claude1

Hey Annette,

I am so sorry to hear that your Dad is no longer with us. June is only a little time ago, although I would never presume to tell you ‘how to’ grieve, it sounds as though the grief you feel is natural and normal. My Dad also has a terminal CC – we are very close too, and I think this experience has made me realise how lucky and unusual it is to have such a close father/ daughter bond. That’s what I try to focus on when I feel sadness and fear about the future, but I’m sure that like you I will feel totally blindsided when the time comes for him to pass on. I think some people are scared of seeing people grieve and be sad, perhaps your friends are trying to offer you advice because they’re not sure what else to do and they feel helpless? Perhaps you could try telling them that you need them to listen and support rather than tell you how you ought to be feeling? Otherwise keep posting on here, it makes such a difference to be able to talk honestly and openly with other people going through the same stuff. I’ll be thinking of you, and hoping that things are getting slowly easier for you now. The death of someone as beloved as your Daddy will take time to process, it must be so dark and difficult for you right now, but I wish you all the best and lots of strength to get through this. xx