time to write.
Margaret…thank you for your encouraging words. So happy Tom is still with you over a year after he was told “don’t bother treating it.” That is unbelievable! We’ll be sure to seek other opinions as we go along or at least I’ll encourage Dad to do so.
We saw Dad this weekend, and were surprised at how bad he was feeling in only a week. We did have a great visit in spite of that. All four daughters were there amongst others. He even sang some old tunes with us that I played on my guitar.
He is returning to MD Anderson this am for preliminary tests before a needle biopsy and scan to be done Tuesday. Outcome of this should determine treatment as he’s got a number of issues to triage, aneurysm, the shoulder’s deterioration from cancer, the colon involved, some things that are operable but won’t do surgery before knowing if chemo must come 1st. You probably know much more about this than I do.
Thanks again for your words of hope when I was feeling pretty, well…hopeless. More as we know, blessings to you, Tom and all else who visit here.
Thank you for the warm welcome from everyone. No matter the situation in life, it is good to know we are not alone. I am not Dad’s main caregiver, on the contrary, I live 6 hours from him. But I am happy to be involved at whatever level he and his immediate family needs me to be and I’m staying in close touch with them. I will continue to return here to see how you are all doing also.
This all began with Dad’s GP noticing his liver was “enlarged” and upon closer inspection (CAT I think) it was noticed there were spots on it and the lungs. Colonoscopy indicated a small mass, then all data and Dad were sent to M.D. Anderson in Houston for a work up. He had a sore rt shoulder and that xray indicated cancer which shocked us all. I understand his liver is 2/3rds involved, there are 2-3 tumors there. It’s already been said that this is incurable and inoperable. After reading some of the “faces of CC” here, I’m freaking out realizing how swiftly this moves when it’s metastisized (sp?). I mean, we’re not talking months and/or years, we’re talking weeks (am I reading that right?), I feel sick at my stomach even saying that. The only “hope” I can muster is that Dad doesn’t suffer and that I am able to be the best daughter I can be in his numbered days. I liked this quote from Abe Lincoln so added it to my signature…it’s all we have. Thanks for listening.
