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  • in reply to: Declining Fast #79459
    cherbourg
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    Lou,

    I lost my Mom to CC on April 3, 2009. I know how hard this part of the journey can be.

    Your Mom will be leaving an amazing legacy behind in you her beloved child. I can tell from reading your posts she was an incredible Mom and taught you well!

    I can promise you that you will find a deep strength in yourself that you never knew you were capable of during these next days. I believe it comes from God and I was amazed at how much I was able to handle.

    These are such precious moments. Drink them all in – the good and the sad.

    Please know I’m holding you, your Mom and your family tightly in my prayers.

    Hugs and many prayers…..
    Pam

    in reply to: Medical Records #77296
    cherbourg
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    I kept a notebook on my mom that accompanied me whenever we had an appointment. I had sections for lab reports, places for radiology cds, HELPFUL PEOPLE and their phone numbers and titles, anything I could think of.

    I kept a section for lists of questions that occurred to me and printouts about her physicians.

    I also kept an excel spreadsheet with all of her meds, prescription numbers, who prescribed it and how often taken. I could keep this updated and just printed it out whenever we went for an appointment. It was correct and I could just hand the nurse the sheet for her chart. It saved lots of time and effort. (Can you tell I’m in the medical field???….lol)

    in reply to: Dad #77726
    cherbourg
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    you are a wonderful legacy that he left behind….!!!!

    in reply to: First time posting #75560
    cherbourg
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    Jane,

    You might look into a protein powder we were recommended by Duke. It’s on a site called http://www.unjury.com

    I used this when I had my lapband surgery and it’s amazing. It’s medical grade, comes in numerous flavors and disolves great! One scoop had 20 grams of protein and I would mix it with the Carnation instant breakfasts.

    My favorite flavors were Chocolate supreme and vanilla.

    They have a wonderful website with lots of information and recipes.

    Give it a look. My Mom loved the smoothies I made with this and the instant breakfast.

    Hugs!
    Pam

    in reply to: PET Scan and Blood work #72980
    cherbourg
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    Lisa,

    Sending tons of good wishes! My Mom had hives numerous times and we found an over the counter lotion that was wonderful. It’s called SARNA and we purchased it at Walgreens and Walmart and the local drugstores.

    It gave my Mom lots of relief from the hives and infernal itching! Chekc it out!

    I’ve got my eyes, fingers and toes all crossed for a good result!

    Hugs!
    Pam

    in reply to: Update on Lauren #72112
    cherbourg
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    Pam,

    Sitting here at my lab with tears in my eyes for all you and your family are going through. Please know I am praying for Lauren and her medical team. I don’t think you could have a more caring medical team. Please take care of yourself and try and get some rest and try to eat well. Lauren will need you and your strength when she gets past this medical intervention.

    Sending hugs and tons of prayers for you and your baby girl.

    Hugs!
    Pam

    in reply to: Lauren’s Surgery #70259
    cherbourg
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    Sitting here at work with eyes, fingers and toes all crossed for a successfull surgery! Take care of yourself (gotta remember the caregiver!!)….

    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Hugs to all of you}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

    Sending prayers, hugs and love!
    Pam

    in reply to: Hobbies to keep mind off nausea? #70299
    cherbourg
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    I love books on tape and listen to them in the car and when I’m in my lab sitting at my microscope! I put audio books on my iphone, ipad and ipod.
    Our library has tons of books on CD and tapes and they are free to check out. I love being read to!!

    Sending hugs and prayers that things get better and easier to deal with!!

    Hugs!
    Pam

    in reply to: Time is Precious #69278
    cherbourg
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    Dear Clare,

    If your sister is up to reading, there are numerous books that can record the voice of the person reading it.

    I would give anything to hear my Mom’s voice again…..

    Hugs and prayers to you as you begin this difficult part of the journey….

    Pam

    in reply to: one year ago today Mom passed #69111
    cherbourg
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    Sharonlee,

    So sorry for your loss and I can’t believe it’s been a year already. I don’t think we ever get over losing a parent. In April it will be four years since I lost my Mom to CC.

    Your love for your Mom shines through and the fact you were still consoling others tells me her “apple” didn’t fall far from the tree!

    Hugs to you as you continue on this next part of the journey….

    Hugs!
    Pam

    in reply to: 2-13-13 #69071
    cherbourg
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    Dear Suzy,

    What a loving tribute to an amazing man, husband, father and grandfather. You will be an amazing legacy he leaves behind.

    It’s so hard to lose a parent. I lost my Mom to this monster April 3, 2009. Be kind and gentle to yourself as you begin the grieving process. It’s the hardest job we ever have and no two people will grieve in the same timeframe or manner.

    Come back here often as you continue on this part of the journey. We are all here for you and somebody is ALWAYS awake on here!

    Hugs and prayers to you and all of your family,

    Pam

    in reply to: Endgame #69030
    cherbourg
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    Dear Marcos,

    Thank you for letting us know of your Mom’s fight with this monster of a disease. I lost my Mom to CC on April 3, 2009. Her fight lasted almost exactly one year from diagnosis, so I know the pain of losing a Mom.

