darla

Hi Everybody,

I have to agree with everyone that it is hard to believe we are facing another holiday season and that our husbands will never share these events with us again. I too just try not to think about it and just take it one day at a time.

Janet, your plans for Christmas sound great. It does take the pressure off some. I am glad your sister will be coming for a visit. I hope she is doing OK.

Joyce, I’m with you on digging in for the winter! It has been nice, but we knew it was coming. Atleast you seem to be doing a good job of keeping yourself busy.

Thanksgiving was OK, but it just will never be the same, will it? Sure we have family to share it with, but the bottom line is we go home alone, not with our husbands as in the past. It is still so sad & lonely.

Pauline, Your trip with the family to Lillie sounds like it was enjoyable. I am like you when I go any where, thinking how Jim would have enjoyed being there with us. I too find it hard to believe that he will never be here again and that this is my life from here on in. It is easier not to think about it as it is frightening & depressing.

Oh well, it won’t be long and Christmas will be over & we move on to another year. We have made it this far and I am sure we will all carry on, but it sure isn’t getting any easier, is it? I too am greatful to have all of you to share all of this with. It does help to have friends who truely understand.

Take care my friends and keep in touch.

Love & Hugs To All,
Darla

Thanks for posting this Tess. Please add my condolences to those being passed on to Emmanuel and the family. Darla

Kristi,

Wishing for strength, hope & peace for you, your sister & your family.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Thanks Sara, Losing anyone to this horrid disease is bad, but someone so young, it is so unfair. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family.
Darla

Kristi,

I am so sorry you need to be here, but glad that you have found this site. The help & support here is phenominal. As you have probably already learned, this horrible cancer seems to treat everyone differently. No rhyme or reason to it. Know that we are all here for you when you feel the need to talk, rant, ask questions or what ever. I’m hoping for the best for your sister, you & your family. I will keep you all in my thoughts & prayers.

Love & hugs to all.
Darla

Dear Gavin,

You are definately on the right track and seem to already have gotten a lot of good information. The things you posted about the system there may also be of help to others in similar situations.

You are a wonderful, caring & supportive son. I agree that it is better to discuss the options and make decisions now while you have the luxury of thinking about and discussing options. In our case things went so swiftly we didn’t have a chance to think or talk about much of anything and yes, it was very stressful and you feel so helpless and out of control. I know that you will be able to make the right decisions and the important thing is to consider what your Dad wants and is in his best interests. Take care Gavin.

Love & hugs to all of you.
Darla

Gavin,

I can’t be of much help on hospice care as my husband passed away the day we planned to take him home with hospice care. I am also thinking that it may be handled differently in Scotland than it is here in the states. However, I think you are right that it needs to be discussed and checked into. Hopefully your Mum will come around and see that these issues need to be addressed.

I’m hoping some of the others will have some answers and help for you. Good luck to you as you travel on this journey and try to also take care of yourself.

Darla

Gavin,

I have been following your posts and am so sorry things are not going well for your Dad and just wanted to let you know I am thinking of him. This disease is so hard on everyone that is forced to face it, patients, family & caregivers alike. Take care & keep posting your updates.

Darla