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SpectatorHi Everybody,
I have to agree with everyone that it is hard to believe we are facing another holiday season and that our husbands will never share these events with us again. I too just try not to think about it and just take it one day at a time.
Janet, your plans for Christmas sound great. It does take the pressure off some. I am glad your sister will be coming for a visit. I hope she is doing OK.
Joyce, I’m with you on digging in for the winter! It has been nice, but we knew it was coming. Atleast you seem to be doing a good job of keeping yourself busy.
Thanksgiving was OK, but it just will never be the same, will it? Sure we have family to share it with, but the bottom line is we go home alone, not with our husbands as in the past. It is still so sad & lonely.
Pauline, Your trip with the family to Lillie sounds like it was enjoyable. I am like you when I go any where, thinking how Jim would have enjoyed being there with us. I too find it hard to believe that he will never be here again and that this is my life from here on in. It is easier not to think about it as it is frightening & depressing.
Oh well, it won’t be long and Christmas will be over & we move on to another year. We have made it this far and I am sure we will all carry on, but it sure isn’t getting any easier, is it? I too am greatful to have all of you to share all of this with. It does help to have friends who truely understand.
Take care my friends and keep in touch.
Love & Hugs To All,
Darladarla
SpectatorDear Kristi,
I am so sorry you lost her so quickly. You have my deepest sympathy and understanding. Things happened in a similar way for my husband. Things just are never what they seem with this awful type of cancer. Some do much better than expected and others are lost so quickly. It seems like we didn’t even have a chance to understand and accept what was happening and they were gone. She was too young and had so much to live for with her three wonderful children. Try to take some comfort in the fact that atleast she is no longer suffering or in pain. She is in a better place and will always be with all of you in your heart and memories. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and the rest of the family.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorThanks for posting this Tess. Please add my condolences to those being passed on to Emmanuel and the family. Darla
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SpectatorAshley,
What good news. Hoping for a quick, easy recovery for your Mom and brother.
Love,
Darladarla
SpectatorKristi,
Wishing for strength, hope & peace for you, your sister & your family.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorGavin,
You seem to be doing a good job and with all the good advice from Marion, I am sure you will keep on top of things. As for you, I have to agree, you need to take time for you and take care of yourself too.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorThanks Sara, Losing anyone to this horrid disease is bad, but someone so young, it is so unfair. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family.
Darladarla
SpectatorHi Jelly,
Welcome. I am glad you found this site but sorry for what has brought you here. There isn’t much that is typical about this horrible type of cancer and it affects everyone differently. Other than that your Mom was 20 years younger than my husband and had an even shorter amount of time with it, the rest of your story is much the same as ours. He was 62 and died less than 2 months after the first signs that anything at all was wrong and 1 week after diagnosis. He too was very healthy up until then, however, this cancer seems to be slow growing and can be there for a very long time before it is found. It seems to become very aggressive those last few weeks. I too was very angry, but console myself with the fact that atleast he lived a normal life & only suffered for a short time. It is much harder for those of us that are left behind. By the time you know what is going on it is over & you really don’t have time to adjust. It has been over a year for me & I still miss him so much. I know exactly how you are feeling and am so sorry you lost your Mom and have to go through this journey of grieving. Come back here often. Read, ask questions or just rant & rave if this is what you need. Everyone here knows and understands and are happy to help and support each other. Again, you have my sympathy and understand. Know that here you are not alone. Take care and know that I am thinking of you and hoping you are doing OK.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorKristi,
I am so sorry you need to be here, but glad that you have found this site. The help & support here is phenominal. As you have probably already learned, this horrible cancer seems to treat everyone differently. No rhyme or reason to it. Know that we are all here for you when you feel the need to talk, rant, ask questions or what ever. I’m hoping for the best for your sister, you & your family. I will keep you all in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & hugs to all.
Darladarla
SpectatorGavin,
Glad to hear Dad is doing a bit better today. Hoping for more good days to follow.
Darladarla
SpectatorDear Gavin,
You are definately on the right track and seem to already have gotten a lot of good information. The things you posted about the system there may also be of help to others in similar situations.
You are a wonderful, caring & supportive son. I agree that it is better to discuss the options and make decisions now while you have the luxury of thinking about and discussing options. In our case things went so swiftly we didn’t have a chance to think or talk about much of anything and yes, it was very stressful and you feel so helpless and out of control. I know that you will be able to make the right decisions and the important thing is to consider what your Dad wants and is in his best interests. Take care Gavin.
Love & hugs to all of you.
Darladarla
SpectatorJNorm, Thank you for a wonderful encouraging post especially at this time of year. My best to both of you. Happy Thanksgiving. Darla
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SpectatorGavin,
I can’t be of much help on hospice care as my husband passed away the day we planned to take him home with hospice care. I am also thinking that it may be handled differently in Scotland than it is here in the states. However, I think you are right that it needs to be discussed and checked into. Hopefully your Mum will come around and see that these issues need to be addressed.
I’m hoping some of the others will have some answers and help for you. Good luck to you as you travel on this journey and try to also take care of yourself.
Darla
November 23, 2009 at 11:05 pm in reply to: identical twin_age 41- successful whipple surgery at DUKE #30813darla
SpectatorHeather,
I am sorry to hear that Kathy now has mets to her liver. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Keep us updated as to how she is doing when you can.
Love & Hugs,
Darladarla
SpectatorGavin,
I have been following your posts and am so sorry things are not going well for your Dad and just wanted to let you know I am thinking of him. This disease is so hard on everyone that is forced to face it, patients, family & caregivers alike. Take care & keep posting your updates.
Darla
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