    In the coming days take care of yourself and give yourself time and permission to grieve. Grieving is the hardest job I think we ever have. No two people will grieve in the same way or timeframe. Be gentle with yourself….you are an amazing legacy that your Mom leaves behind.

    Come here often. Someone is always awake here and we know how hard this fight can be.

    Hugs and prayers to you and your family,

    Pam

    in reply to: Lauren is finally getting what we have hoped and prayed for. #68825
    cherbourg
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    Pam and Lauren!

    I’m always humbled when God answers my specific prayers! I’ve prayed so much for Lauren to get this opportunity!

    I can’t tell you how happy this makes me! What a blessing!

    I follow your blog and the computer gods were mad at me today and wouldn’t let me post on your blog so I’m posting here!

    This great news really made my day! I’m so thrilled for all of you!

    Keep us in the loop and know you have MANY PRAYERS going up for all of you!

    Hugs!

    Pam

    in reply to: I miss you, Mom! #68623
    cherbourg
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    Dear Danni,

    I know how hard it is to lose a Mom. I lost my Mom to this monster of a disease April 3, 2009.

    The pain is awful to bear and will come at you at unexpected moments. I can still be reduced to tears just passing someone wearing my Mom’s perfume.

    I can promise you at some point the good memories will start to overtake the bad and it WILL get easier but I can’t tell you when. Everyone grieves in their own way and in their own timeframe. Grieving is the hardest job you will ever tackle but you must find your way through it for that is what your Mom would want for you.

    Take your time and grieve. Remember if you had not loved so much and so deeply this would not be as hard. Come here often….believe me someone is ALWAYS up and awake on here. We truly understand and have been and still are there.

    Be kind and gentle to yourself. Surround yourself with those that really care…unfortunately you may find yourself surprised at who these people turn out to be. My “best friend” once told me to just “get over” it. That all of my tears would never bring my Mom back. It was my Southern Upbringing and fear of prison that kept me from acting out what I truly wanted to do……

    We are all here for you and we understand. Start looking for your “pennies from heaven”….( you can search my posts for the story)

    Hugs and prayers… You are a wonderful legacy that your Mom leaves behind….

    Hugs!

    Pam

    in reply to: I’m still hurting #68536
    cherbourg
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    Orly,

    You sound perfectly normal to me….just grieving the greatest loss of your life. I too am a great believer in listening to my gut and am stubborn enough to usually follow through…lol

    The following is something I wrote about ‘Pennnies from Heaven” Maybe it will help you a little…..

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    Here is a post I wrote about “pennies from heaven” about a few years ago…..


    “All of my life my Mom and Grandmothers told me about pennies from heaven. Every time we would find a penny Mom would say it was a message from heaven. We would speculate about which of our loved ones might have sent it.

    I’ve found numerous pennies since Mom died. I know it may be silly, but each seemed like an affirmation that she was looking out for me or just sending “an I love you” message.

    On Saturday we were at my daughter’s house at Camp LeJeune (the Marine base in North Carolina.) My son-in-law is gone for 6 weeks for Movaje Desert Training at 29 Palms in California. We were hanging out with my daughter’s two bulldogs so she could attend a sorority alumni function in Greenville.

    As you may remember when my Mom got sick, we moved my daughter’s wedding up so her grandmother would be there. They were extra close to each other since Liz is the only granddaughter out of 4 grandchildren (and was my Mom’s last chance of having a granddaughter).

    As you’ve probably heard by now North Carolina was rocked by tornados on Saturday. As we were leaving Liz’s house to travel back to New Bern before the storms hit we were helping her put up the yard furniture and grill. She had already gotten her flashlights ready and put a blanket and pillow and dog leashes in the downstairs bathroom. Just as we got in the car I told my husband we needed to move some large flower pots on the front porch close to the side of the door. He moved the first pot and then was called by Liz. As I bent to move the second pot I found a penny. I picked it up and told Liz not to worry her grandmother would be looking our for her and the bullies.

    That night an EF-3 tornado torn through the military housing complex of Terrawa Terrace. 12 homes are completely destroyed, another 40-60 are structurally unsafe and another 40-60 have mild to moderate damage. Only one serious injury, a 23 month old that is in critical condition.

    It appears the tornado jumped across Liz’ house and there is only mild to moderate damage to her house and car. I was on the phone with her and it was a scary time. Houses in front and behind her had significant damage.

    She and the bulldogs are staying with us until the power is restored. I thank God she was safe and knew what to do!

    And the penny?…….is now with my daughter….who carries it with her everywhere….
    I smile now as I come across my “Pennies from Heaven” and keep all of them in a jar on my desk.

    You’ll find your pathway and if you are kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve, you’ll be OK. I’ve learned lessons and believe I’m kinder and more compassionate. I think I value the small things more. Remember…..if you had not loved so much you wouldn’t be grieving so hard…. Personally the love was well worth the grief…..

    We’re all here for you….take care!

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